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After the Tears

Written by: Lorie Dwinell, Jane Middleton-Moz
Narrated by: Lucinda Gainey
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The trauma and grief of growing up in an alcoholic or addicted family create a lifetime of baggage. If you grew up in an addicted family, the dysfunction that permeated every aspect of your childhood may have seemed "normal", and you may not even realize the level of affect alcohol still has on your adult life - whether or not you drink.

If you are one of the millions of Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOAs), the cost of your childhood pain can be unbearable. You may have learned how to "survive", but are you "living" your life? Do you fear normal conflict? Do you blame yourself when something goes wrong - even when it isn't your fault? Are you a chaos junkie? Or do you just fear relationships because they are too difficult or too painful?

Having devoted much of their careers to working with ACOAs, therapists Jane Middelton-Moz and Lorie Dwinell now take a deeper look into the origin and cost of childhood pain, as well as the grief resolution process that is integral to recovery. This revised and expanded edition of their groundbreaking 1986 hit After the Tears discusses the latest research and offers insights on living a good life despite a dysfunctional childhood by tackling issues such as intimacy, sibling relationships, codependency, breaking the alcoholic pattern, building a relationship with the inner child, forgiveness, and opening a window to spirituality.

©1986, 2010 Jane Middelton-Moz and Lorie Dwinell (P)2013 Audible, Inc.

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Wow!

I stopped counting the amount of times I said ‘OMG’ ….
I highly recommend this book. I’ve been sharing with my family and anyone I know that could. benefit from reading it. Just amazing!
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Relatable read for all ACoAs

Wow, what can I say!? This book was recommended to me by a therapist about 6 years ago as I was going through leaving my alcoholic/addict husband. Yes, I grew up in a alcoholic home, but once I left home, I decided my past would not define me and refused to be a victim. Fast forward to the dysfunction of my marriage when it hit me that I consciously choose to put myself right back in that position of living with an alcoholic, and how the hell did that happen!? I am finally ready to dig in and try to figure out why I make the choices I do, in hopes of finally thriving vs. surviving. This book has been a great starting point and was somewhat of a comfort to see I am not alone and there is hope.

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Extremely helpful

Explains situations very clearly and helped me relate. Wonderful and softly read. Great book, would recommend.

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