In this episode, Corie discusses how relationships—and even life—are rarely black and white. You’ll hear how our tendency to lean into extremes, whether viewing things as catastrophic or overly ideal, can hinder healthy growth. With practical advice on shame spirals, conflict resolution, and embracing emotional humility, this episode will help you stay grounded in truth without dismissing the struggles or victories you’re facing.

Corie also opens up about her own experiences, including early marital challenges with Matt and how learning to externalize struggles rather than internalize shame became a game-changer.

Whether you’re struggling with personal self-worth or navigating conflict with your partner, this episode offers real, actionable insights for bringing balance to your emotional and relational life.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• Why black-and-white thinking can sabotage your relationships
• How to recognize the difference between guilt (healthy) and shame (destructive)
• Practical steps for pulling yourself out of a shame spiral
• How to acknowledge both progress and problems in your relationship
• The role of humility and why it’s essential for growth
• How our past experiences shape emotional reactions to conflict

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Let's explore the complex balance between individual wellness and shared responsibilities in relationships through my powerful metaphor: the duplex. Whether you're a military couple navigating deployment challenges, an empty-nester reorienting your relationship, or simply seeking insight into healthier boundaries, this episode unpacks the delicate dance of honoring yourself while investing in those you love.

We'll talk about:

• The importance of healthy boundaries in marriage.
• How relationships can enrich—or derail—our personal growth.
• The difference between passive avoidance and assertive communication in conflict.
• Why articulating your needs and values can lead to stronger connections.

Whether you're figuring out how to communicate your needs effectively or trying to rebuild intimacy after conflict, this episode offers insights to help you navigate the messy middle of relationships with grace, honesty, and intentionality.

Call to Action: What does your duplex look like? Take a moment to reflect on the state of your personal and shared spaces. Share your story or thoughts by leaving a message or sending me message.

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Let's talk about the most common question I get: "What does a healthy relationship look like?"

In Season 9, we are going to unpack some of the most popular "Corie-isms" used in my coaching and counseling sessions, including today's topic:

"The Messy Middle."

I'll share the importance of balancing boundaries and grace in your relationship, drawing from examples I've seen as a clinician, a military spouse, and a parent.

• Why relationships are inherently messy and how that messiness fosters growth.
• The concept of the "messy middle" as a space where healthy relationships thrive.
• How to navigate extremes in relationships by setting boundaries and offering grace.
• Practical examples, including parenting differences and managing conflict in marriage.
• Encouragement to embrace the ebb and flow of life’s challenges while staying grounded in your core values.

I'll also update you on my recent hiatus and why I'm pivoting the direction of Season 9.

All links: https://linktr.ee/corieweathers Work with Corie: www.corieweathers.com 1-on-1 Coaching/Counseling: https://lifegiver.as.me/CorieWeathers Join me on Substack: http://SUBSTACK.COM/@CORIELPC Record Your Question/Message! https://www.speakpipe.com/CorieWeathers Music: nature / nurture by Kaitlyn Raitz