Welcome to the Anxious Attachment Solution Podcast with Life Coach Amber Lynn If you’ve ever wondered “Do I really have anxious attachment?”—this series is for you. Today I’m diving into part two of 10 signs you might have anxious attachment and what you can do to break free from these patterns.

✨ In this episode you’ll learn:

• Why anxious attachment makes you feel like you can never rest (hypervigilance)
• How people-pleasing and taking everything personally keeps you stuck
• The truth about self-worth, low self-esteem, and rewriting the story your brain tells you
• Why avoiding conflict creates more conflict and resentment—and how to handle it differently
• What to do when you feel like you’re “too much” or “not enough” in relationships
• How to stop riding the emotional rollercoaster and start regulating your nervous system
• The difference between reality and the “stories” your anxious brain makes up during conflict
• How to begin building self-trust and trust in relationships

💡 Key Takeaways:

• Hypervigilance doesn’t protect you—it keeps you disconnected from the present moment.
• People-pleasing is actually self-protection, but it costs you your authenticity.
• Self-worth isn’t fixed; it’s built thought by thought.
• Conflict doesn’t mean danger—it’s an opportunity for growth when handled with awareness.
• Your anxious attachment is not you—it’s a set of habits you can rewire.

📌 Try This:

• Next time you catch yourself scanning for signs something is “wrong,” pause and ask: “Am I future-tripping or am I present?”
• When facing conflict, ask yourself: “What is my brain making this mean? What is my partner actually saying?”
• Start practicing new thoughts on purpose to create secure self-worth.

✨ Remember: You are inherently worthy. You are not too much. You are not your anxious attachment.

📩 Want to go deeper? I offer a 12-week 1:1 coaching program designed to help you rewire your brain, calm your nervous system, and create the secure relationships you deserve. Schedule a free 1-hour consultation—whether you’re curious about coaching or just want a sample session.

👉 Email me at amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com with your questions or topics you’d love to hear covered on the podcast.

Links and Resources:

• Get my free Guide: Calming Your Anxious Attachment
• Free 4 day video Training Being YOU doesn’t have to be scary
• Linktree to all things happening now: https://linktr.ee/takingbackherbrain

Let’s Connect:

• Follow me on instagram: @anxiousattachmentsolution
• Follow me on Facebook: Anxious Attachment Solution Life Coach Amber
• Follow me on substack: @takingbacherbraincoaching
• Share your thoughts and experiences with the hashtag #anxiousattachmentsolution and tag @anxiousattachmentsolution

Email me at Amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com for a free one hour consultation

This is part one of a two-part series where I share 10 signs of anxious attachment and what you can do to start creating more secure relationships.

✨ In this episode, we’ll cover:

• The fear of abandonment—why it feels so real and how to pause before panic takes over
• Overthinking—why replaying conversations and “what-ifs” keeps you stuck in anxiety
• Constant reassurance seeking—how it sabotages trust in yourself and your relationships
• The hidden beliefs behind these patterns (not being good enough, being “too much”)
• Tools to calm your nervous system when your anxious attachment is triggered
• How to begin rewriting your self-worth and love narratives so you can feel safe in relationships

💡 Key Takeaways:

• Your brain is wired to tell stories rooted in fear—but you can learn to separate facts from anxious thoughts.
• Seeking reassurance may feel soothing, but it weakens self-trust. True safety comes from learning to regulate yourself.
• Overthinking and perfectionism are not signs of unworthiness—they’re signals that your anxious attachment is in the driver’s seat.
• With awareness and practice, you can teach your brain and body to become a safe place for all of your emotions.

📌 Try This:

• Next time you feel fear of abandonment or panic: pause, take a sip of cold water, and label the sensation in your body before reacting.
• Write down your thoughts (a thought download) and separate facts from the “story” your brain is making up.
• Practice new self-talk: instead of “I’m not enough”, try “I feel fear AND I am capable of holding it. My worth is inherent.”

✨ Remember: You are not broken. You are not too much. You are not stuck in anxious attachment forever. With the right tools, you can rewire your brain and create secure, loving relationships.

📩 Work with Me: I offer a 12-week 1:1 coaching program using my Secure Method, where I help you calm your nervous system, rewire your thoughts, and step into healthier relationship habits.

👉 Schedule a free 1-hour consultation—whether you want to explore coaching or just experience a sample session. 📧 Email me at amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com with your questions or podcast topic requests.

Links and Resources:

• Get my free Guide: Calming Your Anxious Attachment
• Free 4 day video Training Being YOU doesn’t have to be scary
• Linktree to all things happening now: https://linktr.ee/takingbackherbrain

Let’s Connect:

• Follow me on instagram: @anxiousattachmentsolution
• Follow me on Facebook: Anxious Attachment Solution Life Coach Amber
• Follow me on substack: @takingbacherbraincoaching
• Share your thoughts and experiences with the hashtag #anxiousattachmentsolution and tag @anxiousattachmentsolution

Email me at Amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com for a free one hour consultation

Hello and Welcome to Anxious Attachment Solution Your Healing Starts Here. I am your host Life Coach Amber Lynn. Today I am beginning a Series on Anxious to Aware. In this series my goal is to help you build awareness around your anxious attachment so that you can heal, repair, and move forward with a new mindset and new habits.

For those of you who are new to the show, welcome. I am life coach Amber Lynn- I have dealt with Anxious Attachment the majority of my life before I even knew what to call it. I just knew that I had a hard time in relationships, I had big emotions, I wanted to communicate well, but no matter what I did I didn’t feel good enough AND I felt like I was too much. I learned about codependency and attachment styles and became a certified Life Coach through the Life Coach School and now I used the understanding of the brain, our thoughts, emotions- to relate it to anxious attachment.

I created this podcast to share my journey of using thought work and mindset work to heal my anxious attachment. On this podcast I share my personal journey and the journey I have supported clients on. I use this podcast as a way to teach about our brain, emotions and human responses in regard to people with anxious attachment. So if you are going through something personally and you want help- send me an email, I will reply. I might even create a podcast to share how I would support myself through the journey, challenge or obstacle you are facing. My email again is AmberLynn@takingbackherbrain.com.

I work with clients who are not even sure if I have anxious attachment or if this work is for me. So I tell them if any of the following applies to you and your life, I can help you: Do you have fear of Abandonment, overthink, have a constant need for reassurance, always looking for red flags, never feel good enough, always people please before asking for what you want, feel like you are on an emotional rollercoaster, have a hard time trusting people, feel like you are too much or too needy, sometimes confuse anxiety with feelings of love then this podcast is for you:

From Anxious to Aware- I teach my clients how awareness is the foundation to any change. If any of this resonates with you and you want to make a change then you are in the right place. First thing you have to do before you can get to the “HOW do I change it, WHAT do I do”- You have to know what an anxious attachment cycle or trigger looks like for you. What does it sound like for you? When does it show up for you?