In this episode of Sex and Bacon, Sarah sits down with executive coach and self-sabotage expert Minh-Thu Lam from Higher Alignment Consulting to uncover the sneaky ways we sabotage our own happiness—especially in relationships.

From unspoken needs and toxic patterns to the role of the nervous system in love, this deep and raw conversation reveals why we keep making the same mistakes and, more importantly, how to break free.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

💥 Why We Self-Sabotage: Minh-Thu breaks down the subconscious patterns that keep us stuck, from childhood conditioning to societal programming.

🛑 Recognizing the Signs: Struggling with ghosting, repeating toxic relationship cycles, or pushing away healthy love? Here’s how to identify self-sabotage in action.

💡 Healing Through Awareness: Learn how to stop reacting from fear, regulate your nervous system, and start making intentional choices in love and life.

🔄 Dating with Clarity: Sarah and Minh-Thu discuss how to set boundaries, voice your needs, and stop expecting partners to be mind readers.

🌱 Growth Over Comfort: Unlearning unhealthy patterns is uncomfortable—but it’s the key to creating the deep, fulfilling relationships we actually want.

🔥 The Hard Truth: If you keep attracting the same type of partner, the common denominator is you—but that also means you have the power to change it.

We get into:

• 00:00 Welcome to the Sex and Bacon Podcast

• 02:11 The Root Cause of Burnout

• 03:43 Understanding Self-Sabotage

• 04:46 Self-Sabotage in Relationships

• 06:57 Childhood Conditioning and Relationship Dynamics

• 18:05 The Importance of Setting Boundaries

• 26:49 Recognizing Self-Sabotaging Patterns

• 34:52 Recognizing Old Patterns and Moving Forward

• 35:06 The Importance of Surrounding Yourself with Positive Influences

• 35:34 The Role of Coaches and Therapists

• 37:03 Choosing the Right Coach

• 38:01 Self-Sabotage and Its Reflection on Self-Worth

• 39:51 The Importance of Prioritizing Wellbeing in Relationships

• 43:35 Tools to Overcome Self-Sabotage

• 46:17 Regulating Your Nervous System

• 53:04 The Value of Open Communication in Relationships

• 59:26 Taking Control of Your Life and Seeking Help

Connect with Minh-Thu

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/higher-alignment-consulting/

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555613204811

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/higheralignmentconsulting/

• https://higheralignmentconsulting.com/

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• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com

In this episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, we’re kicking off a brand-new series—The Dating Circle! Host Sarah introduces us to two incredible women, Jess and Tina, as they embark on their dating journeys, sharing all the juicy details, awkward encounters, and hard-earned lessons along the way.

From navigating dating apps and ghosting to defining what they’re really looking for in a partner, this candid conversation is filled with laughs, surprises, and some hard truths about modern dating.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

1. 💘 Dating in the Digital Age: Jess and Tina open up about their experiences with Tinder, Hinge, and Facebook Dating—why some platforms work better than others and what really goes on behind the scenes of online dating.
   
   

2. 💔 The Struggles of Modern Romance: From ghosting to awkward first dates, the ladies spill their worst dating experiences—including one that involved a surprise LARPing confession!
   
   

3. 💡 What Women Really Want: Confidence, ambition, and emotional intelligence—Jess and Tina break down the qualities that matter most when looking for a partner.
   
   

4. 🔥 Who Should Make the First Move? Should men take the lead in planning dates, or is it a mutual effort? The conversation dives into the importance of confidence, effort, and setting the tone for a relationship.
   
   

5. 📌 The Homework Assignment: Jess and Tina have two weeks to find and go on a date—who will they meet, and how will it go? Stay tuned for the next episode to find out!

We get into:

• 00:00 Introduction to the Dating Circle Series

• 01:30 Meet Jess: A Journey Through Divorce and Dating

• 03:35 Meet Tina: Single Mom Navigating the Dating World

• 04:45 Dating Apps: Tinder, Hinge, and Facebook Dating

• 07:44 The Challenges of Online Dating

• 13:45 Worst Date Stories: Tina's Experience

• 19:05 Worst Date Stories: Jess's Experience

• 26:40 The Oven Thermometer Gift

• 27:43 Debating Dating Expenses

• 28:33 Splitting the Bill on Dates

• 32:13 Worst Date Stories

• 39:17 Online Dating Realities

• 43:35 What Women Want in a Man

• 49:49 Dating Homework Assignment

Connect with me

• Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/confessionsofafuckaholic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com

In this episode of the Sex & Bacon podcast, I’m joined by Corey Ossum, an addiction recovery coach, emcee, and construction professional, who shares his journey of transformation.

Corey opens up about his struggles with addiction, the pivotal moments that inspired change, and how he’s now helping others navigate their recovery paths. From the importance of redefining one’s legacy to finding joy and purpose after addiction, Corey’s story is both raw and inspiring.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

1. Rewriting Your Narrative: Corey shares the story of legally changing his last name to “Awesome” to leave behind a legacy of positivity and empowerment, emphasizing the importance of creating your own path in life.
   
   

2. Hitting Rock Bottom: A sobering experience at the U.S. border marked a turning point in Corey’s life, motivating him to confront his addictions and commit to lasting change.
   
   

3. The Power of Passion: Corey discusses how his love for emceeing bodybuilding shows became a driving force for his sobriety, illustrating the impact of having a meaningful purpose.
   
   

4. Healing Through Coaching: Now an addiction recovery coach, Corey uses his experiences to guide others through a six-week program that focuses on physical, mental, and spiritual growth.
   
   

5. Sobriety and Relationships: Corey reflects on how his addiction affected his relationships and how sobriety has redefined his connections with himself and others.

We get into:

• 00:00 Introduction

• 07:45 Addiction Journey

• 12:13 Hitting Rock Bottom

• 18:25 Recovery and Reflection

• 20:13 Dating and Relationships

• 26:05 The Booty Blow Job Shot

• 26:54 From Pool Boy to Party Scene

• 28:11 The Cycle of Partying and Relationships

• 29:23 Struggles with Addiction and Sobriety

• 31:45 Finding Passion in Emceeing

• 36:29 Building a Coaching Business

• 41:01 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Social Media Challenges

• 46:17 Helping Others Through Personal Experience

• 51:21 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Connect with Corey

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theossumlife/

• To learn more about Corey’s coaching program or to book a consultation, visit his Instagram page and access his booking link through the bio.

Connect with me

• Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/confessionsofafuckaholic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com

Have you ever wondered how a change in persona could reignite the spark in your relationship?

In this episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, I’m joined by Katie Runyan, founder of Faithful Fling and a roleplay sex expert.

Katie shares her journey into roleplay, starting with a bold experiment in her own marriage that evolved into a successful venture helping couples reignite their connection through creative roleplay scenarios. Katie explains how roleplay can break monotonous routines, enhance intimacy, and keep monogamy exciting while providing listeners with tips and resources to explore their own fantasies safely within their relationships.

We get into:

• 00:00 Introduction

• 00:04 Meet Katie Runyan: Roleplay Expert

• 01:29 The Birth of Faithful Fling

• 05:00 Exploring Roleplay Scenarios

• 07:19 Overcoming Vulnerability and Rejection

• 09:34 Starting Your Roleplay Journey

• 19:15 Popular Roleplay Scenarios

• 30:52 Transform Your Room with Minimalistic Art

• 31:36 Roleplay Date Essentials: Tips and Tricks

• 33:50 Keeping Monogamy Hot with Roleplay

• 35:43 Workshops and Webinars for Overcoming Insecurities

• 39:13 The Importance of Emotional Security in Roleplay

• 40:04 Creating a Sensual Atmosphere

• 41:07 Personal Consultations and Future Goals

• 42:16 The Power of Roleplay in Relationships

• 50:28 Embracing Sensuality and Confidence

• 57:37 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

Connect with Katie

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/faithfulfling/

• https://www.faithfulfling.com/

Connect with me

• Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/confessionsofafuckaholic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com

In this episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Andrew Daniel joins me to talk about sexual polarity, holistic sex, and emotional vulnerability from a man's perspective.

Andrew helps us navigate important issues on men's perceptions of masculinity, societal expectations of gender roles, and the influence of these elements on personal relationships. He highlights the significance of emotional maturity and self-awareness as key to creating genuine intimacy and having a fulfilling sex life. Andrew suggests that by embracing vulnerability, men can enhance every facet of their life, from relationships to professional success.

Andrew Daniel is an award-winning and international bestselling author and director at the Center for Cinesomatic Development. His Cinesomatics® workshops are held internationally from New York to London, Tuscany to Switzerland—helping professionals see the elusive patterns that hold them back. This methodology leads the world in cinematic movement diagnostics and advanced intuition development integrating approaches from embodiment, shadow work, therapy, and spirituality.

His book, Awaken to Your True Self, is a gold Nautilus Book Awards recipient and #1 Amazon bestseller in the US & UK. In his early career, Andrew coded a particle and physics engine by the age of 18⁠, used by top Fortune 100 companies over the 7 years of his software business. His first teaching work, Holistic Sex (Mindvalley, 2014), provided the world with a new paradigm that bridged the divide between sexuality, spirituality, and the sexes. Andrew is also an advisor for the Alan Watts Organization.

We get into:

• [0:00] Intro

• [2:48] Why men comes to him for help

• [7:32] Why men do not feel supported in embracing the masculine and feminine

• [16:21] Intimacy is more than just sex

• [21:53] Battle of the sexes

• [24:19] Making someone's pleasure your pleasure

• [28:12] Revisiting our north american views on sex and intimacy vs. other countries

• [36:51] When your body is at odds with your brain

• [38:50] Developing self awareness

• [45:46] What is sexual polarity

• [52:21] Control and safety

• [56:59] Tips for men to start being introspective with themselves and their experiences
  
  

Connect with Andrew

• https://andrewdaniel.org

Connect with me

• Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/confessionsofafuckaholic

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com

In this episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, we talk all about the taboo subject of talking about money in relationships.

My guest, Marci Grossman, highlights how financial stress is a significant contributor to a couple's sex life disruption. Marci discusses the importance of being financially literate to avoid money-related issues in relationships.

The conversation also focuses on the impact of financial responsibility in relationships, addressing key factors like communication about earnings, debt, retirement, and savings.

We also talk about the importance of having open conversations about financial expectations and circumstances when dating or entering a relationship, and how to manage finances responsibly whenever there's a major shift in life (like losing a job).

Marci Grossman is a CPA with over 30 years of experience helping individuals and businesses with financial matters. She has worked in public, private, and non-profit accounting. Her passion is helping people to improve their relationship with money.

We get into:

• [0:00] Intro

• [2:43] My own experience in my marriage surrounding money

• [6:15] The conversations about money that need to be had before marriage, and Marci's experience in her own marriage

• [10:20] Should we put money together or keep it separate?

• [12:40] Why do people avoid conversations about money while dating

• [14:20] Are there money deal breakers in a relationship?

• [18:35] The problems that finances can cause

• [20:05] Mental health struggles with financial burdens

• [25:50] Tips for couples to start to look at their finances and set themselves up to be in a better position

• [27:15] How much to save for an emergency and retirement

• [33:10] The generational differences between our parents and us
  
  

Connect with Marci

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/money.marci/

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MoneyMarci/

• Links: https://www.moneymarci.com/links

• www.moneymarci.com

Connect with me

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• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com

In this episode, we return from a brief break and introduce Ava, a Tantric expert, who was previously on the podcast, and who I’ve been working with over the last six months.

We talk all about the various types of female orgasms including clitoral, G-spot, cervical, U-spot, A-spot, P-spot, and anal orgasms.

We also talk about how expecting a specific outcome, such as a particular type of orgasm, can limit one's ability to fully experience pleasure, emphasizing that tantric practices are more about healing and self-exploration than only focusing on achieving orgasms.

The episode highlights the importance of effective communication, understanding one's emotions, and establishing safety and connection on a physical and emotional level during sex. We also touch on societal misconceptions about pleasure, trauma, and our intricate connections to sexuality.

Ava is a Transformational Therapist and Tantra Healer certified by the only government accredited institute of tantra in the entire world - The Institute of Authentic Tantra! She has over 1,700+ hours of training in the field of tantra, as well as psychological, emotional, and spiritual healing modalities. Ava believes that healing shouldn't take years, and primarily guides men, women, and couples through a unique and holistic approach to healing and sexual fulfillment.

We get into:

• [0:00] Intro

• [1:25] Why we’re talking about orgasms

• [2:30] What does it really mean to orgasm

• [5:50] The emotional side of an orgasm

• [10:00] Is there a rank of which orgasm is the best?

• [15:05] G-spot orgasms

• [25:45] GSpot crystal wand, stimulation, squirting

• [30:30] U-Spot Orgasm

• [35:35] Cervical orgasm

• [40:50] A spot orgasm

• [42:55] Finding these spots for yourself

• [58:55] Anal orgasms

• [1:07:00] Sexual trauma and the resistance people might feel when they first start this work
  
  

Connect with Ava

• Instagram: https://www.flamewithintantra.com/

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100087647945726&mibextid=ZbWKwL

Connect with me

• Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/confessionsofafuckaholic

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com

In this episode, we explore the profound impact of relationship trauma on Alyssen's journey and how it has shaped her work. Join us as she candidly shares personal stories, shedding light on the transformative power of addressing past wounds to create healthier relationships.

Continuing the conversation, we delve into the fascinating realm of hormonal fluctuations and the effects of birth control on our sex drives. Uncovering the scientific and psychological aspects, we examine how birth control can influence our intimate lives. Additionally, we talk about the importance of anticipation and scheduling intimacy, sharing practical tools to create deeper connections.

We get into:

• [0:00] Intro

• [1:45] The relationship trauma that brought Alyssen into this work

• [4:35] The impact of birth control on our hormones and sex drives

• [9:40] Anticipating and scheduling intimacy

• [13:30] The expectations of how many times you should have sex per day or week

• [16:40] Why people don't like talking about sex

• [18:40] Needing to do the inner work when it comes to dating

• [24:45] Tools to help you do that work

• [28:00] Being alone vs. filling a void

• [31:40] Knowing your boundaries and what you will and won’t put up with

• [39:55] Do men attract the same women over and over?

Connect with Alyssen

• Instagram: https://instagram.com/Elevated.aspects_

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100087647945726&mibextid=ZbWKwL

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• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com