Welcome back to No Filter Femme, the podcast where we have real, unfiltered conversations by black women, for black women. This episode is Part 2 of “Rebel Love,” exploring the journey of redefining love and relationships for women over 40. Hosts Melia Arnett Archie and Kelli Mason dive deep into love, sexuality, and self-discovery, breaking down barriers and reshaping perspectives on romance at this stage of life. From navigating intimacy to overcoming societal expectations, this episode provides bold and empowering insights.

Show Notes:

[00:00:00 - 00:03:30] Introduction to Part 2

• Melia and Kelli welcome back listeners and recap Episode 4 Part 1, setting the stage for continued discussions on redefining love over 40.

[00:03:31 - 00:08:00] Exploring Sexuality Over 40

• The hosts reflect on conversations with previous guests who discussed how sex changes with age, both within and outside marriage.
• Kelli shares how open dialogue with others has helped her better understand her own needs and desires.

[00:08:01 - 00:13:00] Communication as a Path to Fulfillment

• Kelli and Melia emphasize the importance of honest communication with partners about intimacy and preferences.
• They share examples where simple adjustments in communication led to greater satisfaction in relationships.

[00:13:01 - 00:18:00] Freedom in Redefining Connections

• The hosts discuss how age brings freedom to define relationships based on personal needs rather than societal expectations.
• They explore the ability to separate physical and emotional connections, and the empowerment it brings.

[00:18:01 - 00:23:30] Hormones and Their Impact on Sexuality

• Discussion on the effects of menopause and hormonal changes on intimacy, including varying impacts on sex drive among women over 40.
• Kelli shares her personal experience with low libido and the relief in learning it’s a common issue that can be addressed.

[00:23:31 - 00:28:00] Breaking Generational Silence

• Reflection on how past generations avoided conversations about sexuality, creating a need for open dialogue now.

[00:28:01 - 00:32:00] Religion, Spirituality, and Sexuality

• Melia shares her perspective as a pastor on how religion has influenced views on sexuality, often leading to guilt or shame for women.
• They advocate for reframing religious teachings to support sexual freedom and fulfillment.

[00:32:01 - 00:34:30] No Filter Flash Q&A

• Melia and Kelli dive into a rapid-fire Q&A, answering spontaneous questions on their personal goals and experiences over 40.

[00:34:31 - 00:36:02] Closing Thoughts

• The hosts encourage listeners to embrace self-discovery, define love on their own terms, and seek out supportive communities.

Thank you for joining us for another unapologetically real episode of No Filter Femme. We hope today’s conversation has inspired you to redefine love, embrace your unique path, and connect with your desires without hesitation. If you enjoyed the episode, please subscribe to our podcast, follow us on social media @nofilterfemme, and share this episode with friends. Your ratings and reviews mean the world to us, so please take a moment to leave one! We look forward to bringing you more unfiltered conversations that celebrate the beauty of being a black woman over 40.