🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps

(With Your Avoidant Partner)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

🖤 ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text

(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

Ever feel like the SECOND your partner pulls away… your whole nervous system goes into full panic mode? 🖤✨ Like one canceled plan… one quiet day… one shift in tone… suddenly feels like the whole relationship is falling apart?

I made this episode for you.

Inside, I walk you through EXACT real-life moments my clients faced — the moments that used to send them into overthinking, people-pleasing, chasing, and feeling “not enough.”

And then I show you how the secure version of you would handle those exact same moments. Simple. Calm. Clear. No drama. No chasing. Just grounded self-trust.

You’ll hear:

★ What an anxious person does when someone cancels plans last minute ★ What a secure person does instead — even if it stings ★ How closeness freaks out your nervous system (not them) ★ Why avoidants pull away after intimacy ★ How to stop taking every shift personally ★ How secure people communicate… without fear ★ The small, everyday habits that turn anxious attachment into earned secure attachment

This isn’t a lecture. It’s literally the blueprint to becoming the secure version of you... the version who doesn’t panic, doesn’t chase, doesn’t assume the worst… and doesn’t lose herself just because someone else needs space.

We’ll dive into:

➞ The FACTS vs. the stories your anxious brain makes up ➞ Why your body reacts like danger is coming (even when it’s not) ➞ How to soothe the panic BEFORE you text ➞ How to respond like someone who trusts themselves ➞ How to stop abandoning yourself when someone pulls back

And I’ll walk you through my 4R Method... the exact steps that helped me go from anxious and terrified of being left… to fully grounded and secure in myself and my relationship.

If you’re tired of feeling on edge, tired of overthinking the smallest things, tired of feeling like your partner’s mood controls your whole day…

This episode will feel like a deep breath. Like someone holding your hand and saying,

“Hey… you’re not crazy. You’re just scared. And here’s how we fix it.” 🖤✨

Listen in and tell me which “anxious vs. secure” moment hit home for you.

FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp)

https://tr.ee/PInPmy

Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer)

https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30

Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist

CHAPTERS:

00:00 What does a Secure person do when an Avoidant Pulls away 02:52 ✶ SCENARIO 1: They cancel plans last minute 09:24 ✶ SCENARIO 2: They go quiet after an intimate weekend 15:44 ✶ SCENARIO 3: They’re distant during a hard week 19:05 ✶ SCENARIO 4: The Long-Term Pull-Away Avoidant 26:00 What’s REALLY Going On? 29:43 What To Do Instead

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist

Feeling anxious in your relationship? Always worried about texts, attention, or being enough? You’re not alone. 😬

In this episode, I share 5 skills my clients used to go from anxious attachment to secure attachment style, feeling calm, confident, and safe in themselves and their relationships. ✨

Here’s a sneak peek: ➞ How noticing your feelings and taking action helped them stop overthinking ➞ Why letting yourself feel scared or frustrated actually made them stronger ➞ How making themselves happy first shifted their power and confidence ➞ Why taking space without panicking made their connection closer ➞ How small, consistent daily actions helped them feel unshakable

These aren’t “just breathe” tips—they’re simple, real skills that helped my clients go from anxious to securely attached faster than they ever thought possible

If you want to finally stop the worry, feel safe, and build earned secure attachment in your relationship… this episode is for you. 🖤🧠

Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer)

https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30

🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps

(With Your Avoidant Partner)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

🖤 ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text

(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp)

https://tr.ee/PInPmy

CHAPTER:

00:00 5 SKILLS to become securely attached 00:44 01 Self-Awareness like a BOSS (not hyper-vigilance) 10:08 02 They Stopped Fighting Their Feelings 21:19 03 Fulfilling Their Own Needs FIRST 28:18 04 Taking Space Without Overthinking 37:36 05 Consistency Over Perfection 42:58 BONUS Skill

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

Have you ever felt confused, frustrated, or even hurt because your partner seems distant, cancels plans, or shuts down emotionally — even when you know they care? 🖤✨

In this episode, we dive into what really drives avoidant behavior. Why do some people pull away the moment things feel too close? Why do they seem to love you but still keep their distance?

You’ll get insights into the hidden fears and early experiences that shape how avoidants handle intimacy, emotions, and closeness.. and how you can respond in ways that stop the cycle of frustration and overthinking.

💎 By the end, you’ll start noticing patterns you never saw before, feel less like you’re doing something “wrong,” and understand how your reactions can either calm or trigger their core fears.

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding the Avoidant Attachments Style: Core wounds 02:47 Core wound 01: I am trapped 06:41 Core Wound 02: I am Bad (Defective) 11:29 Core wound 03: I am losing control 15:40 Quick Summary 16:32 Homework for the Anxious Attachment Partner: ✨📝

🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps

(With Your Avoidant Partner)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

🖤 ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text

(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp)

https://tr.ee/PInPmy

Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer)

https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30

Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist

Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs

(before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing)

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs

#avoidantattachment #anxiousavoidantrelationship #emotionalsafety

🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

Do you catch yourself panicking when your partner doesn’t text back, rearranging your life to stay close, or feeling like love is a game you have to earn? 🖤✨

This episode uncovers why your mind goes into overdrive in relationships, replaying fears, doubts, and “what ifs.” Why does a simple text delay feel like abandonment?

Why do you overgive, over-apologize, or shrink yourself just to feel secure?

We’ll explore the hidden patterns and past experiences that secretly shape how you respond to love today... and what shifts can help you finally feel safe, worthy, and capable without depending on your partner for validation.

💎 You’ll walk away understanding your triggers, seeing how your past keeps replaying itself, and learning the first steps to stop overthinking and start feeling secure in love.

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding Anxious Attachment and Core Beliefs 03:55 Core Wound 1: I Am Not Safe 12:54 Core Wound 2: I Am Not Worthy of Love 20:25 Core Wound 3: I Am Not Capable 25:11 How else the wounds can show up (personal story) 26:28 Homework to start rewiring your wounds

#anxiousattachment #limitingbelief #emotionaltriggers

🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps

(With Your Avoidant Partner)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

🖤 ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text

(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp)

https://tr.ee/PInPmy

Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer)

https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30

Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY (30+worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more)

https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach

🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

I’m spilling a secret today… 🖤

Recently, I filled out a survey for people who’ve earned a secure attachment, and it asked questions that cut straight to the heart of how we actually get there.

What changed, what worked, and what no one tells you about leaving anxious patterns behind.

I decided to share my answers with you.. everything I revealed about my journey from anxious to secure.

The things I did daily, the mindset shifts, and the practices that rewired my nervous system so I could stop spiraling over texts, stop over-giving, and finally feel safe in love.

If you’ve ever wondered why you attract avoidants, why your anxious brain can’t stop catastrophizing, or how it actually feels to go from panicking in love to calm, grounded, and confident, this episode is your insider look.

Think of it as me giving you my secret roadmap, the exact insights I shared with a survey of people who’ve done the work and truly become secure.

🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps

(With Your Avoidant Partner)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

🖤 ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text

(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp)

https://tr.ee/PInPmy

Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer)

https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30

Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist

Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs

(before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing)

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding Attachment Styles 01:04 What is Attachment Theory and Why does it matter? 06:25 Going deeper into the ANXIOUS attachment style... 10:09 10 Question about Healing my Anxious Attachment 10:38 1: What changed when you became more secure? 12:30 2: Does it feel different to be attracted to someone now? 14:40 3: What were the key turning points or breakthroughs in your transition? 19:47 4: What was the biggest barrier or challenge you had to overcome? 23:01 5: What specific actions or strategies did you take to shift from insecure to secure? 25:31 6: Which strategies were most effective? 26:08 7: How did your relationships change? 29:38 8: What mindset or belief shifts happened during your transformation? 30:23 9: How did you cultivate self-regulation and self-soothing? 32:43 10: How do you maintain secure attachment daily now? 34:53 Bonus Question (busting the biggest MYTHS)

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

Welcome back to back 02:

Do you ever check your phone twice just to make sure they didn’t ignore your last text? Over-plan a date, then feel stressed when it doesn’t go perfectly? Rehearse what to say next instead of actually being in the moment?

There’s nothing wrong with you. 🖤 Your nervous system has just learned to protect you — and right now, it’s overworking.

In this episode, I share tiny daily habits that help you step out of survival mode and feel safe in love again. No overthinking. No chasing. No controlling outcomes. Just calm, soft, grounded energy that feels secure.

You’ll learn: ✨ Why anxious attachment is actually wounded masculine energy (and how to shift back into your feminine flow) ✨ Tiny nervous system habits that calm your anxiety in real time ✨ How to detach from outcomes, timelines, and “I need to be married by X” pressure ✨ How to create micro-moments of feminine joy that rewire your brain for safety and trust

Because anxious attachment is about control — and you can’t feel safe while you’re controlling. Safety comes from detaching, softening, and trusting.

By the end, you’ll understand the nervous system “why” behind your anxious patterns — and have practical ways to regulate your body, not just your thoughts. 🌻

Inside this episode, I also share my 4R Method — the exact process I used to go from anxious to secure. It’s simple, real, and it works.

You’ll walk away knowing how to: — Feel and release anxiety safely — Rewire limiting beliefs like “I’m too much” or “People always leave” — Meet your needs without over-giving — Build calm, secure connection that lasts

✶ New episodes every Tuesday + Thursday Subscribe so you don’t miss the next one 🖤

If you loved this episode, screenshot it, tag me on Instagram, and tell me which habit you’re trying first!

🖤 ON SALE:

How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

🖤 ON SALE: TEXT ANXIETY COURSE

How to STOP needing so much reassurance via TEXT

(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Healing Anxious Attachment with feminine micro habits 01:29 Understanding Energies: Masculine vs. Feminine 03:50 Micro Habit 1: Practice Receiving 06:20 Micro Habit 2: Embrace Imperfection 09:15 Micro Habit 3: Slow Down Mentally 14:17 Micro Habit 4: Detach from Outcomes and Timelines 18:13 Micro Habit 5: Create Feminine Joy Moments 22:33 Micro Habit 6: Create White Space 26:45 the KEY message 28:33 why Healing Anxious Attachment MATTERS 31:47 My 4R Method to go from Anxious to Secure 35:22 Consequences of Unhealed Attachment Styles

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

If you’ve ever felt like no matter how much “inner work” you do… your anxiety still runs the show.. this episode is going to change how you see healing 🖤

In this episode, I share 6 tiny feminine micro habits that helped me rewire my anxious brain and finally feel SAFE in love. No huge routines. No big life changes. Just small, daily shifts in how you do things, not what you do.

Because anxious attachment is actually stuck masculine energy always controlling, chasing, fixing. Safety doesn’t come from control. It comes from letting go. From softening, trusting, and allowing life to move through you.

You’ll learn how to: ✨ Slow your body + mind so your nervous system feels safe again ✨ Stop over-managing others and finally breathe in your relationships ✨ Use your voice + movement to regulate your anxiety ✨ Shift from “doing” to “being” — the feminine way

One tiny habit at a time, you’ll begin to feel more secure, calm, and connected...both with yourself and your partner.

Time Stamps: 00:00 Intro: Why changing how you do things changes everything 01:43 Micro Habit 1 — Slow Down Physically 04:06 Micro Habit 2 — Release Control of Others 05:58 Micro Habit 3 — The “What If Positive” Hack 08:32 Micro Habit 4 — Use Your Voice in New Ways 10:36 Micro Habit 5 — Shift Your Physical Activities 14:24 Micro Habit 6 — Slow Down Mentally 17:43 Closing Thoughts 19:29 Why Becoming Secure Really Matters

🎧 Next up:

Part 02 dives into the emotional side of feminine energy.. letting go of perfectionism, embracing vulnerability, and fully receiving love.

✶ New episodes every Tuesday + Thursday Subscribe so you don’t miss the next one!

If you loved this episode, take a screenshot, tag me on Instagram, and tell me which micro habit you’re trying first 🖤

🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY

(worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more)

https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach

🖤 Attachment Style QUIZ

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

Listen back to EPISODE 46:

"How to Heal Your 💗 Feminine Energy + Anxious Attachment in Your Relationships (5 Steps)"

Spotify: https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-enxxw-18a55d4

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_uR3XhGPCJY&list=PLkaamihHgLaGB8Cui2BEQqnZDO5jK2GYf&index=41

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.