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  • 469: Genie A. revisits
    Jan 5 2025

    🔸 Genie's year-one review

    🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

    Listening back, I notice the shift in energy after meditation. I should offer that sooner.

    It’s not true that I never skip 'feel towards', I just wanted to drive it home here. In fact, her intuition of “ask it for space or to see me” is likely how I would respond (with second part). So perhaps she's bringing 201 skills to a 101 exam. Or I'm failing my exam-creator exam.


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    1 h et 14 min
  • 468: ⏫ Riben A. revisits
    Jan 3 2025

    🔸 Performing for no one, managed to be pretty.
    2️⃣ The 5 year old and the dark spot.

    🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

    Too pushy? Yes, I can hear it: “Don’t say it again, James! Give it a rest, try direct access!” Maybe I should have! But, I'm in the dark a lot here. My concern with D.A. is that I may get sideswiped, ghosted, and/or have my own frustrated parts come up. I can’t see in, so we’re playing telephone.

    I was suspicious about "The 5 year old is the manager", but didn't want to risk losing momentum.


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    2 h et 34 min
  • 466: Christine guides Mio A.
    Jan 1 2025

    🔸 Thanks for the dress, it'll go with my mask.



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    1 h et 30 min
  • 467: Christine guides Olivia A.
    Dec 30 2024

    🔸 I'm supposed to surrender to Self because... I'm stupid?




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    1 h et 33 min
  • 462: Shelley A. revisits
    Dec 28 2024

    🔸 What to say when "you’re not listening to me"


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    54 min
  • 432: ⏫ Onyx A. revisits
    Dec 22 2024

    🔸 Deeply cut, not ok. The worst breakup.
    2️⃣ I can't process my way out of this.


    🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

    Plenty I could do differently... It’s hard! Maybe because I relate so much. So I kept checking in w parts in me. And that limited how much I could show up for her. But I don’t know another way. There are times I feel like I'm not doing a great job In guiding caller, but my biggest regrets come from ignoring my own parts.

    2️⃣ Nothing at all! Whatever allows me to witness and participate in this, I'm grateful for.


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    2 h et 35 min
  • 440: Milan A. - first call (2023)
    Dec 20 2024

    🔸 The rebel wants me to be myself... too much?

    🔹 Parts:

    • The rebel, strong, important to be myself, doesn’t like being told what to do, snowballing. Teenagery. Likes its job, but not pushing people away, and sad & angry about locking up parts when it wants freedom.
    • Trusts Milan, rather team up w cheerleader
    • The people pleaser, stays locked up by rebel.
    • Possible exile(s): feeling of being controlled, memories of a family member, 3 yo, felt small.


    🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

    Call recorded March '23.


    Didn't want to be too challenging, I reigned in some of the more probing questions like “what does it mean by ‘being myself’”, is that the same as IFS-Self? If so… can there be too much? Philosophical stuff that may be answered in the process.
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    43 min
  • 464: Mimi A. revisits
    Dec 18 2024

    🔸 A glimpse over the edge

    🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

    Too much dot-connecting / guessing?


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    1 h et 11 min