Adult Children Recovery

The ACA Fellowship Text was anonymously written by ACA members and provides guidance on working the 12 -step ACA program, leading to recovery from the effects of growing up in an alcoholic or otherwise dysfunctional family. ACA WSO has adapted AA's steps (with permission from AA) to address the effects of childhood trauma and neglect and offer hope to ACAs worldwide.

Ten years ago, Janet Woititz broke new ground in our understanding of what it is to be an adult child of an alcoholic. Today, she re-examines the movement and its inclusion of adult children from various dysfunctional family backgrounds who share the same characteristics. After more than 10 years of working with ACoAs, she shares the recovery hints that she has found to work. Listen to Adult Children of Alcoholics to see where the journey began and for ideas on where to go from here.

Have you ever heard of your inner child? Well, this is the classic book that started it all. In 1987, Charlie Whitfield's breakthrough concept of the child within - that part of us which is truly alive, energetic, creative. and fulfilled - launched the inner child movement. Healing the Child Within describes how the inner child is lost to trauma and loss, and how by recovering it, we can heal the fear, confusion and unhappiness of adult life.

It is estimated that as many as 34 million people grew up in alcoholic homes. But what about the rest of us? What about families that had no alcoholism, but did have perfectionism, workaholism, compulsive overeating, intimacy problems, depression, problems in expressing feelings, plus all the other personality traits that can produce a family system much like an alcoholic one? Countless millions of us struggle with these kinds of dysfunctions every day, and until very recently we struggled alone.

The trauma and grief of growing up in an alcoholic or addicted family create a lifetime of baggage. If you grew up in an addicted family, the dysfunction that permeated every aspect of your childhood may have seemed "normal", and you may not even realize the level of affect alcohol still has on your adult life - whether or not you drink. If you are one of the millions of Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOAs), the cost of your childhood pain can be unbearable. You may have learned how to "survive", but are you "living" your life?

Following deaths, divorces, or the confusion of major relocation, many adults tell their children “don’t feel bad”. In fact, say the authors of the highly praised The Grief Recovery Handbook, feeling bad or sad is precisely the appropriate emotion attached to sad events. Encouraging a child to bypass grief without completion can cause unseen long-term damage.

The Complete ACOA Sourcebook is a compilation of three of Dr. Woititz's classic books, addressing head-on the symptoms of The Adult Children of Alcoholics syndrome and providing strategies for living a normal life as an adult. Listeners will find help for themselves: at home, in intimate relationships, and on the job. They will discover the reasons for the way they think, believe, and feel about themselves; ACOAs often feel isolated, have difficulty in relationships, in the workplace, and in feeling good about themselves.

From the author of the New York Times best seller Adult Children of Alcoholics - a wonderful book that affirms and encourages ACoAs by developing your skills for living. Imagine how good you would feel if: you could stand up for yourself without losing your temper; you could make a decision without second guessing yourself; and you didn't have that sense of worthlessness every time someone criticized you. In Lifeskills for Adult Children you can learn how to do these things and more.

This guide by Dr. Lawrence L James, an expert in alcoholism and trauma, offers not just knowledge but a shared understanding of the lifelong impact of adverse childhood experiences. Drawing from personal and professional experiences, Dr. James delves into the heart of the emotional and psychological turmoil faced by adult children of alcoholics.

As a child, we look up to our parents for support, love guidance & protection. They are the guiding wisdom for us to grow healthily in all areas of our lives. However, when your parents are immature. They are incapable of giving you the support you need. Instead, you become the parent they are seeking. Being grown up in this dynamic is a trauma. There are insecurities, a lack of love, and fears of being vulnerable. We develop unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with our emotions and mental beliefs. This could possibly result in a sabotaging life.

Recovery from growing up with dysfunctional adults as parents. One concept is, the things you used to survive as a kid are ruining your life as an adult. Overcome poor self image, find your authentic self, heal your soul, and become the person you want to be.

If you were raised by emotionally immature parents, you know that unpacking your childhood isn’t easy. You were made to feel like your feelings didn’t matter, while your parent or parents’ feelings were of paramount importance. You may have been neglected emotionally, gaslit, or had your boundaries crossed time and time again. In Emotionally Immature Parents: A Recovery Workbook for Adult Children, you’ll work through all of these experiences and more as you unpack your childhood, and practice creating boundaries with your parents in the present day.

Growing up in a home where there is addiction or relationship trauma puts a child at great risk for long-term, post-traumatic stress effects that adversely compromise adult relationships. Best-selling author, psychologist, and psychodramatist Tian Dayton examines this trauma through an exploration of the way the brain and body process frightening or painful emotions and experiences in childhood.

In this unforgettable multicultural coming-of-age narrative - based on the author's childhood in the 1960s - a young Cuban-Jewish immigrant girl is adjusting to her new life in New York City when her American dream is suddenly derailed. Ruthie's plight will intrigue listeners, and her powerful story of strength and resilience, full of color, light, and poignancy, will stay with them for a long time.

Do you find it hard to trust people? Perhaps you imagine how they might hurt you before you even begin to explore a relationship… Your trust issues have to do with your attachment style, and that’s something that cemented itself long ago… but you’re not attached to this forever: It’s something you can change. Find out how to be in adult relationships that are truly healthy and fulfilling. This engaging therapy workbook for adults is the relationship book you need to get you there.

Are you feeling overwhelming resentment toward your narcissistic mother? Do you feel frustrated because you can’t seem to find a way to heal and establish loving relationships with others? Award-winning author and narcissistic-abuse survivor Nanette Abigail knows a thing or two about this sensitive issue, laying out the crucial tools she used to create safe havens and find mental clarity for herself, and with her help, you can, too!

Narcissistic parenting is very damaging and insidious. The parenting is always about the parent and never about the child, never about you. You learn to function, but with many defenses, and often hyper-alert to criticism. This prevents you from living a relaxed joyful life. You become super competent, always able to cope and to please others. In your relationships, this makes you a constant people pleaser, very co-dependent, or else super independent or counter-dependent.

Don’t become the one thing you hate the most...“You could’ve done better. Why can’t you be more like your sibling”? “Stop overreacting. You’re always so sensitive”. “Why are you always so angry with me? We need to get you help”. “This is for your own good”. These are all common phrases you may hear from your mother. Guess what? She is likely to be a narcissist. All it takes is an understanding of your situation and the proper guidance to help move you down the path to recovery.

This nonfiction self-help book for young listeners with disordered eating and body-image problems delivers real talk about eating disorders and body image, tools and information for recovery, and suggestions for dealing with the media messages that contribute so much to disordered eating.

R.E.P.A.I.R. is Recognition, Entry, Process, Awareness, Insight, and Rhythm. Enter a six-stage program with your child to cross the Bridge of Recovery and make available a whole new world of hope. Uncover and acknowledge feelings by discovering emotion; build self-esteem and optimism with the "Magic Mirror"; discern healthy and unhealthy messages; learn self-soothing skills with "Dear Diary" letters to the inner-child; reveal inner states with picture drawing, break free from the confines of false shame; cultivate self-care skills and practices, and more on the road to healing.