Have you been living in a holding pattern—waiting, hoping, and unsure of when you’ll finally start living again?

For years, infertility treatments dictated your schedule. You held off on vacations, skipped girls’ weekends, and put projects on pause, thinking, Maybe by then, I’ll be pregnant. Maybe I’ll have a baby.

But now, fertility treatments are behind you, and you’re still feeling stuck. You have ideas of what you could do—remodeling a room, traveling, learning something new—but the energy just isn’t there to start.

Why?

In this episode, we’re breaking down the three biggest reasons why moving forward can feel paralyzing when you are childless after infertility:

1️⃣ Fear – Making plans for your future feels like closing the door on motherhood, and that’s terrifying.
2️⃣ Comparison – Nothing seems as meaningful as motherhood was supposed to be, so you tell yourself it’s not even worth trying.
3️⃣ Overwhelm – You don’t know where to start, so you keep waiting for the “right time.”

But if not now… when?

I recently worked with a coaching client who felt this exact way. She had things she wanted to do—remodeling her bathroom, planting a garden, traveling more with her husband—but nothing was on the calendar. It all just felt big.

So we mapped it out.

What mattered most? What was her first step? When did she want to start?

And suddenly, it didn’t feel so overwhelming anymore.

This is exactly what we do inside the Thrive After Infertility Mastermind.
One of the three core pillars of the program is owning your time—because when you start making intentional choices about how to fill your days, you stop feeling lost in your own life.

✨ Want more guidance? My upcoming book, So Now What?, has an entire chapter dedicated to planning your future in a way that feels meaningful and fulfilling.

I’m giving away 10 free signed copies, and you can enter to win using the link in my show notes or by heading to my bio on Instagram or TikTok.

And if you’re ready to take action, book a free Thrive Call with me. We’ll create a personalized plan to help you stop waiting and start moving forward. The time to start is now.

🎧 Listen now, and let’s get you out of that holding pattern!

🔗 Resources Mentioned:

• 🎁 Enter to Win a Free Copy of My Book: click here

• 📖 Grab My Free Guide: The Top 27 Things People Say When You’re Childless (and How to Respond)

• 🤍 Book a Free Thrive Call: https://calendly.com/lanamanikowski/strategy-session

You don’t have to wait for your life to start.

The question is: If not now, when?

If you’ve ever felt the sting of someone’s pity—whether it’s the sad look, the heavy sigh, or the “I just feel so bad for you” comment—you’re not alone. When you’ve been through fertility treatments like IVF and IUI, only to walk away without the child you dreamed of, the last thing you need is for others to make you feel like your life is something to mourn.

In this episode of The ‘So Now What?’ Podcast, we’re talking about how to recognize and process both your own feelings of sorrow and the misplaced pity that others place on you. If you’ve struggled with feeling like people see your life as incomplete because you’re childless—not by choice—this conversation is for you.

💔 Why feeling sorry for yourself sometimes is okay—and how to move forward without guilt.
🧠 How to stop internalizing other people’s pity—so you don’t start believing their sadness for you.
👀 Why people pity childless women—and how their words are often more about them than you.
🗣️ How to confidently respond when people say things like “I wish you could have had a baby”—without feeling like you have to justify your happiness or explain your sadness.

Your life is not something to be pitied. If you’ve ever felt the weight of infertility, failed IVF, and the unexpected reality of a childless future, I want you to know—there is still so much for you. You can create a meaningful, fulfilling life, even though it looks different than you expected.

And if you don’t know what that looks like yet? That’s what I help with. Book a free Thrive Call and let’s create a plan that helps you move forward—so you feel connected to your future instead of stuck in the loss of a dream.

📖 My Book So Now What? is Coming Soon!—Want updates on the release? Click here.
📞 Book a Free Thrive Call—Let’s create a plan to help you thrive after infertility: Schedule here.
📩 Join My Email List—Get exclusive deals on Thrive After Infertility and weekly encouragement: Sign up here.
🗂️ Download My Free Guide: 27 Things People Say When You’re Childless (and How to Respond)—So you can handle these conversations with confidence: Get it here.

You are not alone, and your story is far from over. Let’s release the weight of pity and start embracing what’s next.

Do you feel like you don’t belong because you’re not part of the "parent club"?

Maybe you’ve noticed friendships shift as kids come into the picture, or you’ve caught yourself feeling excluded from conversations or outings.

That sting of being left out is real, and it often taps into a much deeper wound—the grief of the dream of motherhood that didn’t come true.

In this week’s episode of The 'So Now What?' Podcast, we’re unpacking this tender topic:

• Why parenthood seems to create a natural “club” that can leave you feeling like an outsider.
• How feelings of exclusion connect to the grief of childlessness after infertility.
• Personal stories of navigating shifting friendships and feeling left out of social circles.
• Strategies to stop taking it personally—even when it still stings.
• How to find connection and meaning on your own terms, without needing to fit into the “parent club.”

You’ll leave this episode with a new perspective, encouragement to rebuild relationships authentically, and a reminder that your life and connections are deeply meaningful—just as they are.

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🎧 Listen now and discover how to feel confident and connected—even without kids.

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Episode Summary:
Many people believe that time will naturally heal the pain of being childless after infertility, but what if that isn’t true? In this episode of The 'So Now What?' Podcast, Lana dives into a powerful story shared by a woman in her 60s, who has spent decades hoping time would ease the ache of childlessness—only to find herself still struggling with the same feelings of disconnection and loss.

Through this heartfelt and thought-provoking conversation, Lana unpacks why the belief that "time heals all wounds" can keep you feeling stuck and disconnected from the life you deserve. She explains how our brains use defense mechanisms to protect us from disappointment but often hold us back from creating the lives we truly want.

Lana also shares her own pivotal moment of realizing that the life she was living wasn’t the one she wanted and how taking intentional steps—rather than waiting for time to heal her—changed everything.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• Why the idea that "time will heal" might not be enough to overcome the ache of childlessness.
• How fear of disappointment keeps us stuck in a comfort zone that feels anything but comfortable.
• The power of deciding to create the life you want, even when it looks nothing like the life you envisioned.
• Real-life examples of women who moved from just "getting by" to thriving in their childless lives.

Connect with Lana:

• Website: www.LanaManikowski.com
• Instagram: @LanaManikowski
• Join the Thrive After Infertility Mastermind: Learn More
• Book a Thrive Call: Schedule Here

Take the Next Step:
If you’ve been telling yourself that time will eventually heal your wounds but still feel stuck, it’s time to take action. Imagine feeling confident, joyful, and connected one year from now. The life you want is possible—if you’re ready to stop waiting and start creating it today.

Don’t let another year pass by without taking a step toward thriving. Listen to this episode and discover how to begin your journey toward a fulfilling, childless life.

Share This Episode:
If this episode resonated with you or someone you know, share it on social media or send it directly to a friend who might need this message. Let’s keep the conversation going and support one another in thriving after infertility.

In this week’s episode of The So Now What? Podcast, we’re diving into a deeply relatable topic: the habit of self-blame when things don’t go as planned—especially when it comes to your fertility journey. If you’ve ever poured your heart and soul into IVF treatments, followed every protocol, and still didn’t achieve the outcome you dreamed of, this episode is for you.

Drawing parallels from a recent personal experience, I share how easy it is to feel like you’ve fallen short despite doing everything right. You’ll learn why blaming yourself only deepens the hurt and how to shift your focus toward celebrating your efforts instead of dwelling on what didn’t work out.

I’ll also share stories of women like you who have stopped measuring their worth by outcomes beyond their control and started creating meaningful milestones in their lives. From rediscovering old passions to building a life that feels true and fulfilling, you’ll hear what’s possible when you choose to stop shaming yourself and start showing up as your own greatest supporter.

Key Takeaways:

• Why self-blame feels natural after infertility but ultimately holds you back.

• The connection between shame and your sense of self-worth.

• How to rewrite the narrative of what success and fulfillment look like without children.

• The transformative power of compassion in how you speak to yourself.

Resources Mentioned:

• Free Resource: Top 27 Things People Say When You’re Childless and How to Respond.

Ready to Take the Next Step?
If this resonates with you, book a free Thrive Call. In just 45 minutes, we’ll create a plan to help you feel more fulfilled and confident about the future. Click here to book your Thrive Call now.

Connect With Me:

• Instagram: @lanamanikowski

• YouTube: Lana Manikowski

• TikTok: @lanamanikowski

You’ve worked so hard already—it’s time to create a life that makes you feel proud of who you are. 💜

Welcome to The So Now What? Podcast with Lana Manikowski. In this episode, we kick off the new year by exploring a life-changing question: How long are you willing to wait to believe that something is possible for you?

If you’ve left fertility treatments without the child you dreamed of—or if you’re feeling stuck in the aftermath of your infertility journey—this episode is for you.

You'll hear:

• Why dreaming again can feel impossible after infertility and how to shift that mindset.
• How to stop anchoring your future to the pain and disappointment of your past.
• What it means to reconnect with the version of you that exists today—a childless, determined woman capable of creating new dreams.
• The transformative question that helped Lana move forward and create a fulfilling, childless life.

Lana also introduces you to the Thrive After Infertility Mastermind, a 12-week program designed to help you reconnect with who you are today and build a life that feels meaningful without the milestones of motherhood. If support groups leave you feeling stuck, this growth-oriented program could be what you need to start thriving.

🎯 Take the first step: Book a free, 45-minute Thrive Call with Lana to create a personalized plan for your next chapter. No strings attached.

🌟 Plus, don’t miss Lana’s free resource: "The Top 27 Things People Say When You’re Childless—and How to Respond." Download it at LanaManikowski.com/thingspeoplesay.

Your dreams are still possible, and your future can feel fulfilling again. Tune in to this episode to take the first step toward believing in what’s possible for you.

💌 Connect with Lana:

• Website: LanaManikowski.com
• Instagram: @LanaManikowski
• YouTube: @lana.manikowski
• Podcast: Subscribe to The So Now What? Podcast wherever you listen.

✨ Remember: It's never too late to discover your meaning.

Merry Christmas to Those Who Celebrate

This week's episode of The "So Now What?" Podcast is here to guide you through the complexities of the holiday season, especially if you're navigating the challenges of being childless after infertility treatments. Christmas can be a beautiful season of nostalgia and tradition, but it can also bring unexpected emotions - grief, longing, and loneliness - if your journey to motherhood didn’t turn out as planned.

🎄 What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• How to acknowledge and honor your experiences this year.

• A unique and empowering exercise: writing a letter to Santa from your adult self.

The Letter to Santa Exercise
Instead of writing a wish list, this letter is an opportunity to reflect on the strength, growth, and accomplishments you've achieved throughout the year. Acknowledge the challenges you’ve faced and celebrate how far you’ve come. Then, look ahead to your hopes for the future.

✨ Highlights of Lana’s Letter to Santa:

• Recognizing the bravery to leave a corporate job and start a coaching career.

• Embracing life without motherhood at its center and finding joy in new connections.

• Asking for continued strength, self-compassion, and belief in a fulfilling future.

Now, it’s your turn. Grab a piece of paper or your journal and write your own letter to Santa. Let this be a moment of self-discovery, healing, and celebration.

Feeling Stuck? Book a Free Thrive Call
If you’re unsure how to move forward or need guidance as you process the loss of a dream of motherhood, Lana invites you to schedule a free 45-minute Thrive Call. You can book your’s here. This is your chance to connect with someone who truly understands where you are and help you create a plan to move forward.

🎁 Lana’s Gift to You
Download a free resource: The Top 27 Things People Say When You're Childless and How to Respond. It’s perfect for navigating those tricky holiday conversations. Get your copy here!

Let’s Stay Connected
Follow Lana on Instagram @lana.manikowski for more support and insights, and don’t forget to check your email for a replay of her recent masterclass, Handling the Holidays.

💖 As you navigate the holiday season, remember:
You are seen. You are strong. And it’s never too late to discover your meaning.

Merry Christmas, and see you next week! 🌟