In this episode, I dive into Chapter 9 of my bestselling book Inner Brilliance: Outer Shine, 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress. I share how learning to handle life’s rough seas can shape our journey, both personally and professionally. I discuss the importance of managing our state of mind, processing emotions, and usingpractical tools to build resilience and find joy, even during challenging times. My goal is to help you become the captain of your own ship, steering toward greater wellbeing and fulfilment.

Key Topics Covered:

• Our state of mind directly impacts our actions, performance,and happiness.
• Acknowledging and processing emotions is essential. I sharehow and the consequences of not doing this.
• Tools like Havening and EFT can help reset limiting beliefsand manage stress.
• Scheduling joy and making space for fun are vital forresilience.
• You have the power to navigate challenges, no matter thecircumstances.

Here’s to your shining!

Estelle Read x

Bestselling Author, Coach &Speaker

Timestamps

00:00 – Introduction to the podcast and host

00:40 – About Estelle and the episode’s focus

01:04 – Reading from "Inner Brilliance OuterShine" – Antidote #9

01:32 – The importance of state of mind

02:26 – My friend’s skiing story: accessing positivestates

04:56 – State of mind: thoughts, feelings, body,neurochemistry

06:03 – How to change your state

08:03 – Personal story: perimenopause and HRT

09:47 – Research: state of mind and leadership

11:06 – Managing intense emotions

12:24 – Story: emotions at a family funeral

14:10 – Bottling emotions vs. acknowledging them

16:00 – Meta-emotions explained

18:00 – Emotional processing techniques

22:47 – The “emotional bucket” analogy

25:55 – Strategies for stress and resilience

28:45 – Introduction to EFT

31:17 – EFT resources and support

32:41 – Cultivating and scheduling joy

35:09 – Key takeaways and summary

39:43 – Closing, resources, and next episode preview

Listen on your favourite podcast platform or watch onYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead

You can find my EFT video mentioned in the podcast here: https://youtu.be/_PROjHMnKAg?si=lhaZXMd-9fENcuyh⁠

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If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe and share it with someone who might benefit. For free resources, to join the SHINE Coaching Programme or to apply for a discovery call, visit www.EstelleRead.com

Thanks for listening to the Optimising Your BrilliancePodcast!

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informationalpurposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

In this episode, I dive into Chapter 8 of my bestselling book  Inner Brilliance: Outer Shine, 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, which focuses on how to develop an inner captain and take charge of your thoughts.

Key Topics Covered:

• I explore how to develop an “inner captain” to take charge of your thoughts and beliefs.
• I share personal stories, including my experience withimposter syndrome and a cancer diagnosis, to show how mindset tools work in real life.
• I discuss the impact of negative self-talk and how reframing thoughts can change your emotional state and outcomes.
• I reveal practical strategies like journaling, havening, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), and positive affirmations, to manage stress and negativity.
• I talk about the importance of gratitude and how focusing on what’s good in your life helps you to stay positive and become happier.
• I explain how I interrupt negative thought patterns—sometimes with humour, distraction, or even singing!
• I highlight the dangers of comparison, especially on social media, and how you can bring your focus back to your own journey.
• I encourage listeners to process emotions rather thansuppress them, using various tools.
• I remind you that negative feelings are temporary, and that we have the power to choose our response.

Here’s to your shining!

Estelle Read x

Bestselling Author, Coach &Speaker

Timestamps:

• 0:00 – Introduction to the podcast and host
• 0:40 – About Estelle and her book
• 1:33 – Starting Chapter 8: Develop Your Inner Captain
• 2:37 – The impact of negative thoughts and language
• 6:17 – Strategies to counter imposter syndrome andnegativity
• 8:38 – Personal story: Facing a cancer diagnosis
• 14:07 – Blackpool Illuminations: Spotting and interruptingnegative thought patterns
• 17:04 – Journaling and processing thoughts
• 21:06 – Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and havening
• 24:06 – Dealing with uncertainty and "what if"thinking
• 27:00 – Useful vs. useless thoughts; learning to reframe
• 31:16 – Down in the doldrums: Coping with depression andloss
• 36:46 – The power of gratitude and "re-dipping"into positive memories
• 41:17 – Affirmations and manifesting positive change
• 46:09 – Summary of key points and closing thoughts
• 48:48 – What's next: Preview of Chapter 9

Listen on your favourite podcast platform or watch onYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead⁠

Connect with Estelle Read:
If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe and share it with someone who might benefit. For free resources, to join the SHINE Coaching Programme or to apply for a discovery call, visit www.EstelleRead.com

Thanks for listening to the Optimising Your BrilliancePodcast!

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informationalpurposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

In this episode, I dive into Chapter 7 of my bestselling book  Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress. I share practical strategies for running a tight ship in both your work and personal life. I open up about my own journey with boundaries, time management, and the lessons I’ve learned from clients and personal experience. If you’re ready to stop overworking, reclaim your time, and shine brighter, this episode is for you.

Key Topics Covered:

• Why Boundaries Matter: Ishare how setting boundaries has helped me (and my clients) avoid burnout and reclaim joy in work and life.
• Parkinson’s Law: I explain how work expands to fill the time we give it, and why limiting our thinking time" to four hours a day can boost creativity and effectiveness.

• Production Line Analogy: I use my experience in manufacturing to illustrate how we can manage ourworkload, avoid bottlenecks, and prevent overwhelm.
• Saying No (Without Guilt): I talk about the importance of saying no, even when it feels uncomfortable.
• Time and People Boundaries: I reflect on how I’ve learned to protect my time from "time stealers" and set healthy boundaries with people who drain my energy.
• Delegation and Letting Go of Perfectionism: I discuss how perfectionism and the need to please can lead to overwork, and how I’ve helped clients (and myself) delegate and trust others.
• Owning Your Space: I share stories about how body language, mindset, and language can help us projectconfidence and claim our space, at work and beyond.
• Recognising When You’ve Used Up Your ‘Help Quota’: I talk about the importance of fair exchange in relationships and knowing when to step back from living too much.

Here’s to your shining!

Estelle Read x

Bestselling Author, Coach &Speaker

Timestamps:

• 00:00 – Introduction & episode overview
• 02:01 – Antidote #7: Run a Tight Ship
• 04:44 – Parkinson’s Law: Work expands to fill time
• 06:49 – The four-hour productivity rule
• 08:12 – Managing your “production line” (workload)
• 13:15 – Overcoming perfectionism and people-pleasing
• 18:10 – Learning to say no
• 20:58 – Time stealers and digital boundaries
• 22:12 – Setting people boundaries
• 32:51 – Summary & key takeaways
• 33:48 – Next episode preview & closing

Listen on your favourite podcast platform or watch onYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead⁠

Connect with Estelle Read:
If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe and share it with someone who might benefit. For free resources, to join the SHINE Coaching Programme or to apply for a discovery call, visit www.EstelleRead.com

Thanks for listening to the Optimising Your BrilliancePodcast!

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

In this episode, I dive into Antidote #6 from my book, "Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine" which is about offloading excess baggage.

Key Topics Covered:

• I share personal stories from my coaching practice, highlighting how emotional baggage can hold us back in both our work and personal lives.
• I introduce you to Havening, a technique that has transformed not only my clients' lives but mine too.
• I explain the science behind Havening, how it was developed, and why it's my go-to tool for helping people release limiting beliefs and emotional pain in order to transform performance and personal lives.
• I also guide you through the process of identifying the root causes of recurring patterns and emotions, especially those that stem from childhood.

Timestamps:

• 00:00 – Introduction to the podcast and Estelle Reed
• 01:04 – What is “offloading excess baggage”?
• 03:00 – Real-life stories of overcoming emotional baggage
• 06:23 – The science behind emotional baggage (ACE study)
• 10:49 – How to identify and release limiting beliefs
• 16:06 – What is Havening and how does it work?
• 27:43 – What to expect from Havening
• 39:14 – Summary and key takeaways
• 41:56 – Preview of next episode and closing

Listen on your favourite podcast platform or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead⁠

Connect with Estelle Read:
If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe and share it with someone who might benefit. For free resources, to join the SHINE Coaching Programme or to apply for a discovery call, visit www.EstelleRead.com

Thanks for listening to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast!

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

In this episode of the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast Idive into Antidote #5: Navigate to Destination Joy.

Discover how to move from feeling stuck or overwhelmed tofinding true fulfilment in work and life. Through real-life stories, practical strategies, and personal reflections, I share how setting a clear vision, aligning your goals with your values, and taking small, consistent steps can help you reach your own ‘Destination Joy.’

Start charting your course to a more joyful, purpose-driven work-life.

Key Topics:

• The difference between vision and mission, and why both matter.

• Real-life coaching stories, including Jennifer’s journey from “Destination Grim” to “Destination Joy.”
• The dangers of drifting through life on “autopilot” and how to become the captain of your own ship.
• The pitfalls of fantasising about outcomes without taking action, supported by neuroscience research.
• The importance of setting specific, measurable, relevant, and time-bound (SMRT) Goals.
• How to break down big goals into manageable tasks and the power of accountability.
• The role of values and purpose in aligning your goals and vision.
• Personal anecdotes about vision boards, serendipity, and making congruent life decisions.
• What the science says about how to increase your chances of goal attainment.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction & podcast overview

03:28 – Chapter 5: “Navigate to Destination Joy”

03:58 – Jennifer’s story: from stress to joy

07:32 – Why vision needs action (research insights)

08:31 – Small steps and resilience

11:09 – Vision vs. mission; being congruent

13:20 – Overcoming self-sabotage

16:41 – Aligning vision with family and values

19:07 – Setting and writing down goals

21:11 – Breaking goals into tasks; accountability

28:54 – Visualising and drawing your goals

30:16 – Summary and key action points

31:17 – The SHINE Coaching Programme and free resources

32:03 – Closing and next episode teaser

Listen on your favourite podcast platform or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead

Connect with Estelle Read:
If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe and share it with someone who might benefit. For free resources, to join the SHINE Coaching Programme or to apply for a discovery call, visit www.EstelleRead.com

Thanks for listening to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast!

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

I’m reading Chapter 4: Align Towards Your Stars from my bestselling book, Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress. I’m sharing all 10 chapters from my book as a way to support your summer growth and personal development.

The goal of this chapter is to help you tune into every thing that is brilliant about you and important to you, so that you are super-powered towards what makes you shine. In this episode, we’ll explore:

• What happens when our shine is dulled.
• What makes you amazing: your strengths.
• How to accept and understand nature-based weaknesses.
• How we can ‘fix’ nature-based weaknesses.
• How to recognise when your stars align.
• What happens when we overdo our strengths.
• Working out what’s important to you: your values.
• What happens when we are misaligned with our values.
• The different types of values: towards and away from values.
• The consequence of over-doing values.
• Understanding your purpose

I have permission from my publisher to read most of my book aloud. If you'd like to access the parts I’ve omitted, you can download the accompanying workbook and journal here: https://estelleread.com/resources/

Here’s to your shining!

Estelle x
Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker
Connect & access free resources here: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Hello there!

In this episode, I read Chapter 3: Understand What Causes You to Sink from my bestselling book, Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress.

I’m sharing all 10 chapters from my book as a way to support your summer growth and personal development.

The goal of this chapter is to help you understand the root cause of your stress, workaholism and imposter syndrome. In this episode, we’ll explore:

• The Nature vs Nurture Model of Personality

• Whether you grew up in a safe and stable environment or wasit unsafe and unpredictable one
• Whether you felt loved or rejected
• Whether you felt like a success or failure
• What happens when faking it doesn’t help you make it
• How we can ‘cheat’ change and update outdated beliefs and coping strategies

I have permission from my publisher to read most of my book aloud. If you'd like to access the parts I’ve omitted, you can download the accompanying workbook and journal here: https://estelleread.com/resources/

Here’s to your shining!

Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker
Connect & access free resources here: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Hello there!

In this episode, I read Chapter 2: Captain Your Ship from my bestselling book, Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress. I’m sharing all 10 chapters from my book as a way to support your summer growth and personal development.

The goal of this chapter is to help you realise you have more control over your conscious and unconscious mind—and how your thoughts and attitudes influence your results.

In this episode, we’ll explore:

• The importance of coming off autopilot and how you can make yourself 4% better!
• How your conscious and unconscious minds work

• How to be more consciously in charge and how processing through our senses influences our outcomes
• Shifting from a victim or persecutor mindset toward being your own Brave Captain [of your ship].

I have permission from my publisher to read most of my book aloud. If you'd like to access the parts I’ve omitted, you can download yourself-coaching tools here: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee

Here’s to your shining!

Estelle x
Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker
Connect & access free resources here: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.