Summary

In this conversation (Part 1 of 2), Bassey and Mike explore the intersections of culture, creativity, and the evolving landscape of podcasting and hip hop. They discuss the rise of Deante Kyle, the impact of Taxstone on the podcasting scene, and the dynamics of male-female interactions in media. The conversation delves into Kendrick Lamar's legacy, the future of hip hop, and the controversial influence of Drake on the genre, highlighting the complexities of authenticity and commercial success in music.

Keywords

podcasting, culture, creativity, Kendrick Lamar, Drake, hip hop, Deante Kyle, Taxstone, Joe Budden, music industry

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Culture and Creativity

01:59 The Importance of Engagement in Podcasting

03:56 The Rise of Deontay Kyle and Podcasting Evolution

09:43 The Impact of Joe Budden's Podcasting Success

13:47 Conversations on Gender Dynamics in Podcasting

19:57 Kendrick Lamar's Legacy and Hip Hop's Future

29:48 The State of Hip Hop and Emerging Artists

39:06 The Evolution of Drake's Music

41:15 Authenticity and Image in Hip Hop

45:23 The Impact of Social Media on Music Careers

49:43 Cultural Significance of Music in Black Identity

53:38 The Role of Record Labels in Shaping Artists

This week on The Idea Of…, Bassey and Mike explore what they’re calling “parental puberty”—that strange, emotional, confusing phase when your kids are almost adults but still deeply need guidance... and groceries.

From kettlebell-induced back pain to why Black boys laughing triggers white authority figures, this episode dives into how we’re raising our kids, what age-appropriate really means, and why both Black girls and boys are being rushed into adulthood by culture, media, and misguided grown folks.

We also touch on:

• How generational trauma shapes parenting styles

• Why parents feel guilty for giving boundaries

• The disappearing middle ground between childhood and adulthood

• Shoutouts to Wu-Tang, Tyler the Creator, and the teenage logic behind crop tops

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Conversation

02:32 Physical Challenges and Personal Growth

05:16 Listener Engagement and Community Connection

08:00 Cultural Commentary on Podcasting

10:36 The Evolution of Tyler, the Creator

13:08 Black Boyhood and Black Girlhood

15:41 The Pressure on Young Girls

18:20 Perceptions of Age and Youth

20:29 The Impact of Media on Youth

23:07 Navigating Age-Appropriate Content

29:13 Evolving Parenting Styles

35:19 Navigating the Transition to Independence

40:18 Understanding Teen Behavior and Communication

43:32 The Challenges of Trust and Responsibility

47:20 The Evolution of Hip Hop and Aging Artists

This week, Bassey holds it down solo for an episode that’s raw, reflective, and relentlessly real. After battling nerves, tech fails, and perfectionism, she hits record—and lets it all out.

From the butterfly effect that took her from Baltimore to Brooklyn, to the quiet unraveling of confidence over the years, Bassey explores what it means to forget who you are—and what it takes to remember. She dives into self-worth, fear, visibility, the myth of “being past your prime,” and the silent damage of showing up for everyone but yourself.

It’s part memoir, part reckoning, and all heart. If you’ve ever felt like you left pieces of yourself behind… this one’s for you.

Also: TikTok reflections, surgery scars, Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic, and a metaphor about yogurt that almost lands.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Technical Struggles

06:02 Confidence as a Portal

10:52 The Journey of Self-Discovery

15:46 The Impact of Self-Talk

20:49 Promises to Oneself

27:01 Body Image and Acceptance

32:41 Facing the Past and Moving Forward

In this wide-ranging episode, Mike and Bassey spiral—in the best way possible—through everything from getting older and noticing your face change overnight, to what it means to have style in a copy-paste TikTok world. They discuss parenting college-aged Black sons at PWIs, avoiding the dreaded cargo short uncle aesthetic, and the anxiety of legacy, culture, and generational gaps. It’s funny, tender, brutally honest—and yes, we read our first hate comment out loud. Welcome to nuance…

Chapters:

00:00 – Welcome to the Noise

03:00 – The Comment Section is Wild

06:30 – Promoting Yourself is Weird

10:00 – Gray Hair, Laugh Lines, and Looking 50 Overnight

14:30 – Uncle Fashion & Capsule Wardrobes Ain’t It

20:45 – TikTok is Anti-Style (and Anti-Black?)

30:00 – Parenting in Public (and Private)

37:30 – Black Parenting at PWIs: A Cautionary Tale

47:00 – Generational Fear & Love in Translation

54:30 – Style is Spiritual

59:00 – Black Legacy Contracts (Two Full Black Kids Minimum)

1:06:30 – Wait… What Were We Supposed to Talk About?

In this episode, Mike and Bassey pick up where they left off; with the conversations that too often get cut short.

We’re talking loneliness, manhood, growth, and the real cost of disconnection. From weighted vests and busted knees to what happens when Black men finally start talking to each other—with honesty, humility, and without the pressure of being performative.

We explore:

• The isolation Black men carry and how it shows up in our health, our silence, and our relationships

• How COVID disrupted community spaces—and why we’re still recovering

• The danger of mistaking accountability for attack

• Why the "let Black men talk" moment is bigger than one creator, but why voices like Deante Kyle’s matter

• The difference between holding space and policing pain

• Whether Black men are actually the “weak link”—and what it would mean to ask that question without shame

This episode is layered. It’s personal. It’s political. And it’s full of the nuance we created The Idea Of… for in the first place.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates

02:47 Fitness Journey and Challenges

05:30 Engagement with Listeners and Podcast Growth

08:31 Discussion on Social Media Dynamics

11:06 Micro vs. Macro Perspectives in Conversations

14:04 Accountability and Community Conversations

16:46 The Evolution of Black Men and Women Conversations

19:25 Collective Growth and Understanding

22:27 Navigating Vulnerability and Loneliness

25:03 Conclusion and Future Directions

31:41 Understanding Communication and Conflict Resolution

33:39 The Loneliness Epidemic and Community Connection

36:16 Gender Dynamics and the Red Pill Community

37:09 The Role of Social Media in Community Building

40:50 The Perception of Black Men in Society

45:40 The Importance of Male Bonding and Connection

47:16 Recreating Community Spaces in a Post-COVID World

51:09 The Impact of COVID on Social Interaction

55:40 Navigating Extroversion and Social Norms

58:42 The Need for Nuanced Conversations

This week, it's just Mike on the mic—flying solo, but grounded in reflection. In this raw and vulnerable episode, Mike shares his personal evolution as a straight Black man navigating proximity to LGBTQ+ community spaces—from a Durand Bernard concert to Beyoncé’s Cowboy Carter tour—and how those moments sparked deeper reflection on masculinity, homophobia, and what Black liberation really requires.

In this layered, expansive episode of The Idea Of..., Bassey and Mike start with glitter tuxes, Maybach rentals, and the ever-evolving Black prom aesthetic—but quickly dive into deeper territory. What begins as nostalgia and cultural reflection unfolds into a nuanced conversation about heartbreak, socialization, masculinity, regional hip hop beef, and why some men are still defending the indefensible.

Mike opens up about a personal moment with his son that leads to an exploration of how early emotional wounds calcify into lifelong perspectives—especially for Black men. Bassey brings fire and clarity, questioning the roots of behavior that turns disappointment into misogyny and heartbreak into internet hot takes.

The duo also takes stock of the current rap battles lighting up the culture, critiques the weaponization of regional sound, and a bunch more. Tune in fam and hit us up via e-mail wearetheideapod@gmail.com - Twitter & IG, @wearetheideapod

Chapters

00:00 Welcome to the Idea of Podcast

02:11 Reflections on Time and Growing Up

04:41 The Evolution of Prom Culture

12:18 Changing Dynamics of High School Relationships

21:59 The Impact of Media on Youth Experiences

25:15 Nostalgia for Classic Shows

25:39 The Current State of Hip-Hop

27:08 Battle Rap and Its Icons

27:34 The Impact of Stan Culture

28:29 Analyzing Recent Rap Battles

29:48 The Role of Regional Identity in Rap

31:46 The Evolution of East Coast vs. West Coast

33:52 Authenticity in Modern Rap

37:13 The Challenge of Regional Flows

39:22 The Legacy of Influential Rappers

43:19 The Future of Hip-Hop and New Artists

47:51 The Controversial World of Battle Rap

49:54 The Ethics of Personal Attacks in Rap

51:55 The Art of Response in Hip-Hop

53:37 Media Sensationalism and Public Attention

55:18 Men's Voices in Conversations about Gender Issues

58:19 The Impact of Early Heartbreak on Men

01:05:18 Navigating Emotional Vulnerability in Relationships

01:11:14 The Socialization of Boys and Girls in Relationships

01:20:41 Navigating Masculinity and Socialization

01:24:02 Understanding Relationship Dynamics and Emotional Pain

01:27:28 The Impact of Gender on Perception and Behavior

01:31:26 Reflections on Identity and Socialization

01:44:06 The Intersection of Gender, Power, and Public Perception

In this conversation, Bassey and Mike delve into the intricacies of creativity, mental health, and the importance of cultural representation in art. They explore personal growth through creative practices, the impact of community and performance, and the significance of protecting one's creative gifts. The discussion also touches on the influence of prominent black artists and the evolving landscape of black creativity in contemporary society.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Creativity and Culture

01:10 Exploring the Artist's Way

03:08 The Impact of Morning Pages on Mental Health

05:50 The Challenge of Daily Creativity

08:20 The Relationship Between Creativity and Mental Health

10:51 The Struggle of Finding a Creative Outlet

12:54 The Importance of Performance and Expression

15:05 Personal Growth and Identity

18:46 The Need for Authentic Black Representation

21:21 The Power of Black Creativity

24:22 The Importance of Niche Storytelling

27:23 Self-Funding and Creative Freedom

31:07 Redefining Black Expression

34:29 The Power of Community in Black Liberation

37:55 Reflections on 'Sinners' and Black Representation

43:09 The Importance of Presentation in Art

47:54 The Resilience of Black Children in the Arts

51:34 Fatherhood and Protection in Black Narratives

56:54 The Impact of the Music Industry on Black Artists