🔓 4 STEPS: How to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST | Stop the obsession & reclaim your power 🔓

Discover how to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST through these proven 4 steps. If you're constantly obsessing over someone, checking their social media, and feeling anxious when they don't respond, this episode is for YOU.

I'm sharing guaranteed ways to emotionally detach that have transformed my life and my clients' relationships. These guaranteed ways to emotionally detach will help you break free from attachment without losing your ability to love. When you learn how to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST, you'll finally escape the endless cycle of anxiety, overthinking, and emotional dependency.

In this deeply personal episode, I share my 30-year journey from anxious attachment to emotional freedom, with relationship advice for women and relationship advice for men seeking to heal. These 4 powerful steps will help you stop obsessing over him/her and start reclaiming your own life.

The truth? When you DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST, you actually become more attractive! I'll show you exactly how to emotionally detach without shutting down your heart.

🔑 WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:

• 8 hidden reasons why you can't let go of someone you love
• How to DETACH yourself from someone you love while still being open to love
• 4 guaranteed ways to emotionally detach and rebuild your self-trust
• The secret to stop obsessing over someone who doesn't value you
• How to transform anxious attachment into secure confidence
• Why detachment is actually the key to re-attracting an avoidant

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Intro: How to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST 02:23 Quick Intro of who I am 04:52 The 4 Steps to Emotional Detachment 04:58 STEP 01: UNDERSTANDING WHY YOU'RE ATTACHED (7 Reasons) 05:03 Reason #1: You put them on a PEDESTAL 05:45 Reason #2: You have NEGATIVE BIAS in REVERSE 07:20 Reason #3: You've never learned to fulfill your OWN needs 12:28 Reason #4: You believe safety comes from OUTSIDE, not WITHIN 14:19 Reason #5: You lack SELF-TRUST 14:51 Reason #6: You're caught in REPETITION 16:25 Reason #7: You're obsessed with CONTROL 19:34 Reason #8: You've created a FALSE REALITY 21:26 STEP 2: CHALLENGE YOUR BELIEFS 24:23 STEP 03: MEET YOUR OWN NEEDS 24:56 01. Give yourself what you need FIRST 27:08 02. Create MORE sources to meet your needs 29:03 STEP 04: ALIGNED ACTIONS 29:52 How detach FAST 33:55 Remember this...

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Are you a CHASER and your partner is ESCAPING (= pulling away and withdrawing)?

Then...

WATCH THIS before you CHASE your partner's validation: 7 POWERFUL Steps to STOP Being Insecure in Relationships 🔥

Because if you need a lot of approval, validation or reassurance... then we need to talk. THIS will trigger your (Avoidant) Partner's Core wounds of "help I'm losing independence"

Do you worry you're not good enough? This video reveals the exact process to break free from relationship insecurity once and for all.

I share my personal journey from constant validation-seeking to genuine confidence, including how gaining 20 kilos unexpectedly transformed my relationship with myself. Learn why your attachment patterns are sabotaging your connections and pushing partners away.

The 7-Step Insecurity Neutralizer that actually works:

1. Identify your specific triggers 🔍
2. Recognize your attachment patterns 🏷️
3. Connect to your past wounds 🔗
4. Challenge your limiting beliefs 🤔
5. Reframe your self-worth narrative 📝
6. Anchor yourself with positive emotions 🌬️
7. Take aligned action instead of seeking approval 👣

Discover why avoidant partners pull away when you chase validation and how to create a healthy dynamic instead. This isn't about temporary confidence fixes—it's about permanent transformation from insecurity to genuine self-worth.

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Are you struggling with relationship insecurity and worried your partner is comparing YOU to women on screen or in real life?

I've got you.

In this episode of the Anxious to Secure Podcast, discover the ROOT CAUSES of jealousy and comparison that nobody talks about!

Learn why you feel triggered by social media, his ex, or perfect bodies on TV, and how to FINALLY overcome these painful emotions.

and why jealousy NOT about your partner or the women...and more about YOU and your anxious attachment style.

This episode features a vulnerable listener question about dealing with PTSD and anxiety related to watching romantic tv scenes with her boyfriend.

She shares her past trauma and distrust with a partner who hid watching adult content and her Christian upbringing that taught men "couldn't control their thoughts." Now she fears her current partner will compare her to women on TV despite his reassurance.

I share transformative insights on:

• Why jealousy reveals YOUR unworthiness wounds (not your partner's behavior)

• How to stop comparing yourself to other women and break free from competition

• Practical techniques to be more secure and confident in your relationship

• Overcoming insecurity and building unshakable self-worth

• Developing an abundance mindset that ends the comparison trap

• Setting healthy boundaries with an avoidant partner

• Healing the anxious attachment patterns fueling your jealousy

• Strategies to stop feeling jealous and insecure around your partner or other women

• Breaking the cycle of comparing yourself to his ex, people on tv or social media

If you're tired of feeling jealous, insecure, and constantly comparing yourself to others on social media or in real life, this episode is your roadmap to freedom. Learn how to transform jealousy into self-love and stop feeling sorry for yourself.

Perfect for anyone with an anxious attachment style who wants to feel more secure, confident, and worthy in their relationships. Stop letting jealousy control your emotions and sabotage your happiness!

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🖤 How to HEAL Your Anxious Attachment Style (PART 2) | From Anxious to Secure Attachment

You loved Part 1 SO much (our most downloaded episode ever!) and I know you've been waiting for this one...

In this episode, I'm sharing:

• The ONE shift that stops the anxiety spiral ✨
• Why it's so hard to stop depending on others (and what actually works)
• How your brain can literally rewire for security
• 3 real habits that changed everything for me 🖤

Plus: The eye-opening moment in my tiny London apartment that made me realize why focusing on my partner was keeping me stuck

This one's for you if:

• You're anxiously attached and over it
• You can't feel okay unless they're okay
• You want real change, not just band-aids
• You're ready to choose yourself 🤍

Plus: My story about finally understanding my anxious attachment (and what changed everything)

If you're ready to stop feeling anxious and start feeling secure, this one's for you 🤍

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Chapters:

00:00 How to Heal Your Anxious Attachment Style (FAST) Part 2 00:27 How I healed my Anxious Attachment Style 5 Years Ago 00:56 The One Focus Area for Shifting Your Attachment Style: From Them to You 01:36 How long does it take to Heal Your Anxious Attachment Style? 02:50 The One Focus Area for Shifting Your Attachment Style: From Them to You 06:06 How to DETACH emotionally and WHY it's SO HARD 08:53 Why Repetition and Emotion Are the Key to Shifting Your Attachment Style 15:39 The One Focus Area for Shifting Your Attachment Style: From Them to You 18:16 Building 3 Habits for Secure Attachment 22:48 Thought habits 22:50 Transforming Thoughts and Emotions 24:36 Emotional Habit: Process Your Emotions ⚡ 26:37 Action Habit: Set Boundaries and Express Yourself 🌈 29:25 Final Words

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Why Your Partner SEEMS 'Too Busy' and doesn’t make time for you (WHAT do to) and you not feel like a priority? Been there "healed" that!

You're giving it your ALL, but your partner seems more interested in... well, everything else? 🤔

Their phone 📱, video games 🎮, friends 👥 - while you're left wondering why a simple coffee date feels impossible to plan? ☕

Based on YOUR messages and DMs this week (thank you for sharing! 🙏), I knew we needed to talk about this.

In today's Anxious to Secure PODCAST episode for everyone who wants to neal their anxious attachment style I'm sharing something that completely changed how I view "busy" partners (and honestly, it might surprise you). 🤯 we go deep into attachment theory, core wounds..not just about Anxious Attachment but also in understanding your Avoidants Partners style much deeper...

Because that pit in your stomach when they choose PlayStation over quality time? I've been there, and what I discovered changed everything. ✨

If you're tired of:

• Feeling like an afterthought in their schedule ⏰
• Getting the "boring" version while their friends get the fun side 😕
• Watching them scroll on their phone while you crave connection 💔

...then what I'm about to share might be exactly what you need to hear. 🎯

This isn't about making them change - it's about understanding what's really going on (hint: it has nothing to do with your worth! ) and how to feel secure even when they need space. 🦋

Join me to discover the FARE framework that transformed my relationship from anxiety to security in just 6 months. ⭐

Because you deserve to feel like a priority, without the constant overthinking. 💫

Love, Jula Your Anxious to Secure Relationship Coach for ambitious Overthinkers.

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💬 "I've been in therapy for YEARS, spent thousands (some even up to $14,000!), and I still feel anxious in my relationship. Why am I not getting better?"

So my Anxious attached clients and I asked myself: Is THERAPY really the best tool for Healing your Anxious Attachment Style?

AND I get it, and trust me, I’ve been there.

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Therapy can be incredibly powerful…helping you unpack childhood wounds, bringing awareness to your patterns, and even offering relief.

BUT... awareness alone doesn’t always change behavior.

So, in today’s episode of

The Anxious to Secure PODCAST we're talking about…

🔸 When therapy is helpful 🔸 When it might NOT be enough 🔸 And what the missing piece actually is

How to stop overthinking in Your relationships : FREE mini Course

• STOP Chasing Your Partners Reassurance (Free Recourse) - MY 4R METHOD For Reassurance

• Attachment Style QUIZ – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached: 3 MIN QUIZ
• Anxious ArcheTYPE QUIZ – Discover which of the 4 archetypes you are and how you manage your stress and anxiety
• ✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist – Signs you're becoming securely attached
• 🚩🚩🚩10 Signs YOU are the Red Flag in your Relationship
• How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)

00:027 Myth: Therapy is the best and only tool for healing your Anxious Attachment 03:06 What Therapy Actually Does for Anxious Attachment 04:16 The Missing Piece: Why Awareness Alone Isn’t Enough 05:19 Why Therapy Can Feel Like It’s Not Working 06:21 Healing Requires More Than Just Talking 09:15 The REAL Process for Healing Anxious Attachment 13:54 My personal CBT Therapy Experience 17:45 When Therapy Might Be the Best Option 18:36 Why Coaching + Emotional Mastery Might Be More Effective Than Therapy

If you’re in a long-distance relationship (or about to be) and your brain is going wild with overthinking—especially if you have an anxious attachment style… this episode is for you.

I’m answering REAL questions from someone on Instagram (thanks again for sharing 💛), like: 🔹 How do I stop overthinking and spiraling? 🔹 How do I calm my nervous system when I’m triggered? 🔹 How do I deal with needing reassurance ALL the time in an LDR?

Because let’s be real—long-distance + anxious attachment? It can feel like a NIGHTMARE. But it doesn’t have to be.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through: 🔸 How to manage a long-distance relationship without anxiety taking over 🔸 What’s really happening in your brain when you’re triggered 🔸 Tools to feel more secure (without over-relying on your partner)

If you’ve ever felt like LDR is impossible for someone with anxious attachment… you need this episode.

Plus, I’m sharing my personal story—back when I felt anxious in an LDR and how my anxious attachment made it even harder.

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The Worry-Free Flow-Chart for Relationship Anxiety

Self Esteem KIT to learn to be GOOD ENOUGH, lovable and worthy from within