In this episode of Discover Lafayette, we are honored to welcome Father Howard Blessing, a retired Catholic priest in the Diocese of Lafayette. Ordained in 1976 at the age of 25, Father Blessing has dedicated his life to serving others through his pastoral work at various parishes, including Saint Patrick Catholic Church, Holy Cross, Fatima, Sacred Heart of Ville Platte, and as chaplain at Our Lady of Lourdes. Today, he continues his ministry with Kent Zerangue through Food for Love, a mission providing meals to hospice patients and their families. Beyond his priestly duties, Father Blessing has a fascinating backstory—including winning a Dancing with the Stars competition at the Academy of the Sacred Heart with his friend Angie Davis! However, what truly defines him is his unwavering compassion and deep spiritual wisdom, which he shares in this moving conversation. Key Topics Discussed: The Calling to Priesthood: Growing up as one of seven children, Father Blessing did not consider becoming a priest until college. His journey has been one of continuous learning, as he believes that every person he encounters teaches him something valuable about life and faith. The Power of Listening: Through his work with parishioners and those in recovery, Father Blessing has learned that true ministry is about being present, listening without judgment, and validating people’s experiences rather than dictating solutions. The Journey from Woundedness to Wholeness: As a recovering alcoholic, Father Blessing speaks candidly about self-worth, healing, and forgiveness. He emphasizes that behavior does not define a person—everyone is inherently valuable and worthy of love. Forgiveness as a Spiritual Practice: Father Blessing shares how forgiveness is central to his faith and personal journey. He explains that it is an act of will that unblocks the spiritual path, allowing grace and love to flow freely. Recognizing Our Own Worth: Inspired by Gandhi’s wisdom, he discusses the importance of self-love and acceptance. The greatest invention, he believes, is the mirror—because the person looking back simply wants to be loved. Marriage and Relationships: Having counseled many couples, Father Blessing offers insights into the challenges of marriage. He stresses that true partnership is about growth, patience, and understanding, rather than relying on another person for happiness. The Art of Silence and Reflection: In a fast-paced, noisy world, Father Blessing advocates for stillness and deep introspection. He believes that in silence, we hear God’s voice and discover our true selves. Wisdom from Hospice Patients: Through his work with Food for Love, he has encountered individuals at the end of life who have found peace, letting go of fear and embracing the journey ahead. Their reflections have profoundly impacted his understanding of life and death. Living with Purpose: Father Blessing humorously notes that when he retired, he told people, “If my garage door is open, I’m open.” He continues to be available to those in need, emphasizing that life’s journey is about embracing transformation and being open to growth. Faith, Identity, and Love: He reminds us that we are not defined by our careers or achievements but by who we are as children of God. True fulfillment comes from embracing our divine essence and loving others unconditionally. Memorable Quotes: “The greatest invention in the world is the mirror, because the person looking back at you just wants to be loved.” “Forgiveness unclogs the arteries of our spiritual lives and allows grace to flow through us.” “We are called to listen and walk with people, not to tell them what to do.” “God is the potter, we are the clay. Life is about allowing ourselves to be shaped and molded.” “Love is the remedy. And sometimes, with gritted teeth, you just do.”
