Courtney goes into the journey of the "awakened woman" and the importance of the feminine energy in sacred relationship, including the need to work through anger and frustration to cultivate a fierce love that can initiate and call forth the masculine. She emphasizes the importance of the feminine developing a strong relationship with her inner masculine, as well as being willing to be fiercely loving and truthful with the outer masculine partner. The speaker also addresses common hang-ups for the feminine, such as spilling emotions without discernment and struggling to hold space for the masculine's vulnerability. She encourages the feminine to practice assuming their partner has wisdom they cannot see, and to be open to being initiated and grown by the masculine. Courtney invites listeners to explore these themes further through her upcoming women's community.

(00:00:17) Welcome & Introduction
(00:01:28) The Power of Community
(00:02:21) The Feminine Journey & Why It Matters
(00:03:11) From Anger to Fierce Love
(00:03:57) Strengthening Our Inner Masculine
(00:04:33) My Personal Relationship Journey
(00:06:23) The Power of Relational Mirrors
(00:07:32) Honoring the Feminine Blueprint
(00:10:14) Sacred Rage: Catalyst or Destruction?
(00:14:14) Fiercely Loving the Masculine
(00:18:17) Working with Emotion: Not Just Spilling
(00:24:27) The Masculine in Vulnerability
(00:35:38) The Inner Masculine: Our Foundation
(00:47:10) Dreaming with the Masculine
(01:02:02) Seeing the Masculine’s Wisdom
(01:04:56) Final Thoughts & Community Offerings

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This episode explores how to move from needy, reactive, and controlling behaviors in relationships to sexually charged connection. It covers three key points: understanding young parts and how they can destroy relationships, recognizing when young parts are present, and learning how to get to know your wise adult self to cultivate sexually charged connection.

Key Topics:

1. Young Parts and Relationship Destruction

• Young, unmet parts from childhood can lead to needy, reactive, and controlling behaviors in relationships.
• These behaviors deplete sexual charge and intimacy, often leading to relationship breakdown.
• In past relationships, the speakers experienced this pattern of their young parts taking over, leading to demands, criticism, and emotional distance from their partners.

1. Recognizing Young Parts

• Emotionally charged expectations and demands on your partner are signs that young parts are driving the relationship.
• Young parts are based on unmet needs and wounds from childhood that get triggered in the present.
• The speakers share their personal journeys of learning to recognize and work with their young parts.

1. Cultivating the Wise Adult

• The key is to develop the capacity of the wise, mature adult self to hold and tend to the young parts.
• Practices like somatic work, journaling, ceremony, and men's/women's circles can help develop this wise adult presence.
• When the wise adult is online, it allows for more sexually charged, alive connection with a partner, as they can take responsibility for their own needs.
• The speakers share how this journey has transformed their relationship, allowing for deeper intimacy and aliveness.

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  (00:00) Welcome & Episode Overview
  (01:13) Needs, Young Parts & Wise Adult in Relationships
  (02:13) Longing for Connection in Early Marriage
  (02:52) Sexual Charge & Working With Inner Child Parts
  (03:43) Relating to Your Partner vs. Relating to the Child
  (04:33) When Needy, Reactive, and Controlling Patterns Emerge
  (05:26) Emotional Distance & Grieving Intimacy Loss
  (06:11) The Trap of Expecting a Partner to Fix Your Needs
  (08:05) Emotional Abuse, Blame & Gaslighting Dynamics
  (08:59) When Young Parts Drive the Bus
  (10:01) How Control Patterns Kill Sexual Polarity
  (12:11) Coping with Emotional Overload Through Numbing
  (13:04) Enabling vs. Empowering: Why Fixing Doesn’t Work
  (13:44) What Are Inner Child Parts?
  (16:07) Implicit Memory & Reacting from the Past
  (17:42) Separate Lives vs. Sexual Closeness
  (19:20) Discovering the Inner Child Through Mentorship
  (21:44) Bringing Vulnerability to Your Partner
  (23:10) Boundaries vs. Codependence in Conflict
  (27:38) Recognizing Emotionally Charged Expectations
  (28:25) Adult Communication vs. Child Part Reactivity
  (29:57) Learning to Parent Yourself First
  (32:20) Turning Towards Inner Parts for Real Intimacy
  (39:47) The Power of Men’s Circles & Inner Work
  (42:58) Wise Adult vs. Inner Child: What It Feels Like
  (48:14) Why Owning Your Parts is Sexy
  (53:06) Sexual Charge Through Personal Maturity
  (53:51) Couples Healing Success Story
  (55:59) Temple Nights & Sexual Polarity Practices
  (58:09) Real-Life Chemistry as Parents
  (58:45) Gratitude & The Notebook Realization
  (1:00:31) Join the Together Community
  (1:01:22) Closing Invitation to Connect

  
  

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The podcast discusses the importance of understanding and communicating one's needs in relationships. It covers different types of needs, how to effectively express them, and what to do when a partner is resistant to meeting those needs.

(00:00)Welcome to Together Podcast

(00:17)Exploring Sacred Relationships & Parenting

(01:15)The Skin Deep Card Game Experience

(01:58)Our Partnership with Skin Deep & Discount Code

(02:44)Introducing Our Online Community

(04:16)Success Stories from Our Community

(05:06)Today's Topic: Asking for What You Need

(06:06)Why Needs Are the Foundation of Relationships

(07:32)Client Stories: The Power of Clear Requests

(09:11)Teaching People How to Love You

(10:06)Understanding the Root of Unmet Needs

(12:52)Why Many of Us Struggle to Ask for Our Needs

(14:23)Two Types of Needs: Stabilizing vs. Thriving

(16:45)Helping Each Other Thrive in Relationships

(18:52)Three Categories of Needs: Personal, External & Relational

(22:14)Listening Inward: How to Identify Your Needs

(24:39)Asking for Your Needs in Relationships

(28:51)Why Expressing Needs is a Vulnerable Practice

(32:17)The Dance of Giving & Receiving Support

(40:06)The Feminine & Masculine Approach to Needs

(44:58)How to Make Requests Without Criticism

(51:49)What to Do When a Partner Resists Your Needs

(57:53)Balancing Acceptance & Expressing Needs

(1:05:06)The Key to Teaching Others How to Love You

(1:16:10)A Practical Exercise for Identifying Needs

(1:17:35)Final Thoughts & Community Invitation

The podcast emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility for teaching the people in one's life how to love and support them, and the transformative potential of this practice in relationships.

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