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  • 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life

  • Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities
  • Written by: Bill Eddy
  • Narrated by: Tom Parks
  • Length: 5 hrs and 45 mins
  • 4.4 out of 5 stars (147 ratings)

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Written by: Bill Eddy
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Some difficult people aren't just hard to deal with - they're dangerous.

Do you know someone whose moods swing wildly? Do they act unreasonably suspicious or antagonistic? Do they blame others for their own problems?

When a high-conflict person has one of five common personality disorders - borderline, narcissistic, paranoid, antisocial, or histrionic - they can lash out in risky extremes of emotion and aggression. And once an HCP decides to target you, they're hard to shake.

But there are ways to protect yourself. Using empathy-driven conflict management techniques, Bill Eddy, a lawyer and therapist with extensive mediation experience, will teach you to:

  • Spot warning signs of the five high-conflict personalities in others and in yourself.
  • Manage relationships with HCPs at work and in your private life.
  • Safely avoid or end dangerous and stressful interactions with HCPs.

Filled with expert advice and real-life anecdotes, 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life is an essential guide to helping you escape negative relationships, build healthy connections, and safeguard your reputation and personal life in the process. And if you have a high-conflict personality, this book will help you help yourself.

©2018 Bill Eddy (P)2018 Brilliance Audio, Inc.
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So good I’m getting a hard coffee to have on hand

He lays out the specific characteristics so well, I’m getting a hard copy to keep as reference in how to deal with high conflict people on all levels.

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Clear and Concise

This book is an answer to my prayers! Can't wait to consume the other intriguing books by this author!

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Knowlege from this audible book can save you from these twisted people we all encounter.

I give five stars to this helpful #Audible1 Book. It’s format makes it easy to learn important points of dealing with these high conflict personalities. Some of these are counter intuitive, and are well illustrated with practical examples that will make your skin crawl. We all encounter these people in our lives. Now we can know how to deal with them in the least disruptive way for everyone. This knowledge truly is power

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A must read

It is important to understand these types of people. If you are nice and a decent good person you may not know these people exist but they do. It is a skill to learn in this day and age to deal with these toxic people. They may not ruin your life but if you are not aware they can make your life more difficult.

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interesting book

in my lifetime I've met all of the personalities listen in the title. this book is like armor to help you deal with that opressive or passive aggressive friend, boss, family member. worth the listen
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#audible1. Very timely!

Very glad I picked this up when it was on sale. Quite honestly, it would be well worth a credit.

This book describes High
-Conflict Personality Types and their likely behaviours with tips on how to deal with them. Notably, both Narcissistic personalities and Sociopathic personality types (quite often found together) are drawn to politics and other positions of power. Their ability to dazzle others by their confidence and charisma makes them especially dangerous; more so when they are indifferent to the suffering they may cause others. Their need for conflict is almost addictive as, unlike the rest of us, conflict calms them physiologically, rather than putting them in physical jeapardy. Hmmm, any real life examples spring to mind?
Yes, there are also other High-Conflict Personality types described in this book too, and I would urge readers to pay attention to these descriptions too.

All in all, a valuable reference book and one I shall listen to again and again.

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Very informative

Straight to the point, short and easy to follow. Diction is a little monotonous but information is worth the listen.

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Fascinating Book

A fantastic listen. Easy to understand and follow. Great if you have to deal with many different types of people.

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Outstanding

I was fully engaged while listening to the author of this book!! I learned a lot about how to handle different people who have high conflict personalities.

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Extremely useful for work and persona life!

Wow. I got this book on Audible for only $2.00, and I would have been willing to pay $20 if I had known how useful this would be. We have all dealt with people with high-conflict personalities at work and personally. When you can't avoid them, this book helps you identify them and approach them in a constructive manner. It is short, clear, and with very practical tips. Some useful points I learned included:
1. Characteristics of a high conflict personality: All or nothing thinking, intense emotions, extreme behaviour and threats, blaming others.
2. The interaction between HCPs and personality disorders.
3. Dealing with HCPs: BIFF - brief, informative, friendly and firm.
4. The CARS approach to working with HCPs: Connect with empathy, attention & respect, Analyze alternatives and options, Respond to misinformation and hostility, Set limits on high-conflict behaviour.

I will likely use the methods described in this book for the rest of my working life, although hopefully not often. I would highly recommend this book!

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