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  • 107: Forget What You Thought You Knew About Good Sex and Start HERE

    107: Forget What You Thought You Knew About Good Sex and Start HERE
    Feb 21 2025

    Beyond Pleasure: Three Keys to Truly Fulfilling Sex

    Sex is at the intersection of life and humanity. For the majority of us, it’s how we got here and for parents, it’s how we will continue on after we are gone. We often hear the term “better” sex, which begs two questions: what does that mean? And, why is the sex we are currently having not good enough?

    In this episode we will define the goal of sex - regardless of the stage of the relationship and we will also discuss what prevents us from having sex that lives up to our desired potential. I’m going to take you on a journey as we explore the three sexual freedoms. Starting with discussing the power of freedom to, which I think describes the stage that myself and my husband/ the creative director of this podcast, Jared Brady are in. Then freedom from, which I discuss with my friends Yancy and Premika Leo. Finally we will talk about the Freedom not to, which I explore with my Lovers Community.

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    If you want to know which freedom you should focus on in order to improve your sex life today, try this quiz
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    Commitment Structure Quiz
    If Shan and Jared’s conversation around open relationships intrigued you, take this quiz to identify your commitment structure
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    39 min
  • 106: Kerry Washington: We Are as Sick as Our Secrets

    106: Kerry Washington: We Are as Sick as Our Secrets
    Jul 26 2024
    Kerry Washington, you read right. Award-winning actor, director, producer, and activist Kerry Washington. In support of the second season of her hit show UnPrisoned on Hulu Onyx Collective, Kerry stopped by Lovers and Friends to discuss what she learned from Paige, how learning that her biological father was a sperm donor changed her family for the better, therapy with her parents and husband, how real parents should get with their kids, her parenting philosophy and more. If you loved Kerry Washington in any of her classics, like Scandal or Django Unchained OR if you read her book Thicker Than Water, you will LOVE UnPrisoned and furthermore, this raw interview on the power and potential that comes when you heal the family by not being afraid to hurt or disappoint one another. Of course I couldn’t have Kerry Washington stop by and NOT talk about sex, reproductive rights and pole dancing - so expect that too :). ALSO relationship expert and UnPrisoned creator Tracy McMillan stops by to discuss the power of intuition.


    Watch the trailer to UnPrisoned

    https://youtu.be/HIn14DY9eFA?si=2VxtEkm6V6_UT3kx


    Watch UnPrisoned

    https://www.hulu.com/series/unprisoned-5b48cecb-15b5-4e06-b475-f2ac5a64bd24


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    Watch her YouTube Show Street You Grew Up On

    https://youtu.be/Omh270yZLbU?si=Fof717hAfW9Fz8iA


    Read her Memoir Thicker than Water

    https://www.amazon.com/Thicker-than-Water-Kerry-Washington/dp/0316497398


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    1 h et 1 min
  • 105: Kelly Rowland on Sex, Kink, Divorce and Repressed Desires

    105: Kelly Rowland on Sex, Kink, Divorce and Repressed Desires
    Feb 26 2024
    Kelly Rowland, you read right. This is a CAN NOT MISS, special release Lovers and Friends episode with Shan Boodram AND it is best experienced after you watch Mea Culpa now streaming worldwide on Netflix. In this intimate, first-of-its-kind conversation Kelly Rowland shares how she went from a sexually repressed upbringing to living up to her pleasure potential as a sensualist, plus how her sexual awakening gave her the confidence to play Mea in Mea Clupa alongside Trevante Rhodes, whom she shares very STEAMY sex scenes with on screen. Kelly also discusses her feelings on divorce, kink, toys in the bedroom, and overcoming the fear of being imperfect.

    Watch the trailer to Mea Culpa
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-p0g9YfjJSA

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    56 min
  • 104: Ride Our Emotional Roller Coaster: The Concluding Episode of Lovers & Friends

    104: Ride Our Emotional Roller Coaster: The Concluding Episode of Lovers & Friends
    Dec 27 2023
    Welcome to (some of) the best of Lovers and Friends the podcast. Hear from JESSIE REYES, MELISSA AND KEV OnSTAGE, ABBY DE LA ROSA, SHANOLA HAMPTON, TIM Chantrangsu aka DE LA GHETTO, DREW LOVE from THEY, RACHEL LINDSAY and GLO ATANMO during this special recap episode.


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    GLO ATANMO
    https://youtu.be/lbIaM09t0ZU?si=GtWZkCBspPlmUA8f
    https://open.spotify.com/episode/1W4xrpdCh0V3OwXZCYt1bO?si=mJNj1rxcQ7a333AUmgsqMA

    JESSIE REYES
    https://youtu.be/7IbgI3-s7Ps?si=j0CL3b8gYqsNbqFe
    https://open.spotify.com/episode/2w3jYgkVIgg2eQoYWuALhp?si=8q3ptyfKQbWn9FrrY3bZTA

    MELISSA AND KEV
    https://youtu.be/hrMVcujhg1A?si=idb7xnDq8TX1aBh_
    https://open.spotify.com/episode/4NjXUyZ5suDL3ytxUALFV8?si=gg3B7zvfQnm5nS9XUpkyZA

    ABBY DE LA ROSA
    https://youtu.be/aq8290G52_I?si=oaI5d_ALvuj82z9V
    https://open.spotify.com/episode/5AM2X8zNwmgV3koVtgemPC?si=pzqGDEw3QMCe8Awx9eFK7Q

    SHANOLA HAMPTON
    https://youtu.be/J7PZakvvdCo?si=LDSbtyjNTKuNmZ1u
    https://open.spotify.com/episode/2pHr7jrSj7iQTZlsbIUoYV?si=-pk8WovdSbqLLyrXDrRpRg

    TIM DE LA GHETTO
    https://youtu.be/G6WYaHFOjEU?si=uDvI7cap3yCs0srq
    https://open.spotify.com/episode/0VuY52Ct9XS9Wua4dtupO6?si=ZFMbJEQOQ56IuBADlxm8og

    DREW LOVE
    https://youtu.be/bdooXjRGprY?si=AG3KL1r-wAfeb8Gm
    https://open.spotify.com/episode/39lGd7mxW9jvpGpOPYMKaj?si=ou8FILHeSGG7P21hCZwMog

    RACHEL LINDSAY
    https://youtu.be/bnEORZJD2pQ?si=LiHiZKFU1-_Cv8l6
    https://open.spotify.com/episode/1kN3P1KoHI3LcnLNRgzY76?si=faUIGN4ATUaLvewVQ3AjCQ

    HELP WHY CAN’T I ORGASM

    https://open.spotify.com/episode/2X8oEJMQ8JNSu6Psa53r7O?si=wJMEWu6vTmGpia1waTZ0Sw
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    1 h et 28 min
  • 103: Get the Fairytale You Need - Despite What You Think You Want feat. Damona Hoffman

    103: Get the Fairytale You Need - Despite What You Think You Want feat. Damona Hoffman
    Dec 20 2023
    FUCK the fairytale! How does that land on you? Does it make you go FUCK YES we need to be realistic about love OR does it make you go FUCK NO I desire the fairytale and that’s what I’ll get. Well when dating coach Damona Hoffman suggests you F the Fairytale, she kinda wants you to feel both. Tired of the same old dating game and ready to find real, lasting love? Join us in this episode of FUCK the Fairytale as we explore what a true fairytale relationship looks like with expert dating coach Damona Hoffman. We’ll challenge outdated ideas of the ideal partner and redefine what happiness looks like in modern relationships. Don’t miss your chance to discover true love - watch now!

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    1 h et 8 min
  • 102: If Someone Says I’m Too Feminine or Too Masculine, I Know We Won’t Work feat. Mal Wright

    102: If Someone Says I’m Too Feminine or Too Masculine, I Know We Won’t Work feat. Mal Wright
    Dec 13 2023
    Are you ready to break free from outdated social norms and discover the real power of being true to yourself? Mal Wright from Netflix's The Ultimatum is here to share her story of why she chose to end her engagement, why gender has no place in sex, and the one thing her next partner must have. Don't miss this inspiring story and get ready to experience the liberating effects of embracing your true self!

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    1 h et 10 min
  • 101: A Therapist and Her Husband Chose To Be Childfree. Here's Why feat. Vanessa and Xander Marin

    101: A Therapist and Her Husband Chose To Be Childfree. Here's Why feat. Vanessa and Xander Marin
    Dec 6 2023
    Are you curious why Vanessa and Xander, a happily married couple, chose not to have children? Find out by joining therapist Vanessa and her husband Xander as they share their personal story about why they chose to remain childfree. Tune in to learn more about their unconventional decision and how it has impacted their lives!

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    45 min
  • 99: If You Haven’t Found Your Go To Position, Try These from the Kama Sutra feat. Seema Anand

    99: If You Haven’t Found Your Go To Position, Try These from the Kama Sutra feat. Seema Anand
    Nov 29 2023
    Becoming a Pro: Master These Kama Sutra Sex Moves and Take Things to the Next Level. Spend some quality time with Seema Anand as she guides you through the Kama Sutra to discover the perfect positions for your pleasure even if the penis is too big, too small, or not experienced enough. From beginner-friendly poses to more advanced options, you'll learn something new no matter your level. So if you haven't found your go-to position yet, tune in now and explore with Seema!

    Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra.

    She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies.

    Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skillfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society.

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    56 min