In this conversation, Andy and Marie-Helene Pelletier explore the concept of resilience, particularly in the context of workplace challenges and personal well-being. They discuss the importance of understanding resilience as a state that can fluctuate rather than a fixed personality trait. Marie shares insights from her book, The Resilience Plan: A Strategic Approach to Optimizing Your Work Performance and Mental Health. She emphasizes the need for strategic planning to enhance resilience and manage burnout. The discussion also covers cognitive patterns that can hinder resilience, the balance of life's demands and supplies, and practical steps to create a personalized resilience plan. Additionally, they touch on the role of parents in fostering resilience in children.

This episode prepares you to handle the demands that come with leading teams and projects. Enjoy!

• “The class went great. I was a wreck.”
• "We know from research that resilience is not a personality trait. It’s a state, which means it will fluctuate over time, which also means we can influence it."
• "Resilience is our ability to go through adversity and come out even stronger."
• "People will tend to minimize the demands they have, and then on the supply side, people will tend to overestimate the sources of energy they have."
• "I think we too easily sacrifice our self-care. We wait for things to fall apart and then we’re like, ‘Oh, I hit burnout.’ What if we were able to put together a resilience plan?”

• 00:00 Introduction
• 02:02 Start of Interview
• 02:14 What Got You Into Psychology?
• 04:00 Understanding Resilience Misconceptions
• 05:45 Is Resilience Just Genetics And Personality?
• 08:01 The Role Of Context In Resilience
• 10:43 BEAR Thinking
• 14:25 Supply And Demands Inventory
• 18:13 The Role Of Values
• 26:02 Applying Resilience Strategies To Parenting
• 28:42 End Of Interview
• 29:07 Andy Comments After The Interview
• 32:17 Outtakes

You can learn more about Marie-Helene and her work at DrMarie-Helene.com/.

For more learning on this topic, check out:

• Episode 398 with Dr. Neha Sangwan about her book on burnout.
• Episode 132 with StrengthsFinder author Tom Rath about energizing the burned out project manager.
• Episode 106, also with Tom Rath, about his book Eat, Move, Sleep.

Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast!

Talent Triangle: Power Skills

Topics: Resilience, Burnout, Mental Health, Self-Care, Leadership, Personal Development, Emotional Intelligence, Workplace Wellness, Project Management

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Music: ImageFilm34 by Sascha Ende
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Music: Chillhouse by Frank Schroeter
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In this conversation, Andy talks with Michael Chad Hoeppner to discuss his new book Don't Say Um: How to Communicate Effectively to Live a Better Life. The book is packed with practical drills and insights to improve communication skills. Andy and Michael explore common misconceptions about public speaking, the importance of delivery over content, and practical exercises to enhance communication skills to help you become more confident and effective communicators at work and home.

Michael emphasizes that everyone is a public speaker in their daily lives and that good communication is fundamentally about being other-focused.

Want to speak in a way that people actually listen? This episode is for you!

• “You do make a living by speaking.”
• "There’s no such thing as public speaking—there’s just speaking."
• "If you ever get advice that features the words ‘don’t’ and ‘just’ in a single sentence, you should probably run away from it."
• "Filler words aren’t the problem. They’re a symptom."
• "AI is about to give us perfect content. The real skill? Delivering it well."
• "If every time you speak, you’re trying to sound smart, you’re going to sound dumb."
• "Every time you say 'um,' your brain is asking for time. Give it the time—without the 'um'."
• "If you can tolerate silence, you’ll always sound smarter."
• "The first rule of better posture? Stop thinking about posture."
• "If you’re not getting better at speaking, you’re limiting your career without even realizing it."

• 00:00 Introduction
• 02:16 Start Of Interview
• 03:52 Why Are We All Professional Speakers?
• 07:34 What Is Some of the Worst Speaking Advice?
• 11:09 What is Good Communication?
• 14:29 Why is Delivery More Important Than Content?
• 20:40 The GK Lego Drill
• 26:52 About Filler Words Like Um
• 31:32 What You Need to Know About Posture
• 39:19 Advice for Parents
• 44:08 End Of Interview
• 44:39 Andy Comments After The Interview
• 47:50 Outtakes

You can learn more about Michael and his work at GKTraining.com/Michael-Chad-Hoeppner.

For more learning on this topic, check out:

• Episode 378 with Bill McGowan about his book Pitch Perfect.
• Episode 98 with communications expert Nancy Duarte.
• Episode 349 with Tina Kuhn about her book on communication scenarios.

Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast!

Talent Triangle: Power Skills

Topics: Public Speaking, Communication Skills, Speaking Tips, Leadership, Filler Words, Posture, Parenting, Storytelling, Project Management

The following music was used for this episode:

Music: The Fantastical Ferret by Tim Kulig
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Music: Synthiemania by Frank Schroeter
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In this conversation, Andy talks with Adam Galinsky about his new book Inspire: The Universal Path for Leading Yourself and Others. Adam discusses the elements that make a leader truly inspiring, debunking the myth that inspirational qualities are innate rather than developed. The conversation covers Adam's Inspiring Trifecta (being visionary, an exemplar, and a mentor) along with the leader amplification effect. Additionally, they explore actionable strategies from Adam's research, including the importance of perspective-taking, the impact of the leader amplification commitment, and techniques for improving self-awareness and daily practices for sustained inspiration.

Looking for practical advice to inspire those around you? This episode is for you!

• “It’s not, ‘Are you inspiring or infuriating?’ It’s, ‘Are you currently inspiring or infuriating?”
• “Your passion can become their passion. Your calmness in a crisis can become their calmness. But on the flip side, your anxiety can become their anxiety.”
• “Never tell someone, ‘We need to talk,’ without telling them why.”
• “What if every single morning, over a cup of coffee, you sent one email just thanking someone for something they did?”
• “Shame turns us into ostriches. Guilt moves us toward action.”
• “To be visionary, you don’t need to be loud—you need to be clear.”
• “Your leadership isn’t just what you say—it’s what people see.”
• “The question isn’t ‘Are you a great leader?’ The question is, ‘What are you doing right now that makes you one?”

• 00:00 Introduction
• 01:37 Start Of Interview
• 01:45 What Inspired You To Get Into Psychology?
• 02:51 What Are Some Common Myths About Inspiration?
• 03:49 Do You Have to Be Extroverted to Be Inspiring?
• 05:51 What's The Difference Between Inspiring and Infuriating Leaders?
• 08:48 Why You Should Never Say "We Need to Talk"
• 13:45 What Is the Leader Amplification Effect?
• 19:07 How Can I Better Get Someone Else's Perspective?
• 22:59 How Does Adam Overcome Feeling Insecure?
• 25:21 What's The Role of Self-Talk In Helping Us Be Inspiring?
• 29:15 How Does Ranking Our Values Help?
• 30:56 How Does Adam Practice Being Inspiring (Introduction to REAP)
• 32:43 Advice for Parents
• 36:11 End Of Interview
• 36:34 Andy Comments After The Interview
• 42:11 Outtakes

You can learn more about Adam and his work at AdamGalinsky.com.

For more learning on this topic, check out:

• Episodes 416 and 153 with Jim Kouzes about leadership.

• Episode 362 with Ayelet Fishbach about her book on motivation.
• Episode 94 with Heidi Grant and Torry Higgins about their work on motivation.

Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast!

Talent Triangle: Power Skills

Topics: Inspiration, Leadership, Communication, Self-Awareness, Emotional Intelligence, Parenting, Project Management

The following music was used for this episode:

Music: Echo by Alexander Nakarada
License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license

Music: Tuesday by Sascha Ende
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