Feminine versus masculine energy. We all know it’s a thing, but what does it really mean? How does it show up? Today I’m sharing my personal journey. There is a piece of this that’s also tied to my cancer diagnosis and treatment a few years ago. For 30 years, from age 20 to 50 or so, I was very energetic. I was literally on the move all the time. I learned to set a goal, fill in the steps required to achieve it and made it my reality. I was ambitious, busy, and confident. To give you context, I share some of my early life experiences so you can understand how early trauma impacted me. That’s not what this episode is about, but it’s part of who I am and impacts how I show up, and how I see myself. Enter cancer. It made me sit still. For the first time (maybe ever) I had no choice except to rest. What’s this got to do with feminine and masculine energy? It took cancer (and all the stuff that came with it) for me to understand that I was not feeling my feelings. I was avoiding them, resisting my emotions and I had judgement about that. People often told me I was strong and powerful. I was proud of it, and it felt good to embrace that version of myself. What forced quiet time did for me. I have spent the past few years leaning into what it meant to be feminine. After the treatment and during recovery, I started to hear and discover myself in a new way. Less noise meant I could hear more internally. Quiet and stillness is part of my life, and part of my struggle. I’m still all about action. Digging into projects, helping clients, making money are all still part of me. The yin and yang of feminine and masculine are both with me. I’m learning to lean into my unknowing. Where do you go when you start to feel uneasy? I kept going back to the physical activity that I used to enjoy like triathlons. But it’s different now. I’m feeling my feelings. The activity doesn’t block that anymore. The quiet is now part of my life, coexisting with ambition and activity. For me, it’s leaning into the unknown. You can’t have all structure without flow and freedom. Having impact in life and business means understanding how all of this works for you. It’s important to know when to lean in and when to allow space for the quiet. It’s that balance that I’m still working to understand and it’s what I help my clients to honor as well. When we can do that, life and business flows. It’s not about pushing or struggling. It’s about allowing. What does this look like for you? Join me on Instagram and let me know how you experience the energy in your life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices