In this conversation, Adi Tilford and Spencer Owen discuss unexpected friendships that formed during the COVID-19 pandemic and the challenges of making and maintaining friendships. They explore the idea of reconstructing religion for those who have experienced spiritual trauma and the need for trauma-informed theology. They discuss the division and polarization in society and the role of the church in promoting love and unity. They also touch on the importance of setting realistic expectations in friendships and the need for inner work and attachment healing. The conversation explores the importance of secure attachment and feedback loops in building healthy relationships. It emphasizes the need for individuals to feel safe within themselves and with God in order to form secure attachments with others. The discussion also highlights the idea that God not only loves us but also likes us, and that building a secure sense of self starts with our relationship with God. The conversation concludes with a reflection on the importance of play and rest in our lives.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and COVID-19 Friendship Stories
07:48 The Challenges of Division and Animosity
14:00 Grapples with Friendship and Loneliness
21:27 The Biblical Perspective on Friendship and Acceptance
26:37 Attachment Styles and Realistic Expectations
29:15 The Importance of Inner Work and Therapy
35:22 Building Secure Attachments and Feeling Safe
45:45 Understanding God's Love and Liking for Us
56:28 The Transformative Power of Felt Safety
01:06:12 Play as a Spiritual Practice and Joining God in His Work
01:09:24 Introduction and Podcast Announcement
01:11:04 Reconstructing Religion for the Hurting
01:11:33 A Trauma-Informed Perspective on the Bible
01:12:01 Ending Each Episode with Clarity and Understanding
Keywords: podcast, support, friendship, trauma-informed, theology, division, unity, expectations, inner work, attachment healing, secure attachment, feedback loops, safety, relationship with God, play, rest
You can connect with Spencer through his website Renewed Life Counseling and on Facebook at Renewed Life Counseling
Watch the Live Video of this Conversation on Facebook
More from Spencer:
The Promise for Atonement (re-pair): with Spencer Owen
Grapple Loudly - Wrapping up Amplify: God Sees and Hears Everyone
Grapple with Forgiveness with Spencer Owen
Grappling with Dreams and Desires and their Fulfillment with Spencer Owen
You can find me on Instagram at AdiTilfordWrites, Facebook at AdiTilford-Author and at my website AdiTilford.com.
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