How is it already 2026? The start of a new year is an opportunity to look back and reflect on the experiences we've been through and what they've taught us.

But the new year isn’t just about looking back; it's also a chance to look forward and spend some time imagining what could be.

It’s easy to feel stuck in the present and think that things might never change or improve.

It's like trudging down a bumpy street, head down, wary of every crack and pothole, constantly focused on avoiding obstacles. While it’s wise to be cautious, sometimes we focus so much on the rough patches that we forget to lift our eyes and appreciate the beauty around us.

As we welcome this new year, we invite you to take a moment to look up from the challenges of your life and marriage. Let yourself imagine what kind of life you want to live and the spouse you want to become. Think about the possibilities waiting for you on the other side of grief, loss, pain, and struggle.

Today we’re taking a quick look back at our 2025 with you, and sharing some exciting things we have planned for this year.

Happy New Year!

Johnny and Emily

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Episode 34. New Beginnings for Marriages in the New Year After Sexual Betrayal

Episode 86. Recovering From Porn-Fueled Infidelity: Obstacles We Encountered This Year

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We hope you were able to find some special moments this Christmas even if you are walking through the pain of sexual betrayal. You may be really glad that this year is ending, but not sure next year will be any better.

We’re just dropping in for a quick message of encouragement today and give you some hope and direction for this coming year.

We are sharing an inspiring and meaningful message from Sarah Young the author of Jesus Calling. It was impactful to us, and we hope it will be for you as well.

Happy New Year!

Johnny and Emily

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RESOURCES:

Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com

Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

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Episode 34. New Beginnings for Marriages in the New Year After Sexual Betrayal

Episode 86. Recovering From Porn-Fueled Infidelity: Obstacles We Encountered This Year

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As a wife, you may be reeling from the news of sexual betrayal and you are in shock, grieving, and lost.

Or as a husband, your infidelity may have recently been discovered and the shame is suffocating and you feel like you are going to lose your wife and everyone who truly matters to you.

And you may be saying to yourself, “I am alone and I have no hope”.

Our mission here at Beyond Broken Vows is to tell our story of how sexual sin destroyed our marriage, but that through the power of Jesus Christ, we have been redeemed. He has healed us and has given us a brand-new marriage full of hope, peace, joy, and love. Because of what he has done for us, we can assure you that you are not alone and there absolutely is hope.

We are going to take you on a trip through scripture today and show you how great God’s love is for you. He knew what was coming into your life and he made a way for you, and all of us, on this journey from brokenness to wholeness. Because of the arrival of Christ Jesus into our world, we truly are not alone and there is hope.

Merry Christmas!

Johnny and Emily

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RESOURCES:

Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com

Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

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Episode 33. The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption

Episode 85. A Christmas Message of Hope for Couples After Infidelity

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True healing from sexual sin and betrayal is a journey that goes beyond just stopping certain behaviors; it demands a fundamental transformation of the heart.

For husbands, the journey to rebuild trust and find healing can be challenging, filled with obstacles that can slow down progress and unintentionally cause more conflict. Often we can get in our own way without realizing it.

In this episode, we'll identify six spiritual and emotional traps—common for husbands trying to recover from sexual integrity issues and help their wives heal. We’ll confront these patterns with biblical truth and provide a clear path toward genuine repentance, accountability, and lasting freedom.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com

Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

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RELATED EPISODES:

Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal

Episode 135. Stuck in the Wound: 4 Traps Wives Often Fall Into That Hinder Healing From Sexual Betrayal

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When a wife discovers her husband’s sexual betrayal, her world shatters. The path to healing is difficult enough without unknowingly creating additional roadblocks.

In this episode, we explore 4 common but counterproductive patterns that keep Christian wives stuck in their pain.

We’ll identify these self-sabotaging behaviors, uncover the biblical truths that dismantle them, and provide practical steps to help you start moving forward on your healing journey, regardless of your husband’s choices.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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RESOURCES:

Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com

Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

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RELATED EPISODES:

Episode 61. Is Joy Possible After Sexual Betrayal?

Episode 116. From Shattered Vows to Sacred Surrender: The Counterintuitive Path to Healing

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After the discovery and disclosure of sexual betrayal in a marriage, couples who choose to stay married and embrace the healing and recovery journey, will eventually need to address their sexuality again.

This will look different for every couple, but the ultimate goal is to have a healthier sexual intimacy than before the destruction of porn-fueled infidelity came to light.

We have been working on this part of our marriage relationship for almost 7 years now and almost one year ago Emily gave me what I call the Golden Ticket. This was her declaration that she would be sexually available to me whenever I initiated it.

That scared me to death and helped me to realize that this was a huge responsibility and that I needed to approach it with care. This helped me to create the 4 steps to healthy sexuality for husbands that we are covering today.

Join us for a very candid conversation about sexuality after porn-fueled infidelity today.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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RESOURCES:

Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com

Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

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RELATED EPISODES:

Episode 48. Closing the Gap - 3 Steps to Sexual Intimacy

Episode 94. From “Oh, Hell No!” to "The Golden Ticket" - 4 Phases of Sexuality in Recovery from Adultery

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We understand you may be in the middle of the fall-out from sexual betrayal in your marriage. Maybe you just found out, or you have been found out. Maybe you’ve been walking this path for a while and still feel like you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel.

As the holiday season approaches, this unwanted and extremely painful circumstance can destroy all the anticipation of spending special time with family and friends. This week we will celebrate Thanksgiving Day, but it can seem like there is nothing to be thankful for in this dark winter of our souls.

We want to encourage you with this, while we aren’t grateful for the betrayal itself, we can be grateful that God doesn’t waste our suffering. The pain of infidelity can become the very thing that drives us deeper into dependency on Christ.

Grab a comforting beverage and listen in for some hope in this challenging time as we give you 6 reasons to be thankful, even while on this messy journey of recovery from infidelity.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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RESOURCES:

Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com

Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

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Episode 28. Giving Thanks In Your Broken Marriage Through Gratitude

Episode 81. Giving Thanks In The Aftermath of Porn-Fueled Infidelity

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The aftermath of sexual betrayal is a complete upheaval of a marriage’s foundation. It doesn’t just damage trust—it systematically dismantles it, leaving a wife questioning her entire reality. The world she knew is gone, replaced by a landscape of pain, confusion, and profound uncertainty.

For husbands who have broken our marriage vows, this new reality teaches us a critical truth: trust is not a default setting. It's more like a delicate structure that must be painstakingly rebuilt, day by day, through deliberate and verifiable action. By committing to clear and honest actions, we can begin to mend our own broken integrity.

More importantly, it lays down a new, solid groundwork, giving our wives something tangible to base or even contemplate trusting us again.

We are finishing up our series today, so if you haven't listened to the previous episodes, we recommend going back to the beginning of this series with episode 127 to get the full context.

Today we’re going to unpack the last three markers that can give a recovering husband actionable steps toward trustworthiness and give his wife a clearer picture of what a trustworthy man looks like.

1. A trustworthy husband is a man of integrity
2. A trustworthy husband has and works a recovery plan
3. A trustworthy husband is a servant leader

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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RESOURCES:

Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com

Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

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RELATED EPISODES:

Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity

Episode 130. 12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Markers 7, 8, and 9)

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