Dan McCoy understood better his mood swings, fear of rejection, and hyperfocus when he was diagnosed with ADHD last year. He got an ADHD evaluation after reading an article his brother wrote about being on the autism spectrum.

Dan is a comedy writer who’s won two Emmy awards for his work on The Daily Show with Jon Stewart. He also co-hosts the movie podcast, The Flop House. Dan explains how comedy writing can be exposure therapy for rejection, and how he’s coping with managing emotions.

Related resources

• ADHD and rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD)
• ADHD and mood swings
• Dan’s podcast, The Flop House

Timestamps

(01:24) Dan’s recent ADHD diagnosis

(03:55) Recognizing emotions and burnout from masking

(06:40) The “Boom Bust” ADHD energy cycle

(08:05) Would it have been helpful to have an ADHD diagnosis as a child?

(11:26) Rejection sensitivity and comedy writing

(15:32) Does ADHD make you funny?

(19:34) Are people considerate of ADHD characteristics?

(22:34) What is Dan working on?

For a transcript and more resources, visit the ADHD Aha! page on Understood

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ADHD affects our whole life — even our sex life. Our friend Cate Osborn, who has a background in sex education, is back to chat with host Laura Key about executive function challenges that may pop up in the bedroom. Cate and Laura dive into topics like ADHD and consent, working memory, and rejection sensitivity.

Cate hosts another Understood.org podcast, Sorry, I Missed This, a show about ADHD, intimacy, and communication. Check it out for some deeper dives into this episode’s topics!

Note: This episode contains conversation about sexual assault.

Related resources

Rainn.org

Hear Cate’s personal story: ADHD and hormones (Cate Osborn’s story)

Cate’s podcast, Sorry, I Missed This!

Timestamps

(02:34) Why it’s called “Sorry, I Missed This”

(6:50) Executive function impact on relationships

(10:04) “Sex is a task”

(12:20)Task initiation impact on relationships

(14:07) Communication, working memory, and consent

(16:31) Time perception, impulsiveness, and dating

(20:46) “It’s not your fault”

(23:19) How to approach consent as a person with ADHD

(27:33) Cate’s own journey with ADHD and sexuality

(30:09) How rejection sensitivity complicates consent

(33:32) Cate’s email

For a transcript and more resources, visit the ADHD Aha! page on Understood.

Want to share your “aha” moment? We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at ADHDAha@understood.org.

Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

At 14, Zoe Plotnick told her mom, “My brain’s broken.” Zoe wanted an ADHD evaluation, but her mom discouraged it, pointing to Zoe’s good grades. Zoe was eventually diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. She also learned that her mom was hiding her own ADHD all along.

Now Zoe, who’s a teacher, is unpacking the ADHD stigma that her family has carried for generations. And she’s advocating for her daughter who, in a twist of fate, was diagnosed with ADHD at age 14 — the same age Zoe was when she tried to get evaluated the first time.

Related resources

• Is ADHD hereditary?
• Masking my ADHD at work was exhausting, so I stopped
• How do I emotionally prepare for ADHD diagnosis?

Timestamps

((01:10) Zoe’s pandemic “aha” moment

(03:23) Pushing for an ADHD diagnosis as an adult

(05:22) Growing up with undiagnosed ADHD

(09:17) Asking for help when Zoe was 14

(12:32) Generational ADHD shame and masking

For a transcript and more resources, visit the ADHD Aha! page on Understood.org

Want to share your “aha” moment? We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at ADHDAha@understood.org.

Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give