After the Affair, Third Edition
Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
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Xe Sands
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Janis A. Spring
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“Full of juicy, concrete advice to heal from an affair.” (Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, New York Times best-selling author of Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs)
From a clinical psychologist who served as a clinical supervisor in the Department of Psychology at Yale University, received the CPA’s award for Distinguished Contribution to the Practice of Psychology, and has treated couples and trained therapists for over four decades, this newly updated, award-winning book provides concrete, proven strategies for those who seek to survive their partner’s infidelity and to rebuild the relationship after an affair.
There is nothing quite like the devastation caused when a partner has been unfaithful. Hurt partners often experience a profound shattering of their familiar and valued sense of self and fall into a depression that can last for years. For the relationship, infidelity is often a death blow.
This new third edition of After the Affair, with more than 600,000 copies sold, helps guide both hurt and unfaithful partners through three stages of healing: normalizing the crisis, deciding whether to recommit to their partner, and rekindling trust and sexual intimacy. It includes a new section in which patients ask questions not addressed in previous editions, and the author provides concrete strategies for earning trust and forgiveness.
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- Desmond Soon
- 2021-11-15
Must Read! Very Accurate! Exactly what both Hurt and Unfaithful partners need to read
After 13 years of marriage. My wife And I both very strong minded entrepreneurs. We had our fair share if Devastating Experiences. Somehow we seemed to stick together, trust each other and not just survive but be stronger. Nothin. Would prepare me for the devastation of Discovering she was having a romantic emotional, sexting and sexual affair with a 62 year old man 18 years older right under my very nose. After all we had built it seemed we were living the fairytale life in success and material things.
Once discovered things got Crazy. Even Tim the point of use physically fighting hurting each other and police getting involved. Our family seemed doomed and the two elementary aged boys were the victims.
Luckily we sought a marriage and couples counselor who highly recommended we read this.
As the Hurt I can tell you this book was a breath of fresh air. It was previously what I needed to feel understood, Help me get a handle on the exhausting crazy emotions I was experiencing mentally, emotionally and even physiologically. I had no idea how much damage and trauma I had and was continuing to experience.
For any unfaithful partner if you read this and there is a glimmer, there is Hope! You are not all bad. This book is soooo helpful to help you to heal or at least be compassionate to the person you hurt. I suspect you are a good person just poor choices or caught up in the excitement or promise of something missing in your life like my wife felt. This is a perfect book to take seriously and try to read it with your partner.
My wife and I are on the road to recovery. It’s a long Road. But I am confident with the help of this book and the exercises, we will make us stronger.
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