• Men, save your marriage

  • Auteur(s): Terry Ray
  • Podcast

Men, save your marriage

Auteur(s): Terry Ray
  • Résumé

  • Hello gentlemen and welcome to the ‘Men, Save Your Marriage Show’. My name is Terry, I’m your host. I did an autopsy on my failed marriage and now, I use the lessons I learned to help other men on how to save their marriage before it fails completely. I’m going to share with you the things I wish someone would have shared with me before my marriage failed. Each episode dives into the root causes of marital struggles, offering insights and strategies to reignite connections, rebuild trust, and become the leader your home needs. Whether you’re facing communication breakdowns, emotional distance, or just feel like your marriage is slipping away, I am here to guide you with wisdom, humor, and hard-earned lessons from my own journey. Your marriage isn’t over—this is the wake-up call you’ve been waiting for. Subscribe now, and let’s get to work saving your marriage!
    2024
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  • Special Edition Episode - “Why Most Men Wait Too Long to Get Help”
    May 6 2025
    Special Edition Episode “Why Most Men Wait Too Long to Get Help” CTA: Launch of the 6-Week Coaching Intensive: Marriage Reset for Men Welcome to this special edition of Men, Save Your Marriage. This episode isn’t theory. It’s not a lesson. It’s a call to action—for men who know they’re dangerously close to losing everything. You’re listening right now because deep down, you know. You’ve been trying to fix things on your own. Trying to change… trying to get her to notice… And you’re starting to wonder if any of it is working. Brother—this is your wake-up call. Because most men wait too long to get help. And by the time they do… the damage is deeper, the trust is colder, and the road back is steeper. But it doesn’t have to be that way. There is still a way forward—and I want to give you the tools to take it. PART 1 – The Hidden Cost of Waiting Let’s talk real for a minute. When your marriage is on the rocks, it’s not just your relationship at stake. It’s your peace. Your future. Your finances. Your kids. Your legacy. Every day you stay stuck in confusion, silence, or conflict—you bleed out more than just time. You pay with stress that poisons your work. You pay with nights spent walking on eggshells. You pay with kids who grow up thinking love means distance. And if divorce hits? You’re talking tens of thousands of dollars in court costs, custody battles, splitting assets, and rebuilding from scratch. But if you turn this around now? You save all of that money. You give your kids stability and strength. You reclaim joy, peace, and purpose in your own home. You wake up knowing you’re the man you said you’d be. This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being present. Being a leader again—not a reactor. Being the kind of husband she feels safe with… and maybe even falls in love with again. PART 2 – What the Coaching Intensive Actually Is So here’s what I’ve created for the men who are ready to fight for it: Marriage Reset for Men A 6-week intensive coaching experience designed to give you the plan, the tools, and the accountability to reset your marriage and reclaim your leadership. Here’s what you get: A personalized roadmap based on your marriage situation Weekly 1:1 or small-group coaching sessions with me The Field Manual: frameworks for communication, rebuilding respect, and reintroducing connection A library of tools, card prompts, and date night missions to use in real time Daily accountability and ongoing tactical guidance I built this for men who are tired of guessing. Men who are willing to lead even when she’s distant. Men who want to be proud of how they showed up—even if it’s hard. This isn’t therapy. It’s tactical, masculine, mission-focused coaching. And it works. PART 3 – Why It Matters (What’s in It for You) Here’s what most men don’t think about: If you do nothing—if you just keep “trying your best”—you’ll stay in this fog for another 6 months… 12 months… or until she walks. But if you take decisive action now? You walk away from this 6-week intensive with: Clarity: You stop spinning and start leading. Connection: She notices the difference. And she starts softening again. Confidence: You stop reacting and start responding with calm strength. Financial and emotional peace: You avoid divorce. You protect your assets. You protect your kids. A future: The version of you that comes out of this is the man your wife hoped you’d become. That’s what’s in it for you. You’re not just saving a marriage. You’re rebuilding your life on solid ground. PART 4 – The Call to Action If you’re hearing this and you’re ready to stop waiting, here’s what to do: Go to mensaveyourmarriage.com/reset There’s a short application form. You fill it out, and I’ll review it personally. If it’s a good fit, we’ll book a call. If not—I’ll still give you something useful for free. But understand this: I’m only opening this to 5–10 men max. Because I’m going deep. This is not a mass-market course. This is elite-level guidance for men who want to win. You already know what inaction costs. This is your move. CLOSING Brother—don’t look back a year from now and wish you’d done something sooner. Your wife matters. Your kids matter. You matter. If you want to fight for your marriage with everything you’ve got— And you want a coach who will fight with you— Then go to mensaveyourmarriage.com/reset and apply now. Let’s lead. Let’s rebuild. Let’s win.
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    9 min
  • #37: Love Languages – Speaking Her Language, Not Yours
    May 5 2025
    #37: Love Languages – Speaking Her Language, Not Yours

    INTRO

    Welcome to Men, Save Your Marriage. This is Episode 36 in our Rebuilding Intimacy and Emotional Connection series.

    Let me lay it out straight:

    You might be loving your wife with all your heart—and still leaving her feeling unloved.

    Why? Because you’re speaking your language, not hers.

    Most men operate like this: “I work hard, I provide, I fix things—why doesn’t she feel loved?”
    Because effort doesn’t equal connection if it’s not received the way she needs it.

    In this episode, we’re unpacking the 5 love languages—not just in theory, but in practical, boots-on-the-ground action. You’ll learn how to discover her language, how to use it intentionally, and how to lead with love—even if you feel like you’re not getting anything back right now.

    Let’s get to it.

    Point 1: Most Men Default to Their Own Love Language

    Every man has a default setting.
    Maybe for you it’s physical touch. Or acts of service. Or words of affirmation. So naturally, you show love that way.

    But here’s the truth:

    Just because you’re giving love doesn’t mean she’s receiving it.

    You might be mowing the yard, fixing the faucet, or working 60 hours a week to show love. But if her language is quality time or words of affirmation, your efforts feel like background noise.

    It’s like giving her steak when she’s starving for water.

    She’s not rejecting you—she’s just not getting filled.

    You have to stop speaking your native love language and start speaking hers.

    That’s leadership. That’s sacrifice. That’s what a man does when he wants to win her heart again.

    Point 2: Study Her Like Your Mission Depends on It (Because It Does)

    You wouldn’t approach your job without training.
    You wouldn’t rebuild an engine without specs.
    So why would you try to rebuild a marriage without learning the most basic intel: what makes her feel loved?

    Ask her. Watch her. Take notes.

    What makes her light up?
    When does she seem most at ease?
    What complaints does she repeat? (There’s gold in her frustration.)

    Is it:

    • Words of affirmation: Does she need to hear that she matters to you?

    • Acts of service: Does she light up when you take something off her plate?

    • Quality time: Does she want undivided attention without your phone in your hand?

    • Physical touch: Does she relax when you hold her without pressure?

    • Receiving gifts: Does she appreciate thoughtfulness in little surprises?

    Her love language is your playbook. Use it.

    This isn’t about guessing—it’s about learning and leading.

    Point 3: Lead in Love Even When It’s One-Sided

    Here’s the tough part:

    She may not be speaking your love language right now.
    You might feel like you’re pouring into her, and she’s giving you nothing back.

    That’s the test.

    Do you love her based on what she gives you… or based on who you’ve chosen to become?

    You don’t love to get. You love because it’s who you are now.

    Lead in love because you’re the man who does what’s needed—not the man who waits for a reward.

    And when she starts to feel seen, understood, and loved again—she’ll begin to soften.

    WRAP-UP

    Loving her your way might feel good to you—but it won’t move the needle unless it lands with her.

    You’ve got to learn her language. You’ve got to speak it fluently. You’ve got to do it consistently—especially when it’s inconvenient.

    That’s how connection is rebuilt.
    That’s how trust is regained.
    That’s how intimacy is restored.

    CALL TO ACTION

    Brother, don’t just nod your head and move on.
    Text her right now and say:

    “What makes you feel most loved by me?”

    Then shut up and listen.

    And if this episode hit hard, subscribe. Leave a review. And share it with one man who’s trying hard—but needs to start trying smart.

    FINAL THOUGHT

    If she’s not feeling loved, it’s not about how hard you’re trying. It’s about whether it’s landing.

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    13 min
  • #36: The Power of Non-Sexual Touch Building Connection Without Pressure
    Apr 30 2025
    Episode #36: The Power of Non-Sexual Touch - Building Connection Without Pressure

    INTRO:

    Welcome to Men, Save Your Marriage.
    This is Episode 36—and we’re dialing in on something subtle, but powerful:

    Non-sexual touch.

    See, a lot of men think, “If I touch her more, maybe she’ll want me more.”
    But if every kiss turns into a grab, every hug feels like a cue for sex…
    She starts pulling away—not because she doesn’t want connection, but because she doesn’t feel safe inside it.

    Let’s break this down.

    • Why non-sexual touch is essential.

    • How to use it to rebuild emotional trust.

    • And why mastering this will actually lead to a deeper, more passionate connection over time.

    🔹 POINT 1: Every Touch Doesn’t Have to Lead Somewhere

    Ask yourself a hard question:

    “Have I trained her to expect pressure every time I reach for her?”

    If she flinches, freezes, or pulls away when you put your arm around her… it’s not random.

    It’s pattern recognition.

    She’s learned that your touch is a prelude to something she might not be ready for.

    Here’s the key:
    Touch without trajectory.

    Hold her hand—just to hold it.
    Sit close to her—without an agenda.
    Let your touch say “I see you” instead of “I want something.”

    If she doesn’t trust your touch, she won’t trust your presence.

    Safe touch builds connection.
    Pressuring touch builds resentment.

    This isn’t about denying desire—it’s about rebuilding trust.

    🔹 POINT 2: Her Guard Lowers When She Feels Safe to Receive

    Think about it:
    How often does she get to just receive affection without it becoming a transaction?

    Touch is a language. And when it’s always saying “give me more,” she stops listening.

    But if your hands speak patience, care, and safety?

    Her body starts to believe again.

    Examples?

    • Rub her shoulders for no reason.

    • Kiss her forehead and walk away.

    • Brush her hair out of her face and say nothing.

    • Hold her hand at the grocery store.

    • Sit on the couch and just put your arm around her without pulling her in.

    Touch her like she’s valuable—not useful.

    That kind of affection disarms fear and rebuilds openness.

    Let it just be about closeness. No finish line. No angle. No manipulation.

    🔹 POINT 3: You Create the Atmosphere

    She’s not broken.
    She’s not cold.
    She’s not “just not into you.”

    She’s responding to the environment you create.

    Your tone. Your attitude. Your touch.

    Ask yourself:

    “Would I feel safe opening up if someone only touched me when they wanted something?”

    If she feels like every physical interaction has a price tag, she’ll emotionally withdraw.
    But if your touch feels like a gift—given freely, given often, and given gently—her guard will come down.

    Let your body language say:

    “I’m here.”
    “I see you.”
    “You matter.”

    That’s what non-sexual touch communicates at its highest level.

    You’re not just touching her body—you’re ministering to her heart.

    And when she trusts your touch again, deeper connection follows.

    WRAP-UP:

    You want her to crave closeness again?
    Then stop making every touch a negotiation for sex.

    Be the man who shows up with presence, patience, and peace.

    She’s watching how you handle her heart—before she gives you her body.

    CALL TO ACTION:

    If something in this episode hit home for you, here’s what to do next:

    • Hit subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next.

    • Leave a review—it helps the mission grow.

    • And share this episode with one man who’s making the same mistakes you used to make.

    Don’t keep it to yourself. We’re in this together.

    FINAL THOUGHT:

    A man who can touch without taking
    is a man she’ll learn to trust again.

    And when trust comes back?
    So does everything else.

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    16 min

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