Autism in Heels
The Untold Story of a Female Life on the Spectrum
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Jennifer O'Toole
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Jennifer Cook O'Toole
About this listen
This intimate memoir reveals the woman inside one of autism’s most prominent figures, Jennifer O'Toole. At the age of 35, Jennifer was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome, and for the first time in her life, things made sense. Now, she exposes the constant struggle between carefully crafted persona and authentic existence, editing the autism script with wit, candor, passion, and power. Her journey is one of reverse-self-discovery not only as an Aspie but - more importantly - as a thoroughly modern woman.
Beyond being a memoir, Autism in Heels is a love letter to all women. It’s a conversation starter, a game-changer, and a firsthand account of what it is to walk in Jennifer's shoes (especially those iconic red stilettos).
Whether it's bad perms or body image, sexuality or self-esteem, Jennifer's journey is as much a human journey as one on the spectrum. Because autism looks a bit different in pink, most girls and women who fit the profile are not identified, facing years of avoidable anxiety, eating disorders, volatile relationships, self-harm, and stunted independence. Jennifer has been there, too. Autism in Heels takes that message mainstream.
From her own struggles and self-discovery, she has built an empire of empowerment, inspiring women the world over to realize they aren't mistakes. They are misunderstood miracles.
©2018 Jennifer Cook O'Toole (P)2020 Dreamscape Media, LLCYou may also enjoy...
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The Library Book
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On the morning of April 29, 1986, a fire alarm sounded in the Los Angeles Public Library. As the moments passed, the patrons and staff who had cleared out of the building realized this was not the usual false alarm. As one fireman recounted later, “Once that first stack got going, it was good-bye, Charlie.” The fire was disastrous: It reached 2,000 degrees and burned for more than seven hours. By the time it was extinguished, it had consumed 400,000 books and damaged 700,000 more.
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Beautiful story, painful narration
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- C. Smith
- 2022-08-15
absolutely perfect
this book was everything I didn't even know I needed. I laughed, I cried, and then I cried some more. She gets me and it will help me get my children and figure out myself. Thank you for writing this and sharing it with the world.
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- Dominique Gougeon
- 2020-11-16
beautiful book
it was a wonderfull book to read. Giving valuable insight to anyone who has, think they have or are around someone with autism, or for anyone who enjoys beautifully rendered life stories full of hope.
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- Bobbijo
- 2023-06-28
Integral to the cannon of autism reads
I rarely give 5 stars, but I had a feeling by chapter 3 this one would be a 5, and it is. I am going to listen to this book many times.
Jennie has a way of describing that is visceral and all encompassing. This book is passionately educational.
I have ready many books on autism and didn't expect to find so much new information, and am grateful for it.
I did expect some perspective on lived experiences, and definitely got that, very richly; thank you.
Now I am going to go check out her other books.
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- Denise Dercksen
- 2023-04-04
Finally an Autism Story I can relate too
As a female bellydancer, performer, and actress…and a mom to 3 intelligent children, also on the spectrum - I really needed to hear this (more similar to my own) perspective / synopsis of the life of another feminine girly girl on the spectrum!
Nothing made sense, until everything made sense when I got validation with my Autism + ADHD diagnosis’ at the age of 36, and this book explains why. :)
Thank you Jennifer!
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- Molly
- 2021-08-01
amazingly put. she puts into words what I can't.
as a 30 year old female who just got my own ASD diagnosis after my five children got theirs, this book and Jennifer's story has both brought me to tears and just made me feel so NOT alone. so many of our stories are similar and I'm still in awe. although I wish there were more anwsers on how to help with many of the problems and traumas discussed, I know that's not the purpose of her book. it's still nice to not feel, as she put it "like a failure at being human." I am asking all my loved ones to now read/listen to it to help them further understand me, and she was able to word things in ways I could never. as a fellow red haired, mother getting her diagnoses in her adult years after years of wondering what is wrong with me... Jennifer you truly have touched me. xoxo
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- Kapowe13
- 2021-08-23
Beautifully written
Absolutely heartbreaking and beautiful. I can't seem to stop crying. I feel heard, and seen. a must read for anyone with ASD or for those who know someone with it.
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- Anonymous User
- 2021-06-09
This memoir was everything I needed
If you are on the spectrum this book has many great tips and tools to navigate the social realities and help with understanding who you are.
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- Jenny Chiu
- 2021-05-25
LOVE THIS WOMAN 💓
An amazing, eye opening, treasure of a book from start to finish. I wish I had found this book sooner.
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- Gillian
- 2023-02-17
biography and diagnosis
whether you want to learn about autism in afab/women or just want to hear about an amazing woman herself. this is the story for you. I laughed, I cried, I wrote and talked more about my inner workings than I have in years. thank you for creating something that opens doors for so many to grow with you and take up the torch.
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- Alan Shearsmith
- 2022-10-10
LOVED IT
I liked that it was narrated by the author. Her words spoke to me and I resonated with so much. I had many "aha" moments and times where tears would fall down my cheeks as I connected with the author. I highly recommend this book!
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