Relationship Conflict

The Bible tells us that as far as it depends on us, we’re to be at peace with all people. But what happens when conflict is unavoidable? Here’s some good news: There are sociologically sound ways to deescalate conflict and win negotiations without acting like a jerk. Even better, you can actually emerge from conflicts with a stronger relationship with the person who was your adversary - whether it’s on the job, with your neighbor, in your marriage, or in a dark parking lot. When it comes to your current (or next) conflict, remember that resolution starts with de-escalation.

Difficult Conversations teaches you how to handle even the toughest conversations more effectively and with less anxiety. Based on 15 years of work at Harvard Negotiation Project and consultations with thousands of people, the authors answer the question: When people confront the conversations they dread the most, what works? Difficult Conversations walks you through a proven, concrete, step-by-step approach for understanding and conducting tough conversations.

Pourquoi se quereller avec les enfants quand il est possible de faire autrement ? Basé sur de récentes prises de conscience en psychologie, ce livre présente des façons innovatrices de résoudre les problèmes qu'on rencontre dans toute relation parent-enfant. Il met de l'avant une approche lucide, sensible et respectueuse, qui entraîne moins de stress et plus de gratification pour les parents comme pour les enfants. On y trouve des techniques à la fois concrètes, pratiques et surtout efficaces. Ça fonctionne, les résultats sont là!

For the last several years, Penn and Kim Holderness of The Holderness Family have done the hard maintenance and the research to learn how to fight better. With the help of their marriage coach Dr. Christopher Edmonston, they break down their biggest (and in some cases, funniest) fights. How did a question about chicken wings turn into a bra fight (no, not a bar fight; a bra fight)? How did a roll of toilet paper lead to tears, resentment, and a stint in the guest bedroom?

In From Triggered to Tranquil, Dr. Campbell shows how a remark, tone of voice, facial expression, or other interpersonal cue can activate a deep-seated memory of a past wound. By recognizing this dynamic, we can soothe our upset feelings, heal our childhood fears, resolve disagreements, and restore connections. Dr. Campbell offers a no-blame approach to conflicts and misunderstandings, empowering us to prevent triggers from ruining our relationships.

Estrangement from a family member is one of the most painful life experiences. It is devastating not only to the individuals directly involved - collateral damage can extend upward, downward, and across generations. More than 65 million Americans suffer such rifts, yet little guidance exists on how to cope with and overcome them. In this book, Karl Pillemer combines the advice of people who have successfully reconciled with powerful insights from social science research. The result is a unique guide to mending fractured families.

Positive parenting a strong-willed child is easier when you stop yelling at your kids. Show your love by dealing with anger, and reduce stress using simple self-help techniques to increase emotional intelligence for moms and dads. In this book, you will find a combination of simple yet highly effective self-help strategies to help you turn your angry reactions into a much calmer and considered way of being around your children, and much more able to deal calmly with each situation as it arises.

In his groundbreaking best seller The Gift of Fear, Gavin de Becker showed millions of readers that, like every creature on earth, human beings can predict violent behavior. Now, in this exclusive audio presentation of Protecting the Gift, de Becker empowers parents to fully trust their own intuition when it comes to their children's safety. In this indispensable resource, de Becker provides keen insights into the behavior and strategies of predators. He offers practical new steps to enhance children's safety at every age level: specific questions parents can ask to effectively screen and evaluate babysitters, daycare services, schools, and doctors; a "Test of 12" safety skills children need before being alone in public; warning signs to help parents protect children from sexual abuse; and how to keep teenage girls and boys from unsafe situations with peers and adults. De Becker also shatters the myth that rules like "Never talk to strangers" will keep your children safe. By showing what danger really looks like - as opposed to what we might imagine it looks like - de Becker gives parents freedom from many common worries and unwarranted fears.

Nate and Kaley Klemp were both successful in their careers, consulting for high-powered companies around the world. Their work as mindfulness and leadership experts, however, often fell to the wayside when they came home in the evening, only to end up fighting about fairness in their marriage. They believed in a model where each partner contributed equally and fairness ruled, but, in reality, they were finding that balance near impossible to achieve. From this frustration, they developed the idea of the 80/80 marriage, a new model for balancing career, family, and love.

I wrote this book to help you respond to anyone who tries to engage you with hostile emails, texts, Facebook postings, vicious rumors, or just plain difficult behavior. But before I explain how to write a BIFF response, I want to give you a brief understanding of how HCPs think.

Successful people confront well. They know that setting healthy boundaries improves relationships and can solve important problems. They have discovered that uncomfortable situations can be avoided or resolved through direct conversation. But most of us don't know how to have difficult conversations, and we see confrontation as scary or adversarial.

Your wife has been giving you signals to tell you something is wrong and one day, you wake up to a slap in the face. She says something along the lines of: I want to separate, I need some space to figure things out, I think we should divorce, I can’t do this anymore, I cheated on you, or the classic ‘I love you but I’m not in love with you.’

Parenting isn't easy. Discipline is one of the most difficult experiences reported by parents, and it makes sense why. You're having to impose rules and limitations on children who don't understand many of these choices are made with their best interests in mind. Instead of gratitude, you get attitude. Whether you're going through the terrible twos and threes or navigating life with a surly teenager, within these minutes you'll find strategies and tactics to help you with the most frustrating situations.

Are you trying to co-parent with a narcissist? Stuck in a high-conflict custody battle with your narcissistic ex? You are not alone. There are problems and issues that are common with someone disordered and disorderly. Learn Grace's Super-Smart Strategies for navigating the narcissist in Family Court. It all comes down to creating solid strategies.

Authentic Relating provides the framework to transform every aspect of relationships—starting with the one to ourselves. It is truth and compassion together in a journey to become more awake and aware in every relationship. With practice, we can learn to alchemize conflict into clarity, connection, and creativity.

Improve your personal relationships! Most people’s lives are complicated by family relationships. Birth order, our parents’ relationship, and the “rules” we were brought up with can affect our self-esteem and relationships with spouses, children, and other family members. Family of origin therapy and techniques can help you create better relationships.

In "Mourning the Living," author Melody Murray explores complex family and friendship dynamics in our divided world. With honesty, she shares her personal journey, shaped by her relationship with her sister, blending anecdotes and expert advice. Murray navigates strained relationships, offering strategies for healthy boundaries, managing expectations, and dealing with toxic individuals. Beyond her own story, the book sheds light on the growing issue of family estrangement due to societal divides.

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs has studied family dynamics for more than 30 years. As a senior pastor for nearly two decades, he builds on a foundation of strong biblical principles, walking the listener through an entirely new way to approach the family dynamic. Based on what the Bible says about parenting, this book focuses on achieving healthy family dynamics. Dr. Eggerichs offers unprecedented transparency from his wife and three adult children. It's all here in this eye-opening exploration of the biblical principles on parenting that can help make families function as God intended.

Brit Barron gets it. Those people who hurt us with their bigotry and ignorance . . . they’re often the people we love: They’re our friends, our parents, our grandparents, and even our religious leaders. And what we want is for them to grow, not to be canceled by an online mob. So what can it look like to strive for justice without causing new harm or giving up on the people we love? Barron shows that the way forward is to create a gracious and risky space for people to learn and evolve. We need to form the sorts of relationships where we can tell difficult truths, set boundaries, forgive, and share stories of our own failings.

People Skills is a communication-skills handbook that can help you eliminate these and other communication problems. Author Robert Bolton describes the twelve most common communication barriers, showing how these "roadblocks" damage relationships by increasing defensiveness, aggressiveness, or dependency. He explains how to acquire the ability to listen, assert yourself, resolve conflicts, and work out problems with others. These are skills that will help you communicate calmly, even in stressful emotionally charged situations.