Erika and Jordan Koop are back with the Connection Codes team to discuss creating meaningful connections within relationships and communities. From their initial struggles with applying Connection Codes to their eventual success in fostering a culture of emotional fluency in their northern Canadian community, their story gives you a look into both the challenges and rewards of building relational resilience. The conversation goes into the impact of vulnerability, the reality of conflict in close relationships, and steps for bringing transformative tools to others. The Koops show how connection can thrive even in the midst of personal and communal challenges.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠⁠

Connect with The Koops:

Erika and Jordan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/questforthecore

Chapters

• 00:00:00 – The Start of a Connection Revolution
• 00:00:29 – Meet Jordan and Erica Koop
• 00:01:27 – A Message from Northern Canada
• 00:03:42 – The Koops’ Path to Connection Mastery
• 00:05:35 – Overcoming Barriers to Build Community
• 00:06:14 – The Key to Group Dynamics Success
• 00:09:01 – Profound Impacts of Connection Codes
• 00:16:10 – Personal Growth Through Emotional Challenges
• 00:27:17 – Navigating Shame and Fear in Relationships
• 00:28:30 – Exploring Emotional Cycles and the Pit of Despair
• 00:29:47 – Why Real-Time Emotional Processing Matters
• 00:31:23 – The Blueprint for a Supportive Community
• 00:34:33 – Vulnerability’s Role in Deepening Relationships
• 00:38:57 – Steps to Foster a Culture of Vulnerability
• 00:40:55 – Tangible Stories of Vulnerability at Work
• 00:45:12 – Empowering Community Builders with Resources
• 00:50:31 – Wrapping Up with Encouragement

Tera Wages and Echo Vetter Hill are discussing the realities of emotional awareness, exploring how emotions show up in our bodies and what they’re really telling us. They talk about the link between sensations and feelings, the purpose behind emotions like anger and sadness, and why we often resist our own needs. Together, they look at how facing pain can lead to real growth and how connecting with our emotions can transform relationships and self-understanding. Tera also guides you through the Core Emotion Wheel, giving you a look at a tool for identifying and processing what’s going on beneath the surface.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠ ⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠

Connect with Echo Hill Vetter:

Echo Hill Vetter’s Substack | Letters from Nashville: ⁠https://substack.com/@echohillvetter⁠

Echo on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetter⁠

Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: ⁠https://calendly.com/echohillvetter⁠

Echo’s LinkTree: ⁠https://linktr.ee/echohillvetter

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 — Start of the journey with Connection Codes
• 00:00:35 — Discovering needs with Echo Vetter Hill
• 00:02:42 — Emotions decoded: What do they do?
• 00:07:16 — Sensations and self-awareness
• 00:13:02 — Emotions stored in the body
• 00:19:14 — Differentiating acute and chronic emotional pain
• 00:27:40 — The surprising strength of anger
• 00:35:52 — Building connection: The real practice
• 00:36:35 — Embracing vulnerability with emotion
• 00:38:30 — Recognizing and managing hurt
• 00:38:51 — Weighing pain against growth
• 00:44:38 — Facing sadness and navigating loss
• 00:47:59 — Loneliness exposed and finding support
• 00:55:19 — Guilt, shame, and rewriting our actions
• 00:59:55 — Unlocking the Core Emotion Wheel
• 01:06:45 — Final reflections and encouragement

Tera welcomes the co-creator of Connection Codes, Echo Hill Vetter. She’s a trauma informed coach as well as a parenting and lead coach. Today they’re discussing the power of beliefs and how they shape our identities, often keeping us in what Echo calls a "tiny little box." As they talk about the emotional weight of Election Day, they explore why differing perspectives can feel threatening and how fear plays a central role in our reactions. Tera and Echo discuss the impact of generational experiences and challenge you to approach differing beliefs with curiosity rather than judgment. Tera shares her own journey toward openness, encouraging you to stay connected to yourself and others, even when it feels uncomfortable.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Connect with Echo Hill Vetter:

Echo Hill Vetter’s Substack | Letters from Nashville: https://substack.com/@echohillvetter

Echo on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetter

Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: https://calendly.com/echohillvetter

Echo’s LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/echohillvetter

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Election Day Reflections and Emotional Intensity
• 00:01:58 - Exploring How Beliefs Shape Identity
• 00:03:22 - The Role of Fear in Feeling Safe
• 00:04:43 - When Beliefs No Longer Fit
• 00:08:19 - Echo’s Personal Journey with Shifting Beliefs
• 00:10:13 - Finding Connection through Curiosity
• 00:14:58 - Using Emotional Awareness to Bridge Differences
• 00:20:33 - Discovering Common Ground Through Shared Fears
• 00:27:15 - Core Emotion Wheel: A Tool for Connection
• 00:30:47 - Final Reflections on Staying Connected