Dean Inserra, Lead Pastor of City Church in Tallahassee, FL and SBC Executive Committee Trustee, says, "...the goal for the Christian with same-sex desires is not heterosexuality, but holiness." But is this biblically accurate? Absolutely not!

My Response: 1) Dean's big issue is that he's practicing anthropology and calling it theology. He has asked, "homosexuals," "Can you stop being gay?" and based on their answer, he has formulated his empty rhetoric, "God has called you to be holy not heterosexual." But, there is no other holy sexuality except for heterosexuality. Every single person who has ever been created, based on God's design of male & female, is a heterosexual. But some suppress this truth in unrighteousness. Yet, our feelings do not define our sexuality.

Our Designer, God, defines our sexuality. And Genesis 2:20-25 says that God made Adam, and then made Eve from Adam for Adam, and for this reason, "a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh" (Gen 2:21-24). God's design is clear: male and female sexuality in its entirety is for the pursuit of biblical marriage. And telling Christians whose flesh tells them they're "gay" that they are not heterosexual is unbiblical and is a denial of God creating them male or female.

2) God's design, not our fleshly desire, is the only prerequisite for marriage. Christians who desire sexual and/or marital intimacy should pursue biblical marriage regardless what their flesh tells them. For, "It is not good that the man should be alone..." (Gen 2:18). God literally created males and females for the two to become one flesh, to come together in the covenant of marriage.

3) The Bible says that singleness is good to pursue for the sake of Christ's kingdom, but it takes a gift from God (Matt 19:11; 1 Cor 7:7-10). The Christian who is having same-sex desires does not have the gift of singleness. Therefore, he or she should reject the flesh & cultivate desires for God's design, & should pursue opposite-sex friends, in hope that he or she will one day marry an opposite-sex Christian. Why? Christians should hate their flesh and love God's design. Christians should order their lives according to God's design. And desiring marital intimacy means God's design for you is to pursue biblical marriage.

4) Dean is treating the sin of homosexuality as a special sin, for he would not apply his logic to other sins. For example, imagine saying to a Christian who is having trans desires, "Your goal is holiness, not living according to your God-designed sex." Or, telling a Christian who has desires to steal, "Your goal is holiness, not working hard." Not only should Christians who have same-sex desires totally reject them, they should also seek to cultivate desires for opposite-sex Christians, to lead to biblical marriage. *By "cultivate," I don't mean lust. Rather, I mean cultivate desire for one day cutting a sexual covenant of marriage with an oppositive-sex Christian.

In other words, the goal is holiness, but this holiness, for the Christian who is having same-sex desires, includes cultivating heterosexual desires and pursuing heterosexual marriage, because it is God's design for us, since He created us male or female, and these Christians do not have the gift of singleness. If they had the gift of singleness, they would not be talking about their "same-sex attraction" or struggling with it.

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SOURCES:

1) ERLC Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8VS4c_X1S4

2) Pure Book: https://amzn.to/3IGtvT1

3) Florida Baptist Witness Article: https://cdn.coverstand.com/9717/118555/118555.1.pdf