• Men, save your marriage

  • Auteur(s): Terry Ray
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Men, save your marriage

Auteur(s): Terry Ray
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  • Hello gentlemen and welcome to the ‘Men, Save Your Marriage Show’. My name is Terry, I’m your host. I did an autopsy on my failed marriage and now, I use the lessons I learned to help other men on how to save their marriage before it fails completely. I’m going to share with you the things I wish someone would have shared with me before my marriage failed. Each episode dives into the root causes of marital struggles, offering insights and strategies to reignite connections, rebuild trust, and become the leader your home needs. Whether you’re facing communication breakdowns, emotional distance, or just feel like your marriage is slipping away, I am here to guide you with wisdom, humor, and hard-earned lessons from my own journey. Your marriage isn’t over—this is the wake-up call you’ve been waiting for. Subscribe now, and let’s get to work saving your marriage!
    2024
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  • #36: The Power of Non-Sexual Touch Building Connection Without Pressure
    Apr 30 2025
    Episode #36: The Power of Non-Sexual Touch - Building Connection Without Pressure

    INTRO:

    Welcome to Men, Save Your Marriage.
    This is Episode 36—and we’re dialing in on something subtle, but powerful:

    Non-sexual touch.

    See, a lot of men think, “If I touch her more, maybe she’ll want me more.”
    But if every kiss turns into a grab, every hug feels like a cue for sex…
    She starts pulling away—not because she doesn’t want connection, but because she doesn’t feel safe inside it.

    Let’s break this down.

    • Why non-sexual touch is essential.

    • How to use it to rebuild emotional trust.

    • And why mastering this will actually lead to a deeper, more passionate connection over time.

    🔹 POINT 1: Every Touch Doesn’t Have to Lead Somewhere

    Ask yourself a hard question:

    “Have I trained her to expect pressure every time I reach for her?”

    If she flinches, freezes, or pulls away when you put your arm around her… it’s not random.

    It’s pattern recognition.

    She’s learned that your touch is a prelude to something she might not be ready for.

    Here’s the key:
    Touch without trajectory.

    Hold her hand—just to hold it.
    Sit close to her—without an agenda.
    Let your touch say “I see you” instead of “I want something.”

    If she doesn’t trust your touch, she won’t trust your presence.

    Safe touch builds connection.
    Pressuring touch builds resentment.

    This isn’t about denying desire—it’s about rebuilding trust.

    🔹 POINT 2: Her Guard Lowers When She Feels Safe to Receive

    Think about it:
    How often does she get to just receive affection without it becoming a transaction?

    Touch is a language. And when it’s always saying “give me more,” she stops listening.

    But if your hands speak patience, care, and safety?

    Her body starts to believe again.

    Examples?

    • Rub her shoulders for no reason.

    • Kiss her forehead and walk away.

    • Brush her hair out of her face and say nothing.

    • Hold her hand at the grocery store.

    • Sit on the couch and just put your arm around her without pulling her in.

    Touch her like she’s valuable—not useful.

    That kind of affection disarms fear and rebuilds openness.

    Let it just be about closeness. No finish line. No angle. No manipulation.

    🔹 POINT 3: You Create the Atmosphere

    She’s not broken.
    She’s not cold.
    She’s not “just not into you.”

    She’s responding to the environment you create.

    Your tone. Your attitude. Your touch.

    Ask yourself:

    “Would I feel safe opening up if someone only touched me when they wanted something?”

    If she feels like every physical interaction has a price tag, she’ll emotionally withdraw.
    But if your touch feels like a gift—given freely, given often, and given gently—her guard will come down.

    Let your body language say:

    “I’m here.”
    “I see you.”
    “You matter.”

    That’s what non-sexual touch communicates at its highest level.

    You’re not just touching her body—you’re ministering to her heart.

    And when she trusts your touch again, deeper connection follows.

    WRAP-UP:

    You want her to crave closeness again?
    Then stop making every touch a negotiation for sex.

    Be the man who shows up with presence, patience, and peace.

    She’s watching how you handle her heart—before she gives you her body.

    CALL TO ACTION:

    If something in this episode hit home for you, here’s what to do next:

    • Hit subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next.

    • Leave a review—it helps the mission grow.

    • And share this episode with one man who’s making the same mistakes you used to make.

    Don’t keep it to yourself. We’re in this together.

    FINAL THOUGHT:

    A man who can touch without taking
    is a man she’ll learn to trust again.

    And when trust comes back?
    So does everything else.

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    16 min
  • #35: Creating Emotional Safety in the Bedroom - Her Desire Starts with Trust
    Apr 28 2025
    Episode #35: Creating Emotional Safety in the Bedroom - Her Desire Starts with Trust

    INTRO:

    Welcome back to Men, Save Your Marriage. This is Episode 35, and today we’re getting real about something most guys misunderstand:

    You think it’s about technique.
    She’s asking: “Can I trust you with my heart?”

    If your wife doesn’t feel emotionally safe, her body won’t respond the way you hope.
    And no, it’s not about lighting candles or buying the right kind of underwear.

    It’s about leadership.
    It’s about presence.
    And it starts long before the bedroom.

    🔹 POINT 1: Emotional Safety Unlocks Physical Response

    Here’s the truth most men miss:

    If she feels judged, rushed, or invisible—she will close up.

    • If she thinks you’re comparing her to a version of herself from 10 years ago…

    • If she feels like your touch is a transaction to “get something”…

    • If she senses that you’re more focused on her body than her being…

    She doesn’t feel seen. And when she doesn’t feel seen, she doesn’t feel safe.

    What does emotional safety sound like to her?

    “I love you just as you are.”
    “There’s no rush. I just want to be close.”
    “I’m here for you, even if nothing physical happens tonight.”

    When you show that you care more about connection than climax…
    When your body language says “you matter,” not just “you’re mine”…

    Her nervous system relaxes. And that is when intimacy becomes possible.

    🔹 POINT 2: Don’t Treat Her Like a Problem to Solve

    This is where most men blow it.

    She pulls away—emotionally, physically—and you react.

    You get silent. Or sarcastic. Or start sulking.
    You shut down… or worse, you press harder.

    Her brain is scanning for threat.

    And every pout, guilt trip, or passive-aggressive comment registers as danger.

    Let’s flip that.

    When she pulls away, ask:

    “What would help you feel more connected to me right now?”

    That question shows emotional maturity. It shows leadership. It says:

    “I care more about your heart than my ego.”

    That’s the moment she starts to trust you again.
    Not because you fixed anything, but because you didn’t freak out.

    Remember: she’s not a riddle to solve—she’s a woman to lead with gentleness and strength.

    🔹 POINT 3: Make the Bedroom About Giving, Not Getting

    You want her to open up?

    Lead with presence.

    • Don’t rush.

    • Don’t grope.

    • Don’t make your needs louder than her comfort.

    Touch her like you know she’s sacred.
    Look at her like she’s a gift, not a goal.
    Speak to her like she’s the only woman in the world—because she is.

    When she feels treasured, not pressured…
    When she feels adored, not evaluated…

    That’s when you become the man she wants, not the boy who begs.

    The most attractive thing you can bring to the bedroom isn’t dominance—it’s devotion.

    When she’s at her most vulnerable, she wants to know:
    “Can I trust you to stay gentle, even when you’re full of desire?”

    Make the bedroom a sanctuary, not a scoreboard.

    WRAP-UP:

    Look, I know this can be hard. You’re human. You’ve got needs too.
    But if your goal is real connection—and not just momentary release—then emotional safety has to come first.

    You want her to want you?
    Then become the man she doesn’t have to brace herself against.

    When she feels secure, her body will follow.

    CALL TO ACTION:

    Subscribe to the show.
    Leave a review.
    And most importantly—send this episode to a brother who’s still blaming his wife instead of leading his home.

    FINAL THOUGHT:

    Emotional safety is foreplay.
    If she can’t relax around you, nothing else matters.

    And brother—if she doesn’t feel safe, she can’t feel sexy.

    Be the man who makes her feel both.

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    16 min
  • #34: Physical Intimacy Without Emotional Closeness – Why She Feels Used
    Apr 23 2025
    #34: Physical Intimacy Without Emotional Closeness – Why She Feels Used

    Welcome back to Men, Save Your Marriage. This is Episode 34 in our series on Rebuilding Intimacy and Emotional Connection.

    Let’s hit it head-on:

    If you're still trying to get sex without building connection, she doesn’t feel desired—she feels used.

    This is why the bedroom is cold. Not because she's “not in the mood”—but because she doesn't feel emotionally seen, heard, or wanted outside the bedroom.

    Let’s break down why emotional closeness is a prerequisite to physical intimacy for her, how men often sabotage this without knowing, and what it really takes to reconnect body and soul.

    Point 1: Sex Without Emotional Closeness Feels Like Transaction, Not Intimacy

    She can tell when you’re pursuing her out of genuine desire...
    And when you’re just trying to get your fix.

    If you only touch her when you want something—
    If the only time you show kindness is to get sex—
    If there’s zero connection, but you expect heat in the bedroom—

    Then she doesn’t feel loved. She feels used.

    Want her to crave physical connection? Start connecting emotionally—outside the bedroom.

    Point 2: You Can’t Shortcut Emotional Closeness

    You might think, “I brought flowers. I said I love you. Why isn't she responding?”

    Because you can't manipulate her into bed.

    She’s asking:

    • “Do you see me?”

    • “Do you care about me when we’re not having sex?”

    • “Are you safe emotionally—or just physically present?”

    Real intimacy comes when she feels emotionally safe.
    Not when she feels obligated.

    Point 3: Build Connection That Leads to Desire

    You want passion back? Earn her trust back.

    Here’s how:

    • Talk to her without an agenda. Ask how she’s doing. Really listen.

    • Touch her with no expectation. A gentle hand on her back. A kiss on her head. Zero strings.

    • Make her feel chosen. Compliment her. See her. Appreciate her.

    • Give without keeping score.

    Emotional connection is the runway. Physical intimacy is the takeoff.

    Before we wrap up….

    Your marriage is slipping—and you know it.
    It’s not what it used to be. Hell, maybe it’s barely alive.
    The silence is louder than the yelling ever was.
    She’s checked out emotionally… and maybe you have too.

    I’ve lived this. I let it get worse before I did anything.
    Don’t make the same mistake.

    If you're tired of watching your marriage bleed out while you sit on your hands—
    then it’s time to step the hell up.

    I built the 7-Day Marriage Reset Challenge for men who are finally ready to lead.

    Start today:
    MenSaveYourMarriage.com/reset

    WRAP-UP

    Brother, when she says she feels disconnected, she’s not rejecting you—she’s begging for you.

    She wants a man who sees her heart, not just her body.
    Be that man, and the bedroom will take care of itself.

    CALL TO ACTION

    If this episode called you out—good. Now share it. Subscribe, review, and send it to one other man who needs to hear it.

    FINAL THOUGHT

    You can't have a connected bedroom with a disconnected heart.

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    16 min

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