Self-confidence is one of the main elements that holds people back, and there is a lot of miscommunication and misunderstanding about confidence. Yet it’s impossible to thrive and reach our highest potential in our personal or professional life if our confidence is low. It impacts how visible we will make ourselves. And, it determines whether we control our own agenda and our time. It determines our ability to say no when we need to. As a business, our earnings or the fees that we charge will be in proportion to how confident we are. We won’t drive ourselves forward as much as others that are more confident. It touches every aspect of our life. So what can we do to build self-confidence? In The Genius Code, I explain the difference between competence and confidence, as well as the three pillars of each that make for maximum self-confidence.
Understanding the distinction between competence and confidence is crucial. Competence refers to our ability to perform tasks successfully, while confidence is our belief in ourselves. To build competence, focus on developing skills, acquiring knowledge, and gaining experience. For instance, if public speaking makes you anxious, consider joining a local Toastmasters club to practice and refine your speaking abilities.
On the other hand, confidence is built upon three pillars: self-belief, self-love, and self-worth. Self-belief is that inner assurance that you can achieve your goals. Cultivating this involves setting small, achievable objectives and celebrating your successes. Self-love, or self-care, entails taking care of your mind, body, and soul. This could mean setting aside time for activities you enjoy, ensuring you get adequate rest, or practicing mindfulness. Self-worth is about valuing yourself, regardless of others’ opinions. Recognize your intrinsic value and avoid comparing yourself to others.
It’s also important to address negative self-talk, which can erode confidence. Challenge negative thoughts by reframing them into positive affirmations. For example, instead of thinking, “I’m not good at this,” tell yourself, “I’m learning and improving every day.” Surround yourself with supportive individuals who uplift you and provide constructive feedback.
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