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Breakups with avoidant partners can leave you feeling confused, anxious, and stuck wondering: Will my avoidant ex ever come back? 🖤

In this episode, I dive deep into what avoidant partners do after a breakup, including the 3 stages avoidants go through when they pull away, how they process space, and why they sometimes reach out again.

You’ll learn:

★ How avoidant exes think and feel after a breakup

★ Signs your avoidant ex might be missing you

★ What happens when avoidants need space

★ How to stop the push-pull cycle with an avoidant partner

★ How to protect yourself emotionally while an avoidant processes their feelings

If you’ve ever Googled “why does my avoidant ex pull away but still care?” or “do avoidant partners come back after a breakup,” this episode is for you. Understanding these stages helps you set boundaries, stay grounded, and take control of your healing—no guessing required. ✨

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding Avoidant Attachment After Breakup

02:21 Stage 01: Emotional Shutdown

07:30 Stage 02: Quiet Reassessment

11:32 Stage 03: “I Actually Need This Person” ✨

16:15 What you should consider IF you get back together with the avoidant

17:52 Final Thoughts on Healing and Relationships

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Think it’s the world… your partner… the people you date… making you feel unsafe in love? 🖤

What if I told you most of that emotional unsafety actually starts with your own thoughts the ones you barely notice, the inner critic running nonstop in your head?

In this episode of the Anxious to Secure Podcast, I show you how anxious attachment and your inner critic create the emotional chaos in your relationships and how you can finally take back control.

We dive into: ★ How anxious attachment triggers the inner critic and makes you question your worth ★ Why your inner voice gets so loud when you feel judged, unseen, or rejected ★ The roots of self-criticism from parenting, culture, media, and social comparison ★ Step-by-step ways to soften your inner critic and reparent yourself ★ How to build emotional safety with yourself first, so you can connect from a place of calm in your relationships

If you’ve ever Googled:

“how to feel emotionally safe in my relationship”,

“how to quiet my inner critic”,

“how to stop overthinking in love”, or

“how to be less anxious in a relationship”, this episode is for you.

You’ll learn practical ways to notice your inner critic, get curious about what it’s trying to protect you from, respond with compassion, and use actions...not just words—to show yourself safety.

This is about retraining your nervous system, reducing anxiety, and creating secure, loving connections with yourself and others. ✨

Whether you’re navigating dating, marriage, or friendships, understanding and soothing your inner critic is key to creating emotional safety in relationships and finally feeling truly seen, valued, and loved.

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding the Inner Critic 01:56 My personal Inner Story 04:35 Connect your Inner critic back to your Roots 06:44 Realise your Inner Critics Protective Drive 07:22 What the Anxious Attachments Inner Critic Notices 09:06 Visualisation to become your own Inner Parent 11:13 3 Steps to Reparent Your Inner Critic 21:01 Before + After: From HATE to LOVE 23:44 Quick Recap

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Do you ever meet someone new and suddenly feel like he’s the one just because he’s nice, attractive, or gives you a few compliments?

🖤✨ If you’ve noticed yourself rushing into relationships like this, it’s not a coincidence.. it’s a sign of anxious attachment.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why your nervous system craves instant closeness, why you attach too fast, and how that speed can leave you anxious, overthinking, and ignoring red flags.

We’ll talk about the real difference between healthy interest and anxious over-investment, plus the biggest dating mistakes anxiously attached people make (texting too much, oversharing, canceling plans, imagining a future too soon).

✨ Ready to learn the secret behind anxiously attaching too fast, the hidden consequences in dating vs. how securely attached people actually date?

This insight can shift how you see yourself, your patterns, and the kind of love you’re building.

You’ll also learn how to slow down dating without losing attraction, how to build self-trust and emotional safety, and how to notice if someone is actually secure.. or just giving you temporary reassurance.

If you’ve ever asked yourself:

• Why do I fall too fast in relationships?

• Am I attached to the person, or just the comfort they give me?

• How do I stop overthinking texts and rushing for labels?

…this episode is for you.

Tune in now to discover how dating at a steady, grounded pace helps you protect your energy, feel secure, and finally choose someone for who they are: not just the safety they represent.

Welcome to the Anxious-to-Secure Podcast with, me - Jula

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding Anxious Attachment in Dating 02:15 What Anxious Attachment Looks Like 03:23 Mistakes That Happen When You Attach Too Fast in Dating 07:19 How does Securely Dating + Slow Dating look like? 08:22 How to date slowly when you first meet (Stage 01) 10:02 How to date slowly in the TALKING Phase of dating (Phase 02) 14:10 How to date slowly when you are officially DATING (Stage 03) 16:38 How to date slowly when you're EXCLUSIVE (Stage 04) 19:12 Tools to Stay Grounded During the Dating Stages 20:13 Recap and Final Thoughts on Healthy Dating

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How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)

"What happens when a dismissive avoidant realizes they lost me?” 🖤✨ A question I get asked as relationship coach a bunch of times.

If you’ve ever found yourself replaying the breakup in your head, wondering: “Is he thinking about me? Does he even care? Will he ever come back?” this episode is for you.

I’ll walk you through the hidden emotional timeline of the avoidant partner after a breakup..the relief phase, the delayed grief, and the subtle breadcrumbs they drop instead of saying “I miss you.”

We’ll explore why they seem fine right away, why their emotions hit them months later, and the indirect ways they try to reconnect when vulnerability feels too dangerous.

Think of it like opening a locked safe..their feelings are inside, but the timing of when they surface might surprise you.

You’ll learn: ★ Why avoidants really pull away when things feel “too close” ★ The difference between breakup relief and delayed grief ★ How to spot those tiny breadcrumbs that mean more than they let on ★ Why their suffering shows up AFTER you’ve already cried your tears ★ Four powerful steps YOU can take to reclaim your energy and move forward with confidence

This isn’t about waiting for them to change—it’s about understanding the avoidant attachment style better, so you can stop second-guessing yourself and finally put the focus back on YOU.

If you’re anxiously attached and stuck in the “what ifs,” this episode will give you clarity, relief, and a path to heal while they’re still wrestling with their locked-away emotions.

Press play, and let’s unpack what really happens when the avoidant realizes they lost you. 📓🖤✨

CHAPTER:

00:00 Understanding Avoidant Attachment After a Breakup 01:10 What is an Avoidant Attachment Style? 02:13 How This Leads to a Breakup 03:59 Why They Pull Away 06:35 The Breakup RELIEF and Delayed Grief 09:43 Indirect Ways They Show They Care 11:15 Why Anxious hurt DURING relationships, Avoidant’s AFTER 13:14 Empowering yourself after a Breakup 4 Steps 16:28 Step 01 17:25 Step 02 18:12 Step 03 18:49 Step 04 19:32 Remember THIS

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You know that gut-wrenching feeling when he’s into you one moment and distant the next?

When you’re left wondering why he won’t open up, or why your stomach drops every time he pulls away?

That’s what happens when you’re dealing with someone who’s emotionally unavailable.

In this episode of the Anxious to Secure Podcast, we’ll break down 10 clear signs of emotional unavailability… plus a bonus one at the end you don’t want to miss.

This will help you spot the patterns fast when you’re dating, or finally understand why your anxiety spikes in your current relationship.

And before we start:

this isn’t about blame 💛 it’s about awareness. Awareness is step one in protecting your heart and nervous system.

We’ll talk about what it really means to be emotionally unavailable, especially in dismissive avoidants…why they crave closeness but fear it, how mixed signals and lack of affection leave you anxious, and the painful gap between what they say they want and what they actually do.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the emotional work, begging for crumbs of affection, or whispering in your head,

“Does he even care?”… this episode will hit home.

Stick with me until the end, because the bonus sign reveals why words and actions so often don’t line up… and why that mismatch keeps you stuck on people who feel impossible to reach.

CHAPTERS:

00:00 10 Signs He’s Emotionally Unavailable 00:36 What is the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style at all? 02:45 01 They dodge deeper conversations 04:35 02 They’re inconsistent in communication 06:24 03 They don’t prioritize you 07:43 04 Fear of commitment or future talk 09:38 05 They invalidate your feelings 10:58 06 Affection feels limited or conditional 12:07 07 They disappear under stress 13:06 08 Overly focused on independence 13:57 09 Mixed signals 14:50 10 You feel emotionally starved 16:20 BONUS SIGN: Actions vs. Words in Relationships 18:31 If you are attracted to THESE men - WHAT NOW?

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Have you ever dated someone who felt close one moment and distant the next? Or maybe you’ve wondered if your partner is emotionally unavailable, avoidant attached, or simply not interested at all. 🖤

This episode untangles one of the most confusing parts of modern dating and relationships: the difference between emotionally unavailable men, dismissive avoidant partners, and those who are just not into you.

Inside, you’ll hear:

• What “emotionally unavailable” actually means (and why even secure men or husbands can go through it).

• The difference between a partner who’s avoidant attached vs. someone temporarily checked out.

• How emotionally distant partners show up in dating, relationships, and marriage.

• The one question to ask yourself when you feel stuck over their mixed signals.

This episode of the Anxious to Secure Podcast,

I break it all down so you’ll finally know whether your partner’s distance is a passing phase, an avoidant attachment wound, or a sign they don’t want a deeper commitment.

If you’ve been replaying texts, questioning your worth, or wondering why your emotionally unavailable boyfriend or husband won’t open up…this episode is for you…

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CHAPTER:

00:00 Understanding Emotional Availability 01:33 What does “emotionally unavailable” actually mean 02:22 SECURE but Emotionally Unavailable 04:34 Emotionally Unavailable (general, not always avoidant) 05:55 Avoidant Attachment (dismissive avoidant) 10:52 The Reddit Take 13:12 The “Just Not That Into You” piece 14:49 Final breakdown 18:17 In short ASK yourself THIS

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Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

Attachment Style QUIZ –

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Ever catch yourself panicking when someone pulls away… overthinking every text… or feeling like no matter how much love you get, it’s never enough?

If that sounds like you, this episode is MADE for you. We’re diving into attachment styles

secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized so you can finally understand why you feel the way you do in love.

This isn’t about labels or “fixing yourself.” It’s about awareness, clarity, and seeing your patterns with curiosity. ✨

I’ll walk you through: ▶️ A 10-question quiz to see your attachment style ▶️ Real-life examples of each style in dating & relationships ▶️ The difference between anxious and disorganized attachment ▶️ How to start creating security from within—without needing your partner to “fix” anything

Bonus:

I share my personal story of realizing why I overthink, panic, and crave reassurance, and how that awareness changed everything in my relationships.

Grab your notes app 📝 or a piece of paper, and let’s get clarity on your love patterns—so you can start feeling safe, confident, and seen in love.

This quiz is your roadmap to understanding yourself, your nervous system, and your patterns in love.

🎧 Listen now and start seeing your relationships in a whole new way.

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Like….

• Anxious ArcheTYPE QUIZ – Discover which of the 4 archetypes you are and how you manage your stress and anxiety

• ✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist – Signs you're becoming securely attached

• How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding Attachment Styles 02:39 Free Attachment Style Quiz 04:07 Question 01 04:35 Question 02 05:01 Question 03 05:20 Question 04 05:54 Question 05 06:33 Question 06 07:14 Question 07 07:34 Question 08 08:07 The Quiz Result 09:30 Secure Attachment 10:24 Anxious Attachment 12:24 Avoidant Attachment 14:00 Disorganized Attachment 15:56 What's the Difference between Anxious + Disorganised Attachment Style 17:06 The TAKEAWAY 18:27 Coaching and Support Options 19:06 BIG attachment theory LIE

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Gilmore Girls Attachment Style Breakdown (Part 2): Rory & Her Relationships

Welcome back to part two of the Gilmore Girls Attachment Style Breakdown! Today we’re diving deep into Rory’s world—her relationships, dating patterns, and why she’s attracted to certain types of people like Dean, Jess, Logan, and even Tristan.

If you haven’t watched part one yet,

I recommend starting there to understand the foundation of the characters’ attachment styles, including Lorelai, Luke, Christopher, Emily, and Richard

In this episode, we explore: ✨ Rory’s anxious attachment style with disorganized edges ✨ How her upbringing shaped her relationship patterns ✨ Why she chases unavailable partners and idolizes her boyfriends ✨ The push-and-pull dynamic with Dean, Jess, Logan, and Tristan ✨ How her self-worth ties to achievement, school, and love ✨ The patterns that make her relationships challenging ✨ My #1 tip for Rory (and anyone with anxious tendencies) to finally feel secure in love

We also break down: 💛 Dean – anxious attachment, craving closeness but over-investing emotionally 💚 Jess – disorganized tendencies, rebellious and protective, struggles with vulnerability 💙 Tristan – classic avoidant, keeps emotional distance, immature and testing Rory 💜 Logan – avoidant with some disorganized traits, charming but emotionally inconsistent

If you’re anxious in love like Rory,

the real shift happens when you build security within yourself first.

When you stop chasing emotional red flags, you attract reliable, loving partners and create healthier dynamics in all areas of your life.

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📌 Don’t forget to comment below: Who’s your favorite Rory boyfriend? And do you relate to Rory’s anxious tendencies in love?

Thanks for watching and doing the work with me! Happy autumn and remember, change in your relationships starts with you—thought by thought, action by action.

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Intro to Gilmore Girls Attachments Styles 01:28 Rory's Attachment Style 11:46 Dean's Attachment Style 20:30 Jess Mariano's Attachment Style 25:24 Tristan's Attachment Style 30:56 Logan Huntzberger's Attachment Style 36:49 My BIGGEST relationship Advice for RORY

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.