I feel a bit silly about how long it to took me to work out I was gay - like that should be an easy thing to know about yourself? Shouldn’t it? In this episode, I exchange notes with Cole Escola, Tony Kushner, Dan Savage, David Sedaris, Joel Kim Booster, Katja Blichfeld, Tig Notaro and my best friend, Tom Ward.

For most queers there’s a really crappy period between working out they’re gay, and coming out, where we sort of have to live a lie. With Cole Escola, Dewayne Perkins, Tom Ballard, Kevin Whyte, Wade Davis, Katja Blichfeld, Tituss Burgess, Joel Kim Booster and Sophus Hell, a hot nerd who tells me about ancient Babylonian anal sex omens.

I always thought everyone thought coming out was something to celebrate - in this episode I learn that maybe I was wrong. With Cole Escola, Dan Savage, Tom Ward, Tig Notaro, Wade Davis, Tituss Burgess and Joel Kim Booster.

In the olden days if you wanted to find someone to kiss you had to leave the house - is it good we don’t need to that anymore? Also, Shannon Keating takes us on a lesbian cruise! With Tony Kushner, David Sedaris and Joel Kim Booster.

Oh boy, this episode is pretty full on. I try to learn how to bottom, and figure out how to be a better top. And then I try to have a constructive conversation about how people can be better at lesbian sex but, well…look I tried my best. With my best friend, Courtney Smith, Gabe Liedman, Joel Kim Booster, Dan Savage and sexologist, Vanessa Muradian.

Maybe it isn’t everyone's first instinct to think that being queer affects where you live - but it does. Cole Escola tells us about the things he went through to build a life in the big smoke. We speak with Angel Joy - a Chechnya refugee now living in Canada - who tells us what it’s like to grow up gay in Chechnya and Kimahli Powell, the executive director of Rainbow Railroad, an incredible organization that helps relocate queer refugees.

Is monogamy just for straight people? With David Sedaris, Dan Savage and we talk to Diana Adams about how to create marriage contracts for polyamorous couples.

Should I have a baby? I don’t think so. For this episode we focus on adoption. With Brian and Ferd from gayswithkids.com, Tig Notaro, Dan Savage and Tony Hynes - who had the supreme court weigh in on his adoption to lesbian parents. Also - I call my Mum.