Three Shades Deeper: Exploring Intimacy with Beth Darling

Welcome to the debut episode of Three Shades Deeper, a new segment where we take an even more intimate look at love, sex, and connection. Our first guest is Beth Darling—author, coach, and speaker—who delves into the nuances of intimacy, sharing insights from her book, The 5 Kinds of Intimacy: How to Keep Your Love Alive. Beth’s journey from a former divorce lawyer to a passionate advocate for deeper, more fulfilling relationships offers a unique perspective on cultivating lasting connections.

Join Anthony, Pinky, & Ava as they explore what true intimacy means, how to nurture it in both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, and why great sex starts long before the bedroom.

Whether you’re looking to strengthen emotional bonds, reignite passion, or navigate new dynamics, this conversation is one you won’t want to miss.

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Three Shades Of Grey | Website

Beth Darling | Website (Promo Code: 3SHADES)

5 Love Languages | Gary Chapman

Splash Takeovers

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Compersion—the warm, fuzzy feeling of joy when your partner experiences pleasure with someone else—is often called the “opposite of jealousy.” But what does it really mean, and how do you cultivate it in your non-monogamous relationships?

In this episode, Anthony, Pinky, and Ava dive into the concept of compersion; sharing personal stories, insights, and practical tips on how to navigate this unique emotion.

They discuss:
• What compersion is (and what it isn’t)
• The role of compersion in different types of non-monogamy
• How to develop compersion if it doesn’t come naturally
• Common challenges and how to work through them
• Real-life experiences of feeling (or struggling to feel) compersion

Whether compersion flows easily for you or feels like a work in progress, this episode offers perspectives to help you explore and deepen this often-misunderstood aspect of non-monogamous relationships.

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More Than Two (2nd Edition)

Inside Out 2

Discipline Equals Freedom | Jocko Willink

Naughty N'awlins

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Vulnerability is often seen as a risk, but in non-monogamy, it can be the key to deeper connection, trust, and growth.

In this episode, Pinky & Ava explore what it means to be vulnerable in relationships that challenge traditional norms.

Join us for an honest and raw conversation about the power of being “bare and unbound.” Whether you’re new to non-monogamy or a seasoned pro, this episode will inspire you to embrace the beauty of being truly seen.

Tune in now and let’s get vulnerable!

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In this episode, Anthony, Pinky, and Ava recap their unforgettable holiday bowling event. From Pinky becoming part of a couch (à la Half-Baked) to Ava offering herself as tribute (à la The Hunger Games); we’re sharing all the highlights (and strikes) from the night.

We also take a look back at our journey over the past year, reflecting on the incredible moments, lessons learned, and growth we’ve experienced. Plus, we’re sharing a sneak peek at what’s to come for the podcast and our adventures in non-monogamy.

A heartfelt thank you to everyone who has supported us along the way—you’ve made this journey so much more special. Tune in for laughs, insights, and a toast to the future!

Listen now and join the conversation!

LINKS:

Three Shades Of Grey | Website

More Than Two | Eve Rickert & Andrea Zanin

Exxxotica Expo

Naughty N'awlins

Three Shades Of Grey (Episode 6)

Splash Takeovers

Life Of Spice

UpsideDown Creations | Instagram

We Gotta Thing Podcast

Normalizing Non-Monogamy

Hump Day Quickies [sic] Confessions

Splash Mocha

Southwest Love Fest

Eroticon 2026

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Get ready for laughs, gasps, and maybe a few “Ohhhhhs” in this month's episode of Pinky and Ava’s Pajama Party! Ava drops a bombshell that she’s been holding onto for way too long—like, years-long—and it’s all about orgasms (yes, those orgasms).

We dive deep into Ava’s revelation, unpacking the hilarity, the honesty, and the sheer audacity of keeping a secret this big. Did Pinky see it coming? (Spoiler alert: absolutely not.)

Join us as we talk about the Big O, the small lies we tell ourselves, and why Ava’s secret is the ultimate plot twist. It’s a juicy mix of real talk, belly laughs, and a reminder that even in non-monogamy, there’s always something new to learn…or confess.

Warning: Listening may cause spontaneous giggling and side-eyeing your partner.

Tune in now—because the truth has never been this orgasmically funny!

LINKS:

Three Shades Of Grey | Website

Psychology Today | "The Case of the Female Orgasm," Revisited

Mama Gena | Website

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In this episode of Anthony, Pinky, & Ava dive into the concept of polysaturation—the moment when managing multiple partners in non-monogamy becomes overwhelming. While love and connection are infinite; time, energy, and emotional capacity are not.

Join us as we break down three concerns surrounding polysaturation:
1. Time Management
2. Emotional Burnout
3. Relationship Quality vs. Quantity

Through personal anecdotes, practical tips, and heartfelt advice, we explore how to recognize the signs of polysaturation, the benefits of setting limits, and strategies to maintain healthy, fulfilling connections.

If you’ve ever felt like your calendar is bursting or your emotional bandwidth is maxed out, this episode is for you. Learn how to navigate the delicate balance of love, time, and energy in your non-monogamous journey.

Tune in now and take a step toward a more intentional love life!

LINKS:

Three Shades Of Grey | Website

More Than Two | Franklin Veaux

Open Deeply | Kate Loree

Splash Takeovers | The Premier Couples Event

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In this episode of Pinky and Ava's Pajama Party, the tables are turned as Ava steps boldly into the spotlight. She’s on the prowl, and her latest adventure leads her to an unexpected discovery: someone who speaks Pinky!

What does it mean to "speak Pinky"? Ava reveals how she navigated this surprising connection and what made her sit up and take notice. Meanwhile, Pinky offers her perspective on this unique dynamic and how it feels to be understood in such a personal way.

Join us for laughter, revelations, and a story that’s sure to entertain. This episode is full of heart, humor, and the unexpected. Don’t miss it!

LINKS:

Three Shades Of Grey | Website

Feeld | A dating app for the curious

Splash Takeovers

Naughty N'awlins

Haulover Beach

Mama Gena

Normalizing Non-Monogamy

Mel Robbins | 9 Small Things....

Victoria's Secret | Beauty

Daisy | Marc Jacobs

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Slumber party, anyone? In this episode, we’re diving into one of the more complex aspects of non-monogamous relationships; sleepovers!!!

Spending the night can bring up a range of emotions, from excitement to anxiety, and we’re here to explore it all. We’ll look at how sleepovers impact feelings like jealousy, security, and connection, along with the unique pros and cons they bring.

While they can deepen bonds with other partners, they also come with challenges like balancing time, handling communication, and respecting boundaries.

We’ll share personal stories and insights on how we’ve navigated the highs and lows, offering a real look into the realities and rewards of non-monogamous sleepovers.

From swapping PJs to navigating morning routines with new faces, we’ve got all the playful, awkward, and heartwarming stories covered. Tune in to see how we keep it fun (and drama-free!)

Grab your snacks and listen now!!!

LINKS:

Three Shades Of Grey | Website

Hitachi Magic Wand | Website

"Intimacy Is About Truth..." quote | Taylor Jenkins Reid

"Intimacy is about truth. When you realize you can tell someone your truth, when you can show yourself to them, when you stand in front of them bare and their response is 'you're safe with me'- that's intimacy."

Taylor Jenkins Reid, The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo

"It Is Not Sex..."quote | Marge Piercy

"It is not sex that gives the pleaure, but the lover"

Marge Piercy, Gone To Soldiers

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