Welcome to the Love Your Story podcast. I’m your host Lori Lee and today you are here for a Quick Chat - that’s one inspirational idea in 15 minutes or less.

Today chat is: Every Problem is a thought problem.

It’s a bold statement. But a true one. And one that sets us free. One that puts us in control, most of the time.

So stay tuned as we discuss how much power ACTUALLY have, and how to solve the problems.

Since you are a listener of the Love Your Story podcast I’m going to make the assumption that we are on the same page on the topic of taking responsibility for the pivotal role our thoughts play in shaping our realities. Basically - our thoughts OR stories that we create in our minds create our realities - are we on the same page there? There are 7 Billion realities going on out there…

Ok. With that said, I want to start out with the quote by Byron Katie. She says, “It’s not the problem that causes our suffering; it’s our thinking about the problem.”

In other words, “Every problem is a thought problem.”

Let’s put me in the hot seat. 2023 was a rough year for Realtors and lenders. The higher interest rates meant that for a great many of us the clients buying and selling slowed down. I primarily blamed my slow year on this situation, but here’s another angle - a slower year allowed me to travel more. It gave me more time to reach out and renew and develop relationships with my data base - my past clients. Which part do I want to focus on? Was it a problem or an opportunity? Problems don’t have to stay problems, they can become opportunities if we choose to shift our thoughts.

In the realm of personal development and self reflection this idea invites us to scrutinize the nature of our challenges by recognizing the subjective nature of them. By understanding and claiming that situations and ideas only hold the power we allow them to hold.

Another example - if I come from a family where being a part of a certain religion is tantamount to being right with God and the world, then if I step away from that religion my social construct - family, friends, and members of that congregation may collapse around me, or cause people pain. On the other hand, if there is an acceptance among those people that everyone find their own way in the world, in a way that each individual feels is best for them, then the suffering ceases to happen.

Or, if respect is really important to me, as it is to most type A personalities and I am disrespected, I will/can feel a lot of resentment, anger, frustration, maybe even embarrassment about this, whereas someone for whom that is not an important thing may hardly notice it, or may not feel disrespected in a similar situation. In other words - situations are subjective. Problems are subjective.

My mother used to get really upset when her family parties didn’t unfold as she had expected - her expectations weren’t met and she’d often cry before the night was through - she learned to let go of those expectations and go with the flow as the years went by, but this is a good example of a person creating pain for themselves and then learning how to adjust their thoughts in a way that created less pain for them.

Now let’s combine this with the idea that “everything happens for me, not to me.” With the combination of these two ideas a powerful shift occurs. A shift that can redefine the way we navigate life’s complexities.

Katie’s assertion is that our thoughts about our circumstances themselves contribute more to our issues than do the circumstances themselves.

This is an important thing to realize...

Welcome to the Love Your Story podcast, I’m your host Lori Lee.

Have you ever met someone that brimmed with confidence? I can tell you that there is an energy behind confidence. There is a way you hold yourself, a mindset of expectation that doors will open for you, a presence that actually opens those doors.

There are so many powerful concepts - gratitude, love, allowing, accountability - but today we’re talking about confidence. I’m excited about this because we haven’t talked about confidence before, been coached in confidence before and WE DON’T WANT TO SHORT CHANGE THIS INCREDIBLE MINDSET.

Today I have Chrstina Lecuyer on the show - Voted one of the top Confidence coaches, this former professional golfer and TV host now works with an extensive ist of cientele from around the world. .

Tune into the audio program for a little coaching.

What does confidence look like?

How do we get it if we don’t have it?

Where do we start and how do we use it?

Confidence is defined as a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities.

Our guest today - Christina, battled low self-confidence, an eating disorder, and tying her worth to external validation, Christina was able to turn her life around to create her dream life and a multi six figure business. She uses the same tools she used for herself to help hundreds of clients to create their own profit and success. Through her signature “Decision, Faith & Action” framework clients have not only brought their own dream life into reality, but many have gone on to create multi six and seven figure businesses in the process. I guess we can tie confidence in ourselves to success in business, but I think it propeturates success in all areas of our lives.

Let’s see what Christina says. Join the audio to hear our conversation about:

1. Christina's story: Who were you when you were battling with this low self-esteem and what caused the eating disorder, and how did you evolve and transition out of that?
2. Let’s talk about why confidence is important.
3. Isn’t this a topic almost everyone could use a little coaching in?
4. If you don’t feel confident in yourself? If you’re one of those who hugs the walls, or doesn’t risk, or prays nothing bad will happen because you may crumble under it….how do you start to step into more confidence? Maybe give us a little coaching here:
5. What are some of the stories of people you’ve coached, some of the transformations you’ve seen?

To find Christina:

christina@christinalecuyer.com

www.christinalecuyer.com

1 on 1 Confidence coaching - You're One Decision Away from the Life of your Dreams.

Eleanor Roosevelt said, “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.”

I share this quote because if you haven’t stopped to consider all the tough stuff you’ve navigated, do. Stop and think about it, and realize that when the tough stuff comes along, you make it through. You’ve done it before, you can do it again. This recognition builds confidence in our resiliency, which helps us live with less fear.

And one more quote: Dale Carnegie said, “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get...

Bridle Up Hope

Every once in awhile I run across a story with lots of miracles. Stories, where for some reason, God, the Universe, Fate seems to really be backing up a person or a project. Today we are looking at one of those. We’re going to sit around this technological camp fire and listen to a story about how a young girl passing away from depression created a program that’s backed by miracles.

We’re talking with Nicole Holgreen, the executive director of Bridal Up Hope out of Alpine, Utah, a Rachel Covey Foundation.

Tune into the audio to hear how this foundation that was created after Rachel Covey’s suicide, to support the mental health of girls and women through equine assisted learning - yes - hanging out with horses - how this program finds itself in “ a tidal wave of miracles.”

This is a story of depression and support. It’s a story about the bond between a girl and her horse and it’s a story about hope, healing scars, transformation and miracles in a time when we sorely need them.

Nicole Holgreen is the Executive Director of Bridle Up Hope. She has led an incredible team to expand this organization and its mission to 13 locations worldwide. Nicole oversees the Alpine, Utah Headquarters and the 100 weekly lessons for women and girls here. Nicole is devoted to Bridle Up Hopes's mission to inspire hope, confidence, and resilience through equestrian training and The 7 Habits written by Stephen Covey. Nicole is a Provo, UT. girl and she and her husband Jared have four children and one grandson.

Nicole - Welcome to the LYS Podcast

Join us on the audio program to hear our conversation about:

1. I want stories - when you and I were talking awhile back we filled a couple hours with stories of the miracles that have supported Bridle Up Hope in it’s opening to the world, and even that supported getting you here.
2. Nicole shares her story - Where were you in life when you started crossing paths with Bridle Up Hope?
3. Can I get some specific miracle stories - the ones that stand out to you - that have made Bridal Up Hope possible.
4. Let’s talk about the girls and women that have come here. How many do you serve? Can you share some of your favorite success stories? How have you watched them become empowered?
5. Let’s talk about Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits. What are they and how do they help the girls and women
6. What do you see for the future of Bridle Up Hope?

If someone wants to come to you for service where do they find you OR If someone wants to open a location on their own property - help expand this 1000 barn goal, who do they contact?

Nicole Holgreen

Executive Director of Bridle Up Hope

1141 Watkins Lane

Alpine, UT. 84004

https://www.bridleuphope.org/

Mental health is maybe one of the world’s largest challenges right now. How wonderful that there are highly productive programs that save, that support, that help us navigate this devastating path during this crucial time. This is a story of making a difference, a story of miracles and lives saved.

If you know any women who may be struggling with mental health issues, or if you want to be involved by opening your own Bridal Up Hope non-profit franchise, I hope you’ll share this episode and reach out.

Have a wonderful week, and remember to create your best life with full intention. Listen to back episodes for all the best tools and mind training to help you to create your best story. We’ll