Overcoming Codependency

In Addiction to Love, recovering love addict Susan Peabody explains the variety of ways this disorder plays out, from the obsessively doting love addict to the addict who can't disentangle from an unfulfilling, dead-end relationship. Peabody provides an in-depth and easy-to-follow recovery program for those suffering from this unhealthy and often dangerous addiction and explains how to create a loving, safe, and fulfilling relationship.

Do you ever feel neglected and used when your efforts aren't acknowledged?You try your best to fix other people's problems with everything you have, whether it's your time, money, or resources, because you've been doing it your whole life, and you're used to it. You hardly say no to helping people because if you do, you feel incredibly guilty, and you don't want to "lose their love". You're always coming to the rescue, and you sacrifice yourself over and over again. Codependency is the "need to be needed". It's needing other people to need you.

Hurtful criticism. Nasty "jokes". Angry outbursts for seemingly no reason. Verbal attacks toward your innocent comments. Stone-cold silent treatment. Manipulative actions to ensure you don't know if you're coming or going. Sound familiar? The phrase to summarize the above abhorrent treatment is narcissistic rage. The words "narcissistic" and "rage" are bad enough by themselves. When you merge them together, it becomes a force to be reckoned with; a volatile tornado that can emotionally destroy anything that dares enter its path.

If you're constantly feeling on edge, forever working to appease your spouse to little avail and feel like you're constantly being chipped away at with their abusive behavior, then I can understand how emotionally shattering it feels to live this way. If, in the same breath, it breaks your heart to even consider leaving them because you can't imagine life without them, then I can understand that feeling too - because I was trauma bonded to my abusive ex.

In this revised and updated edition of the original, groundbreaking book Overcoming Perfectionism: The Key to a Balanced Recovery, Smith describes the key differences between overt and covert perfectionism; the role early attachment, temperament, sibling relationships, and life circumstances play in developing this pattern; and how to shift toward a center of balance for a more fulfilling life.

For anyone struggling to break the cycle of addiction comes the groundbreaking approach from The Chopra Center, the world-renowned facility that has successfully helped thousands of people change their lives for the better. Chopra Center cofounder and medical director David Simon, M.D., and best-selling author and personal-growth expert Deepak Chopra outline their revolutionary approach - one that defies outmoded beliefs about recovery, particularly that people 'are' their addictions or that they are powerless to control them.

Written by Devin Blue, The Codependent Relationship takes the entire process of web entanglement and breaks it down to the very core; and then goes below the roots to expose the real foundation of how, why, where it all started, and what the processes are to finally remove it by helping yourself. The only way true self-help can be accomplished is to have a profound understanding of what it is that's causing the problems, obtaining the specific tools after identification, and finally implementing those customized tools to tackle the issue at its heart.

Welcome to *Beyond the Darkness: Identifying and Overcoming Gaslighting*. This book tackles the insidious form of emotional abuse known as gaslighting, which distorts your reality and leaves you feeling confused and isolated. We’ll help you recognize the subtle signs of gaslighting, understand its impact on your mental and emotional well-being, and provide practical strategies to rebuild your confidence and self-worth. Our goal is to guide you through the process of healing and empowerment, helping you break free from the shadows of gaslighting and step into a more authentic, confident future.

Narcissistic abuse is an insidious and deliberate crime, but armored with healthy tools, skills, and the knowledge to overcome, we can move forward with hope. Learning to overcome the devastation from narcissistic abuse will free you to heal, recover, and to take your life back.