In this morning’s class, Rabbi Yisroel Bernath dove into one of the strangest, most beautiful marriage scenes in the entire Torah, Yitzchak and Rivkah caught “jesting” behind a window.

Why does the Torah use a word for laughter to describe intimacy? Why is the first Jew born into the covenant literally named “He Will Laugh”? And why does Rivkah’s name hint to a yoke of oxen, two forces pulling together toward transformation?

Using Rashi, Midrash, Zohar, and the Alter Rebbe’s revolutionary maamar from 5569, we uncovered a powerful Chassidic idea: Laughter is born from contradiction. From the unexpected. From two worlds that shouldn’t fitand yet somehow do. That’s the secret of Yitzchak and Rivkah. That’s the secret of humanity. And that’s the secret of marriage.

Today’s class explored how two people with different histories, tendencies, wounds, and temperaments can build something eternal… precisely because of their differences. When we choose holiness over instinct, love over ego, repair over distance, Heaven itself, the Alter Rebbe says, “laughs with delight.” Marriage, it turns out, is the ultimate divine joke. And our job is to embrace the punchline.

TAKEAWAYS

Laughter = Transformation

The Alter Rebbe teaches that laughter is triggered when reality breaks its own rules. When a human transcends instinct choosing holiness over ego that is the greatest “cosmic joke.”

Yitzchak’s Name Isn’t Cute … It’s His Mission

“He will laugh” means the whole purpose of Jewish life is rising above our programmed nature. This is why the Torah uses metzachek: intimacy is the fusion of two worlds that shouldn’t naturally fit.

Rivkah Is the Model of Human Greatness

Raised in corruption, she becomes a “rose among thorns.” She is proof that background does not define destiny. She is the surprise that makes Heaven smile.

Marriage Thrives on Differences, Not Sameness

The clash, the contrast, the contradictions—these are not obstacles. They are the very material through which G-d’s laughter emerges. The greatest holiness comes from uniting opposites.

Every Conflict Is an Invitation

When your instinct says defend, and you choose softness… When your body says withdraw, and you choose connection… When your ego wants to be right, and you choose to be kind… That is holy laughter. That is Yitzchak.

This Is Why Avimelech Knew

Only husband and wife can create the kind of oneness that blends two spiritual worlds into something new. That oneness is holiness. That holiness is laughter.

#Kabbalah #Torah #chassidus #Bible #BibleStudy #chassidut #kabala #Spiritual #spiritualgrowth #yitzchak #rivkah #ParshatToldot #parshastoldos #opposites #oppositesattract #marriage #intimacy

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In this morning’s class, Rabbi Bernath explored the timeless lesson hidden in a sleepy Midrash. When Rabbi Akiva saw his students dozing off, he woke them not with rebuke, but with revelation: the story of Queen Esther’s 127 provinces, mirroring the 127 years of Sarah’s life.

From this, the Chedushei HaRim teaches that Sarah lived every moment so fully that each second became a kingdom of its own. Rabbi Akiva’s message? Every moment we “sleep through” is a world lost. Through humor, wisdom, and a dash of Churchill’s charm, Rabbi Bernath reminded us that time is not money, it’s life itself.

Takeaways:

Every Moment Matters: Like Sarah, each of us has the power to turn seconds into significance.

Wakefulness Is Spiritual: Falling asleep… literally or metaphorically means missing the miracle of now.

Time Is Life, Not Money: The Rebbe taught that time is not a commodity but a living gift. Use it with purpose.

Presence Is Royalty: Esther’s reign flowed from Sarah’s lived time; our own “reign” depends on how awake we are to our days.

Humor and Holiness Coexist: Even Churchill and Rabbi Akiva knew that a good laugh can wake up the soul.

#Kabbalah #chassidus #Judaism #Jewish #jewishmysticism #time #presence #purpose #life #chabad #spiritualgrowth #Spiritual #chassidut #kabala #sarah

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In this heart-stirring exploration of the prophet Elisha’s miracle for the destitute widow, Rabbi Yisroel Bernath invites us to uncover our own “cruse of oil” the indestructible spark of holiness within. Drawing from Rabbi Schneur Zalman of Liadi’s profound interpretation, we discover that the widow’s empty vessels are our empty actions, our daily deeds done even without inspiration. When we keep showing up, praying, loving, giving, building those vessels eventually overflow with divine oil. This class takes the ancient story and turns it into a living roadmap for reigniting the soul when we feel emotionally or spiritually numb.

Takeaways:

Every soul possesses a pure “cruse of oil” an unbreakable core of divine essence untouched by pain, doubt, or apathy.

When inspiration runs dry, the key is action: fill your life with “empty vessels” of goodness, even if your heart isn’t fully in it yet.

Emotional numbness doesn’t mean the soul has died it’s a signal that something deeper is ready to be rediscovered.

Love, awe, and purpose can be reclaimed through consistent small acts of holiness they become the vessels for divine flow.

The moment the spark reawakens, all your past “empty” deeds become filled with meaning, joy, and light.

#Bible #Kabbalah #Judaism #Jewish #mysticism #jewishmysticism #chassidus #chassidut #spiritualgrowth #Rabbi #chabad #spiritualgrowth #inspiration #soul #essence #Spiritual #divinespark

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In this heartfelt Ask Me Anything, Rabbi Bernath responds to someone from the Kabbalah for Everyone Community, a lifelong Reform Jew who asks a question many have quietly carried: “Am I less of a Jew because I was raised Reform?”

Rabbi Bernath explores how Jewish identity transcends denominational labels. Drawing on teachings from Tanya and Rashi, he reminds us that every Jewish soul is a piece of G-d, unbreakable and equally precious.

This conversation becomes more than an answer, it’s an invitation to rediscover who we are beneath the labels. It’s a love letter to every Jew who has ever wondered if they still belong.

Takeaways:

There are no “levels” of Jewishness. Every Jew, regardless of affiliation or observance carries the same Divine spark.

Denominations are man-made; the soul is G-d-made. Labels were meant to organize ideas, not divide hearts.

Jewish identity is a relationship, not a category. Wherever you learn, pray, or grow, your connection to G-d is real and alive.

Belonging is not earned — it’s inherited. You’re part of the same eternal covenant, the same people, the same love story that began at Sinai.

Your light matters. Every small act of faith, study, or kindness sustains the Jewish people.

#Judaism #Jewish #JewishIdentity #reform #orthodox #belonging #Kabbalah

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This morning, Rabbi Bernath explored a fascinating question raised by the great medieval sage Nachmanides (the Ramban): Why does the Torah introduce every major biblical figure with their background—except Abraham?

Why does G-d suddenly appear and tell him, “Lech Lecha — Go to yourself”, without any explanation of why him?

The Ramban and later Chassidic masters reveal something extraordinary: G-d didn’t just speak to Abraham. He speaks to everyone. The difference is — Abraham heard it.

“Lech Lecha” is not a one-time command; it’s a timeless call to every soul to move forward, step out of fear, and become the person G-d created us to be.

Rabbi Bernath illustrated this with the story of Avraham Vetzler, a 90-year-old Holocaust survivor who, after eight decades of silence, suddenly felt the call to return—to light, to Torah, to G-d. His story reminds us that it’s never too late to hear our own Lech Lecha.

Key Takeaways:

G-d is always speaking. The question is: am I listening?

“Lech Lecha” is a call to every human being — to leave behind fear, comfort, and old patterns and journey toward our truest self.

Growth begins when we notice that inner whisper and take one brave step forward.

You’re never too old, too far, or too lost to hear the call again.

#Kabbalah #Judaism #Jewish #LechLecha #Abraham #purpose #Faith #mysticism #spiritualgrowth #BibleStudy #Bible #Parsha #ParshatLechLecha #chassidus #chassidut

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This morning, Rabbi Bernath explored one of the most misunderstood heroes in Torah, Noach. While the Torah calls him a tzaddik, some sages question whether he was truly righteous or simply better than those around him. Why would our tradition, which praises kindness and humility, seem to downplay the one man who saved humanity?

Drawing on a 1964 teaching from the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Rabbi Bernath reframed the question: the Sages weren’t diminishing Noach, they were elevating him. Noach wasn’t perfect. He doubted. He hesitated. He stumbled. But he built an ark anyway. And that’s precisely why he’s the hero for the rest of us, for the ordinary, flawed people who still try to do good in a noisy, cynical world.

Noach reminds us that you don’t need to be Abraham or Moses to make a difference. You just need to build your ark, an island of sanity, compassion, and moral courage, right where you are.

Key Takeaways:

Imperfect Righteousness Is Still Righteousness.
The Torah’s praise of Noach is not about spiritual perfection, but about moral persistence. Doing good in a corrupt world is itself greatness.

The Power of Ordinary People.
Noach’s story teaches that world-changing moments often come from those who don’t feel extraordinary, just steady souls who keep showing up.

Struggle Is Part of the Journey.
Unlike “cookie-cutter” saints, real people wrestle with doubt, temptation, and fatigue. Noach’s humanity is his heroism.

Build Your Ark.
In a world flooded with noise and confusion, our job is to create spaces of kindness, faith, and integrity, shelters of light in turbulent waters.

Every Small Act Matters.
Like the girl tossing starfish back into the sea, we can’t save the whole world, but we can change someone’s world.

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In this morning’s class, Rabbi Bernath explored one of the most profound paradoxes in the Torah, the two seemingly contradictory accounts of Adam and Eve’s creation. Far from a textual flaw, this duality encodes the deepest truths about relationships, individuality, and spiritual evolution.

The first creation describes Adam and Eve as one, a fused, bi-gendered being. The second describes their separation. From this, Rabbi Bernath revealed a timeless model: every relationship, whether between man and woman or humanity and G-d, must pass through three stages, oneness, separation, and reunion.

Through this lens, the Genesis narrative becomes not ancient history but a living blueprint. It explains the evolution of human intimacy, feminism, secularism, and the search for Divine connection in the modern age, showing that we are now entering the third stage: the age of chosen unity, love and faith born not of obligation, but of conscious choice.

Key Takeaways:

Genesis isn’t contradiction, it’s choreography.
The two accounts of creation mirror the cosmic dance between unity and individuality, dependence and independence, G-d and humankind.

True love is chosen, not imposed.
Adam and Eve’s separation allowed them to rediscover each other voluntarily, the foundation of mature, lasting relationships.

History mirrors the Garden.
From religious dependence, to secular independence, humanity now yearns for integration, faith and freedom intertwined.

Marriage is self-discovery.
In loving another, we reunite with the missing part of ourselves; separation was never punishment, but preparation for deeper connection.

The third stage is now.
Our generation is called to embody integration, where spirituality and modernity, masculinity and femininity, body and soul harmonize again.

#Genesis #Kabbalah #Judaism #Jewish #adamandeve #feminism #Faith #marriage #Relationships #Unity #Sprirital #Bible #BibleStudy #TorahPortion #TorahLessons #Torah #torahpsychology

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Rabbi Yisroel Bernath delivers a moving Simchat Torah sermon celebrating the miraculous return of the hostages, a moment when prophecy, pain, and prayer converge into pure joy. He draws a profound parallel between this homecoming and the essence of Simchat Torah, a holiday where Jews dance not because of ritual, but because of belonging.

Rabbi Bernath reminds us that Jewish joy cannot be taken, it is divine, defiant, and eternal. Through the story of Isaac’s hidden treasure and the timeless circle of Torah dance, he calls every Jew, believer and skeptic alike, to join the dance of unity, gratitude, and faith reborn.

Key Takeaways:

A Living Prophecy:
Jeremiah’s words, “Your children shall return to their borders” come alive as we witness the hostages’ return, transforming tears of despair into tears of gratitude.

The Essence of Simchat Torah:
Unlike other festivals tied to specific mitzvot, Simchat Torah’s commandment is simply to rejoice. We dance with closed Torah scrolls because joy transcends knowledge, it’s about belonging, not perfection.

Eternal Jewish Joy:
The attack that began on Simchat Torah was meant to steal Jewish joy, yet this very year, that joy is reclaimed. Jewish joy is not circumstantial; it’s the pulse of our people.

The Treasure Within:
Like Isaac discovering the treasure under his own oven, we rediscover that the greatest strength and hope lie not in distant places, but within ourselves and our faith.

A Call to Dance:
Rabbi Bernath invites everyone, regardless of belief or pain, to dance with Heaven itself. This Simchat Torah, every step is a declaration: Am Yisrael Chai.

#hostages #Judaism #Jewish #hostagesreturn #jewishunity #simchatorah #AmYisraelChai #Faith #resilience #Israel #IsraelHamas

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