In this deeply personal episode, I open up about what went wrong in my marriage. I share the raw truth of losing my marriage, what I learned on my healing journey, and reclaiming my identity.

If you’ve ever felt lost, shattered, or unsure of who you are after heartbreak, this conversation is for you. 💛✨

Takeaways

We need to be honest with God.

I am fully me now.

I like me.

God's plan was to reclaim my voice.

God had a plan of restoration for me.

God will never leave you or forsake you

Chapters

00:00 Why did I begin this Journey

12:36 The Impact of Divorce on Identity

15:06 Rediscovering Self After Trauma

18:09 The Process of Reclaiming Self

21:17 The Importance of Sharing Stories

22:42 The Vision of Healing

The "S" words that feed abuse: Silence, Shame, Secrets, Systems, Spiritual Forces

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Generational Trauma

02:06 The Silence of Abuse

07:57 Family Dynamics and Love

16:07 Breaking the Cycle of Abuse

16:19 Breaking the Silence

16:24 Spiritual Forces and Abuse

17:31 Community Dynamics and Abuse

18:04 The Role of Silence and Secrets

20:43 Breaking Generational Patterns

21:39 Empowerment and Healing

Sound Bites

"shame propagates the silence."

"Three generations in one body sharing the same traumatic environment." In this episode, through a conversation with her own mother, Dr. Shelley Ann Murray explores how trauma is transferred from one generation to the next through epigenetic changes in the DNA.

Takeaways We inherit not just trauma but also strength and resilience. Exploring family history can reveal the roots of our trauma. Trauma can be inherited through our DNA. Epigenetics plays a crucial role in how trauma affects generations. Understanding our parents' experiences can help us heal. My mother's story is a testament to breaking the cycle of trauma. Healing is possible even without all the answers. Generational trauma can manifest in various dysfunctional patterns. Acceptance of our family's brokenness is part of the healing process. The journey of healing starts with self-awareness and understanding.

Sound Bites

"Mommy, you're the real MVP." "I began exploring my family history." "Epigenetic markers- a highlighter." Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Generational Trauma

07:15 The Role of Epigenetic Changes in Trauma

11:11 My Mother's Story: A Journey of Pain

20:18 The Cycle of Trauma and Healing

23:51 The Path to Healing and Understanding

29:17 Introduction to Healing Journeys

29:26 Introduction to Healing and Growth

29:27 The Importance of Community in Healing

What if the key to "marriage wellness" and "divorce prevention" was hidden in the power of a healing journey? In I Vow to Heal, I share raw, real stories from my personal experience of navigating a painful divorce and my relentless hunger for emotional healing. This isn’t just a podcast—it’s a guide packed with practical advice, heartfelt storytelling, and transformative tips for anyone who’s dating, engaged, married, or even divorced.

If you’re ready to break generational cycles, deepen your connections, and cultivate healthier relationships, this is the podcast for you. Tune in and find out why "I Vow to Heal"— should be a promise you make to your life long partner.

Summary

In this episode of 'I Vow to Heal', Dr. Shelley Ann Murray attempts to answer the question of "how did I get here? She shares her personal journey through emotional trauma, the impact of generational trauma, and its impact on staying in a toxic marriage that eventually led to divorce.

Takeaways

1. Healing is a journey that requires self-discovery. 2. Emotional trauma can have lasting effects on relationships. 3. Generational trauma can influence current behaviors and beliefs. 4. It's important to address unhealed trauma before marriage. 5. Knowledge is key to breaking the cycle of trauma. 6. Seeking help is essential for personal and relational health.

7.. The pandemic has highlighted the importance of mental health. 8. Oxytocin plays a significant role in romantic attachment. 9. Understanding family history can guide emotional healing.

10. Commitment to healing can strengthen relationships. Sound Bites

Chapters

00:00 Introduction: A Journey Begins

03:34 The Impact of Divorce on Identity

08:25 A Hunger for Healing: The Beginning of the Journey

13:18 Understanding Equally Yoked Relationships

19:33 The Importance of Addressing Emotional Trauma

22:55 The Role of Hormones in Relationships

25:27 Uncovering Generational Trauma

28:20 Breaking the Cycle of Trauma