We’ve talked about the mental load before, but what about the emotional load? That invisible, often unspoken burden that one partner silently carries in a relationship? In today’s episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re diving into real REDDIT STORIES that expose the struggles of feeling unappreciated, unsupported, and unseen at home. From partners who do all the planning and organising to those who feel more valued at work than in their own home, these stories shine a light on a challenge that way too many couples face.

We break down what’s really happening in these dynamics, why resentment builds up over time, and (most importantly) how to shift the balance before it’s too late. If you’ve ever felt like the default planner, the initiator, or the only one holding everything together, this episode is for you.

🔹 What You’ll Learn:
✔️ How mental and emotional load differ: and why it matters.
✔️ Why some partners naturally take on more responsibility and how to change that.
✔️ How to have a conversation about unbalanced emotional labor without starting a fight.
✔️ Small shifts you can make today to lighten the emotional load in your relationship.

🎧 Listen now and don’t forget to subscribe!

🔥 Plus, in our Reality Check Corner, we share practical exercises you can apply this episode right away and start communicating with your partner.

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You might be carrying a hidden weight in your relationship—and so might your partner. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we dive into the invisible emotional load many people carry without realising it. From managing conflicts, anticipating needs, and diffusing tension to remembering birthdays and keeping the peace, emotional labor is often an unspoken burden that can impact intimacy, connection, and overall relationship health.

We break down:
✅ What emotional load actually is (and how it differs from mental load)
✅ How emotional labor can lead to resentment, burnout, and imbalance
✅ The subtle ways emotional labor plays out in relationships
✅ How to rebalance the emotional load to create a healthier, more connected partnership
✅ Small but powerful shifts you can make TODAY to improve emotional balance in your relationship

🔥 Plus, in our Reality Check Corner, we share practical exercises you can try right away to identify hidden emotional burdens and start communicating about them with your partner.

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Breaking Free from Communication Loops in Relationships

Ever feel like you're having the same argument over and over again? Do you and your partner keep getting stuck in the same emotional cycles without resolution? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re diving into communication loops - the repeated patterns that keep couples from truly resolving conflicts.

We’ll uncover:
🌀 Why certain arguments never seem to go away
🗣️ The silent communication habits that cause resentment
💡 Simple, powerful strategies to break the cycle and create deeper connection

Whether it's stonewalling, avoidance, or the "mental scorecard" game, we’re unpacking the most common patterns and sharing practical, real-life solutions to shift the way you communicate. Plus, we introduce a brand-new segment: Reality Check Corner—designed to help you immediately apply what you’ve learned in your own relationship.

Hit play and start transforming the way you and your partner communicate today! 🎧✨

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💡 Ever feel like your conversations with your partner hit a wall? You’re not alone! In this episode ofHoney, We Need to Chat, we sit down withBryce Lokken, the co-founder ofUncover Me, a game designed to help couples communicate in a deeper, more meaningful way. Bryce shares his journey from marketing to product design, his personal therapy experience, and what he’s learned about relationships along the way.

🔑What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✔️ Why traditional relationship card games don’t work—and what actually does
✔️ The power of context in understanding your partner’s needs
✔️ How open-ended questions can sometimeshurt rather than help
✔️ The role of therapy in personal growth and relationships
✔️ The small shifts that make ahuge difference in communication

Whether you're in a long-term relationship or just starting out, this episode will give youreal-world strategies to strengthen your connection.

To follow Bryce and Uncover me, visitplayuncoverme.com or on instagram @playuncoverme

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We’re back, and we’ve missed you! In this first episode of Season 2 of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re catching up on everything that’s happened over the last few months—why we took an unexpected break, how moving house nearly broke us, and what we learned about communication, stress, and marriage along the way.

If you’ve ever struggled with change, mental load, or keeping your relationship strong through chaos, this episode is for you. We also share what’s coming up this season, including exciting new guests, deep-dive discussions, and ways for you to be part of the conversation.

Want to support the show? Share this episode, subscribe, and leave a review! Your engagement helps more couples find this podcast.

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This week we dive into the second module of our Relationship Program- the GROW framework!

If you haven’t had a chance to run through the Balance Wheel of Relationships, please make sure to do so first! Then we suggest setting aside a night to run through this second module together.

**YOU CAN DOWNLOAD BOTH FREEBIES VIA OUR WEBSITE www.honeyweneedtochat.com**

GROW Is an incredibly impactful tool to really assess where you are currently and where you want to go. Standing for Goals, Reality, Options and Way Forward, these three areas help you dig into what might be sitting behind your patterns and identify practical ways to step forward in working on them.
We also want to take a moment to let you all know that this will be the last episode of HWNTC Season 1! We are moving and will be taking a season break, but don’t worry- we have a list of incredible guests coming up for season two, so watch this space!

And if you get bored while we’re gone, why not jump on over to Patreon for 20+ extra episodes ;) https://www.patreon.com/honeyweneedtochat

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❔Have a story or question you want discussed on the podcast. 🎉COMPLETELY ANONYMOUS Submissions now open on our website! ➡️ www.honeyweneedtochat.com

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This week we dive into the wild world of Social Lives in Relationships.

Join us as we discuss Reddit Stories all about couples navigating their social dynamics in a variety of challenges. From mismatched personal energy levels to unhealthy friendships impacting relationships, this chat covers it all.

Also- keep an ear out for our exciting, limited time listener giveaway to celebrate ticking over 30 eps!

✨For an extra, more personal chat on this topic, join us over on Patreon: www.patreon.com/honeyweneedtochat

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On this, our 30th episode (!?!?) we chat all about our HWNTC Balance Wheel of Relationships session.

Getting clear on where you are and detailed on where you want to be is a huge part of progress, and relationships are no different! So we've pulled together this session to help you and your partner take stock of your relationship and make plans for where you'd like to focus going forward.

To run through the session yourself, you can download it via our website at www.honeyweneedtochat.com, and if you want to watch us do the activity together, hop on over to our patreon! www.patreon.com/honeyweneedtochat

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❔Have a story or question you want discussed on the podcast. 🎉COMPLETELY ANONYMOUS Submissions now open on our website! ➡️ www.honeyweneedtochat.com

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