Trust is an essential part of the foundation in your marriage, but what happens when that foundation cracks—or even shatters?
Maybe you’ve been hurt by the person you thought would always protect your heart. Perhaps betrayal, harsh words, or neglect have left you questioning everything.
Can trust ever be rebuilt? Should you even try?
If you’ve found yourself asking these questions, you’re not alone. Broken trust can feel overwhelming, leaving you guarded, uncertain, and even hopeless.
But this doesn’t have to be the end of your story. There is hope for healing, even in the deepest wounds.
Wives, we know that you have every reason to not trust your husband again:
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You might get hurt again.
Even if your husband is making changes, doubts linger. What if he goes back to his old ways? What if he’s only changing to get something from me?
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Emotional wounds take time to heal.
Maybe arguments, harsh words, or emotional distance have left you wondering: If I trust him again, will the hurt just continue? [Dear wife, please know this is in reference to emotional hurt. If physical abuse is part of your story, your safety must come first. God’s heart breaks for your pain, and He wants you to be safe. Please seek help from trusted organizations or individuals who can support you.
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He has been Untrustworthy in the Past
Maybe your husband has broken your trust—whether it’s with finances, responsibilities, or even his faithfulness. Perhaps he’s been judgmental, leaving you feeling small and unseen. Or maybe his words have torn you down so often that you’ve built a wall to protect your heart.
Your feelings are valid. The wounds are real, and they cut deep.
But alongside these fears, could it also be worth asking: Are there unmet needs—on both sides—that are contributing to the pain?
Here is what we want to make sure all of our readers know: Wives & Husbands need different things to thrive in a marriage.
Wives need to feel safe, known, and whole-heartedly cherished.
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This isn’t just about physical safety; it’s emotional too. You need to feel that your thoughts, feelings, and dreams can be shared without fear of criticism or rejection. When this safety is missing, it’s hard to open your heart.
I wrote the above reasons why not to trust your husband or fears you might have… Because I understand what you’re going through at least to some degree. I have the privilege of walking alongside women who have “been there”. It’s a painful place to live: guarded, in fear, lonely… wounded. I hear your pain. I would love to speak with you in this episode and just see if by the end you are encouraged and even (prayerfully) gain hope that God could do a work in you. "May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him" Romans 15:13 We do serve a God that loves you, brings healing, and gives you a reason for hope. He really loves you. He really does bring hope.
We love you and are praying for you. Belah
PS - If you want to start making this change in your marriage but don’t know how, we would love to chat with you: delightym.com/cc
PPS - Here is a testimonial from a recent graduate:
"Before DYM there was a lot of tension and stress in our marriage and disconnect. My husband had affairs, and these were replayed constantly in my head even though one of them occurred 25 years ago. I did not trust him and had not forgiven him… After going through the program, the stress is gone, and replaying the affairs in my head is pretty much gone… We are both so much happier in our marriage! I have also started back on my spiritual journey with God that I have been away from for many years."
