It is really important to Jes that you know this episode was recorded BEFORE Thanksgiving and that it was supposed to be out BEFORE Thanksgiving, and she's really sorry it's only coming out now on Christmas Eve Eve. Good ol' ADHD and general overwhelm.

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In this episode, The Daylovers and friend-of-the-pod Chaneé Jackson Kendall sit down to hash out some of the common difficulties and pitfalls polyamorous folks face during the holiday season. They answer 3 listener emails, including one about working through the emotions of your partner missing traditions to be with their new partner, one about navigating the holidays as a hinge, and one about being the new partner entering into an established family's holidays.

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Episode highlights:

• There are only 8 (actually 3 now) tickets left for Jes and Chaneé's "You Wanna Be Polyamorous But You..." workshop on 11/2
• Jes is willing to be ruined by the "Homosexual Lesbian Spirits", and also she made merch about it.
• Jes is back on dating apps for the first time in almost 2 years because of a tv show, and Joe is really happy for her for it
• Joe makes Jes late to her first first date in almost 2 years
• Jes suddenly has the ability to go on a first date without making the person jump through her autistic demisexual screening hoops
• Jes suggests Joe becomes a bull so he can fuck some hot wives

This episode's Intrusive Thots include:

• Jes will never be free of all toxins, and
• Joe wonders if folks will look nostalgically back at this era

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In this episode, Jessica and Chaneé (@chaneespeaks on all the socials) spin off of their last episode together where they talked about earning your "polyamory stripes" through "fuckin' up and fixin' it," as Chaneé says. In this convo they dive into specific mistakes they've each made over the last 10 years, and the character arcs that came out of that journey.

Some themes include:

-security and stability are illusions of monogamy

-impulsive, addict-like behavior during NRE

-the nuances of having a more intense sexual chemistry with a new partner

-getting tired of your own bullshit

-the role psychedelics can play in helping your non-monogamy journey

-and, as always, Chaneé's giant ( . Y . )

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