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  • 143: Transforming Relationships: How to Strengthen Connection and Overcome Defensiveness with E.J. Kerwin

    143: Transforming Relationships: How to Strengthen Connection and Overcome Defensiveness with E.J. Kerwin
    Feb 20 2025

    In this episode of the Modern Man Podcast, Ted discusses the complexities of relationships with licensed professional counselor EJ Kerwin. They explore the importance of communication, the challenges of defensiveness, and the necessity of mindfulness in maintaining healthy relationships. EJ shares insights from his own experiences and professional practice, emphasizing the need for couples to navigate changes together and to work on their emotional connections. In this conversation, the speakers delve into the complexities of navigating relationships, especially in the context of parenthood. They discuss the importance of emotional awareness, the need for gratitude and connection, and the evolving expectations of men in relationships. The conversation emphasizes the significance of creating emotional safety and acceptance within partnerships, as well as the impact of these dynamics on personal growth and family life.

    Takeaways

    • Relationships require ongoing work and commitment.

    • Defensiveness can hinder effective communication.

    • Recognizing personal triggers is key to managing defensiveness.

    • Mindfulness can enhance relationship satisfaction.

    • Curiosity in communication fosters understanding.

    • Couples often struggle during major life transitions.

    • Each partner may adapt differently to stress.

    • Grace and understanding are essential in relationships.

    • Practicing mindfulness takes effort but yields benefits.

    • Effective communication involves adapting to each other's needs. Dividing responsibilities in parenting can lead to misalignment.

    • Regularly checking in with your partner is essential for connection.

    • Mindfulness helps in recognizing and addressing relationship misalignments.

    • Gratitude should be vocalized specifically to be impactful.

    • Emotional awareness is now a key expectation in relationships.

    • Men are encouraged to express vulnerability without fear of weakness.

    • Creating emotional safety allows partners to be their true selves.

    • Understanding your partner's struggles can foster deeper connections.

    • The relationship between parents influences their children's views on relationships.

    • Continuous learning about your partner is vital for growth.



    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to the Modern Man Podcast

    01:00 Meet EJ Kerwin: A Journey into Relationship Counseling

    04:23 The Reality of Relationship Work

    05:54 Understanding Disconnection in Relationships

    09:23 Defensiveness: A Barrier to Connection

    12:05 Recognizing and Overcoming Defensiveness

    18:46 Cultivating Receptiveness in Communication

    22:10 The Importance of Mindfulness in Relationships

    25:28 Navigating Major Life Changes Together

    28:51 Navigating Parenthood and Relationship Dynamics

    36:00 The Evolving Expectations of Emotional Awareness

    41:39 Creating Emotional Safety in Relationships

    46:38 The Impact of Relationships on Personal Growth

    E.J.’s Links

    Website: https://relationshiprenovation.com/

    Spotify: Relationship Renovation Podcast

    Online Course: relationshiprenovation.com

    Instagram: @relationshiprenovation

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    57 min
  • Why Time Management Isn’t Enough | Master Your Energy for Peak Performance 🚀

    Why Time Management Isn’t Enough | Master Your Energy for Peak Performance 🚀
    Feb 17 2025
    Fellas, most guys focus on managing time. But let’s be honest—if you don’t have the energy to execute, it doesn’t matter how much time you have.

    The real key to high performance? Energy management.

    This week’s Modern Moment breaks down:
    ✔️ Why time management alone won’t save you 🕒
    ✔️ The 3 key areas of energy mastery ⚡
    ✔️ How to use the 90-minute work block method for peak performance 🏆
    ✔️ Why I trust MNLY for precision men’s health & optimization 🧬

    Want to stop feeling drained and start operating at your peak? Master your energy, and everything else will follow.

    🔥 EXCLUSIVE: Join The Noble Knights today and get early access to Tools of Time before it goes public! 👇
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    See you inside, let’s grow. ⚔️🔥

    #EnergyManagement #PeakPerformance #WorkSmarter #OptimizeYourLife #MenWithDiscipline #HighPerformanceHabits #TheModernMan #ToolsOfTime #MensHealthMatters #StayFocused #TimeVsEnergy #SuccessMindset #TheNobleKnights #MasterYourEnergy
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    6 min
  • How Small Wins Create Massive Success | Build Unstoppable Momentum 📈

    How Small Wins Create Massive Success | Build Unstoppable Momentum 📈
    Feb 17 2025
    🚀 Success isn’t built overnight—it’s built through small, consistent wins.

    Last week, we talked about Daily Discipline and why your routine is the key to success. But here’s the real question: How do you stay disciplined when motivation fades? The answer? Momentum. ⚡

    This week’s Monday Modern Moment will cover:
    ✔️ The science behind small wins and why they keep you moving forward 🏆
    ✔️ How to create momentum loops that make discipline easier 🚀
    ✔️ The 2-minute rule for instant progress ⏳
    ✔️ Why success isn’t about huge leaps, but about consistent steps 👣

    If you’ve ever felt stuck, this is your breakthrough. Master momentum, and you’ll never stop moving forward.

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    #SmallWins #Momentum #SuccessHabits #DailyDiscipline #ModernMan #ToolsOfTime #WinningMindset #DisciplineEqualsFreedom #AtomicHabits #GoalSetting #SelfImprovement #TimeManagement
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    5 min
  • 142: Beyond the Surface: Exploring the Deeper Layers of Human Behavior with Jahmaal Marshall

    142: Beyond the Surface: Exploring the Deeper Layers of Human Behavior with Jahmaal Marshall
    Feb 12 2025

    In this episode of The Modern Man Podcast, Ted sits down with Jahmaal Marshall, a counselor and podcaster, for a deep and honest conversation about personal growth, burnout, and the power of community. Jahmaal opens up about his journey into podcasting and the lessons he’s learned along the way, emphasizing the importance of stepping into discomfort and building strong support systems.

    They dive into managing energy, taking time to reflect, and auditing different areas of life to keep growing. Jahmaal also breaks down common self-sabotaging habits, helping listeners understand their deeper reasons.

    The conversation touches on the transition from a reactive, boyish mindset to a more intentional and strategic way of living. They talk about the real (often unglamorous) work required for long-term success—like facing fears, pushing through resistance, and making tough but necessary changes. Jahmaal also shares insights on avoiding burnout and the wisdom we can learn from nature about time and transformation.



    Takeaways

    • Embrace discomfort to foster personal growth.

    • Community support is crucial for accountability.

    • Burnout can be managed through energy awareness.

    • Pausing allows for reflection and better decision-making.

    • Auditing your life helps identify areas for improvement.

    • Self-sabotage often stems from deep-rooted beliefs.

    • Understanding your 'why' is key to sustainable change.

    • Small tweaks can lead to significant improvements.

    • Time management is essential for productivity.

    • Healing past traumas is necessary for future success. Monetary success does not equate to spiritual or emotional well-being.

    • Investing time in personal growth can prevent future setbacks.

    • Resistance is a natural part of making significant changes.

    • Vulnerability is essential for true healing and growth.

    • Transitioning from a boy to a man involves strategic thinking.

    • Recognizing patterns in behavior is crucial for change.

    • Course corrections are necessary for achieving goals.

    • Sustainable change often requires unsexy work.

    • Nature teaches us valuable lessons about time and letting go.

    • Healing oneself can prevent others from suffering from your past actions.

    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to the Modern Man Podcast

    09:29 The Importance of Pausing

    17:34 Auditing for Growth

    23:13 Identifying Self-Sabotaging Behaviors

    29:13 The Importance of Vulnerability and Openness

    34:13 Understanding Resistance and Opposition

    40:32 The Non-Sexy Work of Sustainable Change

    49:10 Lessons from Nature and Time Management

    Jahmaal’s Links:

    Website: listenthenspeak.com

    LinkedIn: jahmaalmarshall

    Youtube: Jahmaal Marshall

    Podcast: Listen Then Speak

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    56 min
  • Daily Discipline: Why Your Routine Determines Your Success 🚀

    Daily Discipline: Why Your Routine Determines Your Success 🚀
    Feb 6 2025
    🚀Success doesn’t happen by accident—it’s built through daily discipline.

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    If you’re struggling to stay consistent, feel like time is slipping away, or want to level up your life, it all starts with your daily routine.

    In today’s Monday Modern Moment, we’re breaking down:

    ✔️ The psychology behind habits & routines 🧠

    ✔️ How your daily discipline impacts success 📈

    ✔️ Why small actions lead to massive results over time ⚡

    ✔️ How I personally use my Daily Discipline Planner 📝

    Every successful man has a structured approach to life. If you’re ready to take control, watch until the end, and let’s build a system that works for YOU.

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    #DailyDiscipline #MorningRoutine #SuccessHabits #ProductivityHacks #ModernMan
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    5 min
  • 141: Redefining the American Dream: Latino Masculinity and Mental Health with Dr. Paul Rivera

    141: Redefining the American Dream: Latino Masculinity and Mental Health with Dr. Paul Rivera
    Feb 5 2025

    In this episode of the Modern Man Podcast, host Ted engages in a profound conversation with Dr. Paul Rivera, co-founder of B Act Change. They explore themes of personal growth, the importance of recognizing one's superpower, and the impact of diversity on success. Dr. Rivera shares his journey from academia to international diplomacy, emphasizing the need for community support and mental health awareness, particularly among Black and Brown men. The discussion culminates in a redefinition of the American dream, advocating for a more personalized and meaningful approach to success. In this conversation, Paul Rivera discusses the challenges of effecting change from within organizations, particularly in the context of the U.S. government. He shares personal experiences with imposter syndrome and emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's own value and aspirations. The discussion highlights the power of listening, the significance of mental health, and the need to honor the sacrifices of elders while defining success on one's own terms. Practical steps for manifesting dreams are provided, along with insights into the importance of celebrating small wins and recognizing potential in others. Paul reflects on childhood experiences that shaped his understanding of masculinity and the importance of being open and accepting.

    Takeaways

    • Embrace discomfort to cultivate community.

    • Recognizing your superpower can lead to personal growth.

    • Diversity in perspective enhances problem-solving abilities.

    • The American dream should be redefined to reflect personal values.

    • Mental health awareness is crucial for marginalized communities.

    • Community support can alleviate feelings of isolation.

    • Success is subjective and should be measured by personal fulfillment.

    • Resilience tools are essential for navigating life's challenges.

    • Articulating one's gifts can lead to monetizing passions.

    • Gratitude for past struggles fosters happiness. It's much more impactful to push change from the outside.

    • Imposter syndrome is common, but you belong where you are.

    • Asking about aspirations can transform conversations.

    • Change lives one at a time by connecting with individuals.

    • Manifestation requires taking action, not just wishing.

    • Allow yourself grace to make mistakes and learn.

    • Celebrate small wins to build resilience.

    • Representation matters; seeing someone like you can inspire change.

    • Defining success on your own terms is crucial.

    • Masculinity can be expressed in many different ways.



    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to the Modern Man Podcast

    01:05 Meet Dr. Paul Rivera: A Journey of Discovery

    04:44 Understanding Your Superpower

    10:14 The Importance of Diversity in Perspective

    16:24 The American Dream: Redefining Success

    23:21 Creating a New American Dream

    28:01 The Challenge of Effecting Change from Within

    29:32 Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

    31:16 The Power of Listening and Aspirations

    33:52 Breaking Barriers in Mental Health

    36:14 Honoring Elders and Defining Success

    39:58 Practical Steps to Manifest Your Dreams

    45:43 Recognizing Potential in Others

    49:00 Childhood Experiences Shaping Masculinity



    Dr. Paul’s Links:

    LinkedIn: drpaulrivera

    Website: beactchange.com

    Instagram: be.act.change

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    58 min
  • 140: Healing Masculine Wounds: Unlock True Freedom and Intimacy with Melissa Le Gette

    140: Healing Masculine Wounds: Unlock True Freedom and Intimacy with Melissa Le Gette
    Jan 29 2025
    In this episode of the Modern Man Podcast, Ted Phaeton speaks with intuitive guide Melissa Le Gette about the importance of inner transformation and understanding the balance between masculine and feminine energies. They explore how early life programming affects adult relationships, the significance of healing wounds, and the dynamics of control and intimacy in partnerships. Melissa shares her journey of working with men and emphasizes the need for men to connect with their inner selves to achieve true freedom and fulfillment. In this conversation, Melissa Le Gette and Ted Phaeton explore the dynamics of relationships, emphasizing the importance of communication, boundaries, and understanding masculine and feminine energies. They discuss how to nurture intimacy, the significance of personal growth, and the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior. The dialogue also touches on cultural narratives surrounding masculinity and the need for mutual respect and support in relationships. Takeaways The subconscious realm holds the key to understanding ourselves.Healing the masculine within can lead to deeper connections.Early life programming shapes our beliefs about love and safety.The mother wound often manifests as feelings of unworthiness.Creating space between trigger and response is essential for healing.Men are increasingly seeking support and guidance in their journeys.Intimacy requires trust and respect in relationships.Balancing masculine and feminine energies leads to wholeness.Freedom comes from within, not from external circumstances.Healing is a journey that involves compassion for our past. Communicate your needs clearly in relationships.Setting boundaries is essential for personal growth.Masculine energy provides structure and safety.Feminine energy seeks connection and flow.Intimacy is nurtured through understanding roles.Finding balance involves embracing both masculine and feminine energies.Healing childhood wounds is crucial for personal development.Cultural narratives can shape perceptions of masculinity.Respecting each other's capabilities fosters healthy relationships.Peace comes from within and is a journey of self-awareness. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Modern Man Podcast 05:00 The Shift Towards Working with Men 09:55 Exploring Early Life Programming 15:00 The Balance of Masculine and Feminine Energies 20:09 Navigating Relationships and Control Dynamics 26:05 Masculine and Feminine Dynamics 31:08 Finding Balance and Peace 35:46 Healing from Childhood Wounds Melissa’s Links: Instagram: melissa_legette Website: melissalegette.com Youtube: melissalegette Free eBook Here: Mastering Self-Development: Strategies of the New Masculine: https://rebrand.ly/m2ebook ⚔️JOIN THE NOBLE KNIGHTS MASTERMIND⚔️ https://themodernmanpodcast.com/thenobleknights 🤝CONNECT WITH THE MODERN MAN🤝 Visit our website: themodernmanshow.com Follow us on Twitter: TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: @TheModernManShow Subscribe to our YouTube channel: The Modern Man
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    49 min
  • 139: Transforming Health Through Sobriety with Clifford Stephan

    139: Transforming Health Through Sobriety with Clifford Stephan
    Jan 22 2025
    In this episode of the Modern Man Podcast, host Ted Phaeton speaks with Clifford Stephan, founder of Booze Vacation, about the impact of alcohol on men's health and performance. Clifford shares his journey with alcohol, the concept of a 'booze vacation', and the health benefits that come from taking a break from drinking. They discuss the competitive edge gained from sobriety, the root causes of alcohol dependency, and how to navigate social and business situations without alcohol. The conversation emphasizes taking responsibility for one's health and making intentional lifestyle changes. In this conversation, Clifford Stephan discusses the profound impact of alcohol on health, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and education regarding alcohol consumption. He introduces the concept of 'Booze Vacation,' a transformative approach to reducing alcohol intake and improving overall well-being. The discussion highlights the necessity of setting boundaries, advocating for oneself, and the positive changes that can occur after taking a break from alcohol. The conversation concludes with reflections on kindness and the fragility of life, encouraging listeners to be mindful of their choices and the effects of alcohol on their health. Takeaways Clifford's journey with alcohol began in high school and continued into adulthood.The concept of a 'booze vacation' allows for a break from drinking without the pressure of permanent sobriety.Taking a break from alcohol can lead to significant health improvements and better performance.Alcohol can negatively impact sleep quality, hormone regulation, and overall health.Men often ignore health issues until they become serious, similar to ignoring a check engine light.A longer break from alcohol allows for more substantial health gains and personal development.Sobriety can provide a competitive edge in both personal and professional life.Many men have nostalgic ties to drinking, making it difficult to change habits.It's essential to take responsibility for one's health and not blame external factors.Navigating social situations without alcohol is possible and can be reframed as a positive experience. Regular drinking can lead to pre-disease symptoms.Self-advocacy is crucial for maintaining health.Setting boundaries can inspire others to make healthy choices.Taking a break from alcohol can lead to significant health improvements.Knowledge about alcohol's effects empowers better decision-making.Life after a booze vacation can be refreshing and enlightening.It's important to connect the dots between alcohol and health issues.Being kind to oneself and others is essential in life's journey.Alcohol can tax many bodily systems, leading to long-term health issues.Making lifestyle changes can eliminate the need for medications. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Modern Man Podcast 01:21 Clifford's Journey with Alcohol 06:52 The Concept of a 'Booze Vacation' 11:16 Health Benefits of Taking a Break from Alcohol 13:27 The Competitive Edge of Sobriety 17:32 Root Causes of Alcohol Dependency 19:29 Navigating Business and Social Life Without Alcohol 20:00 Understanding the Impact of Alcohol on Health 23:13 The Importance of Self-Advocacy and Boundaries 26:00 Boo's Vacation: Transforming Lives Through Alcohol Awareness 30:06 Life After a Boo's Vacation: A New Perspective 31:50 Connecting the Dots: Knowledge is Power 34:11 Final Thoughts: Life Lessons and Kindness Clifford’s Links: Website - boozevacation.com LinkedIn - cliffordstephan TikTok - cliffordstephan1 Free eBook Here: Mastering Self-Development: Strategies of the New Masculine: https://rebrand.ly/m2ebook ⚔️JOIN THE NOBLE KNIGHTS MASTERMIND⚔️ https://themodernmanpodcast.com/thenobleknights 🤝CONNECT WITH THE MODERN MAN🤝 Visit our website: themodernmanshow.com Follow us on Twitter: TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: @TheModernManShow Subscribe to our YouTube channel: The Modern Man
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    42 min