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Hi, I'm Jenny, a life coach for INFJs.

Today, I'm discussing how INFJs can find their dream job. Here's some of my key points:

Learning Through Doing: INFJs need to experience jobs firsthand to determine if they fit, as we struggle to predict our preferences without trying them out.

Unseen Job Factors: Job satisfaction often hinges on company culture, work-life balance, leadership style, and how mistakes are handled—elements not listed in job descriptions.

Sensitivity to Environment: INFJs absorb the emotions of those around them and are sensitive to their surroundings. We need control over our environment to stay focused and energized.

Focus and Productivity: We work best in bursts of an hour, needing breaks to maintain productivity. Our intuitive skills and pattern recognition are often undervalued in traditional job settings.

Challenges in Mental Health Jobs: Despite being natural psychologists, many mental health roles don't support our need for self-care, leading to burnout and hypocrisy in these settings.

Perceptions of Money: INFJs often see money as negative and may undervalue their worth, leading to lower-paying jobs. We struggle to demand fair compensation and may overgive in various aspects of our lives.

Codependency with Jobs: We tend to prioritize our jobs over our own needs, staying in bad positions too long out of loyalty. Quitting sooner and exploring more opportunities is crucial for finding a fulfilling role.

Strategies for Success:

Don't feel guilty about job-hopping.

Consider working part-time to explore different roles.

Seek accommodations if you have a mental health diagnosis.

Use AI tools to enhance your job search and application process.

Start a side business and leverage tax benefits.

Creating Your Own Path: The best job for INFJs is often self-created, tailored to our strengths and energy levels. Avoid burnout by balancing left-brained and right-brained approaches to business.

I'm launching a course on spiritual solopreneurship, designed to help INFJs create businesses that align with their energy and nervous systems. For more details, sign up for my newsletter at jennydobson.com/newsletter. Thanks for listening, and I'll be back soon!

Stay weird. ✌️

(Plus no one can even afford kids)

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Why INFJs Don’t Want Kids Hey everyone, I’m Jenny, your existential life coach, and today we’re talking about why many INFJs don’t want kids. Before moving on, a quick reminder: don’t ask people why they don’t have kids. I promise you that they have a good reason (infertility, miscarriage, the list goes on), and that reason is also none of your business. If you ask someone this question, I hope you’re embarrassed by the answer because you honestly deserve it. It’s not because INFJs are bad parents Plenty of INFJs choose to become parents, and their empathetic and nurturing personalities make them great at it. This is nothing against those who do have children. These are just the reasons why some of us choose not to. 1. Kids Are Great, Let's Not Ruin That: Many INFJs love kids—other people’s kids. We see you parents trudging through the same daily responsibilities every day, and it honestly looks terrible. If we had to do that every day, we would be miserable too. We prefer to continue liking children instead of resenting them. 2. Alone Time Is Sacred: INFJs need their solitude like they need air and kids are like cute little energy vampires. Alone time, peace, and quiet, a good night sleep are not just things that are nice to have for us, they are deep and essential NEEDs. With the constant demands of parenting, where does one sneak in that precious alone time? We already know the answer: You don’t. 3. Motherhood is Metal: INFJ women are always thinking 10 steps ahead and that includes the toll motherhood takes on our bodies. It’s seriously a mystery to us why no one seems to acknowledge the absolutely insane levels of havoc motherhood reeks on your body. That’s not to mention the endless doctors' appointments surrounded by strangers who are busy touching, poking and prodding us. Medical trauma is real, hormone changes are real and it takes YEARS for a mother’s body to return to normal. 4. The World Is an Epic Mess: This is really not a world we would like to bring children into. The education system is completely broken and designed to create mindless sheeple, but we’re also not going to give up what precious alone time we have left to homeschool our kids. Plus, even if we don’t mess our own kids up, they still end up having to deal with someone else’s evil demon spawns. 5. It’s Our Turn to be Children: A lot of INFJs are still sorting through our own childhood issues. We were robbed of the time or permission to be children growing up, so no we’re reclaiming that lost time. We’re busy reparenting ourselves and aren’t about to start on another human being. It’s about healing ourselves first—kids can wait or not happen at all. 6. There’s No Help: Remember when villages helped raise children? Yeah, neither do we. But that’s how it’s supposed to work. We’re supposed to get our exercise organically, because everything is supposed to be walkable. Child care is supposed to be built-in to our society. Not a service you have to drive to and pay for. Wise old elders are supposed to help raise children with knowledge younger parents haven’t acquired yet. On top of this, many INFJs are busy trying to raise wounded immature partners. It might just be that we can't find anyone who's worth breeding with. (I'm not looking. Don't contact me). INFJs don’t pass on parenting because they’re incapable. They’re actually so smart and capable that they know better. They care more about their hypothetical children than many real parents care for their own real children. If anything, INFJs are too aware, too in tune with the demands and realities—and they’re opting out. If you have a reason I missed, drop a comment on the video. If you liked this episode, help my channel by subscribing and hitting the notification bell. If you don’t like my videos, they’re free. So all you have to do is not watch them. Leaving comments actually boosts the algorithm.

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Transference (or repetition compulsion) happens a lot in abusive relationships where the abuser will replay their trauma onto or in front of you without any acknowledgment or awareness that they are doing so. The problem is that the narcissist doesn’t care that they are replaying their trauma by abusing us, and so they have no motivation to stop.
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