Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare
How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself
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Julie McKay
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Shahida Arabi
About this listen
Although clinical research has been conducted on narcissism as a disorder, less is known about its effects on victims who are in toxic relationships with partners with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Individuals with this disorder engage in chronic devaluation and manipulation of their partners, a psychological and emotional phenomenon known as "narcissistic abuse". Unfortunately, the full extent of what narcissistic abuse entails is not taught in any psychology class or diagnostic manual. Since pathological narcissists are unlikely to seek treatment for their disorder, it is difficult to pinpoint what exactly makes a narcissistic abuser tick and the manipulative tactics they use, which are likely to differ from those of other types of abusers as they are more covert and underhanded. What is even more baffling is the addiction we form with our narcissistic abusers, created by biochemical bonds and trauma bonds that are also unlike any other relationship we experience.
Using the latest scientific research as well as thousands of survivor accounts, this book will explore how the emotional manipulation tactics of narcissistic and antisocial partners affect those around them, particularly with regards to its cumulative socioemotional and psychological effects on the victim. It will also address questions such as: What successful techniques, tools, and healing modalities (both traditional and alternative) are available to survivors who have been ridiculed, manipulated, verbally abused, and subject to psychological warfare? What can survivors do to better engage in self-love and self-care? How can they forge the path to healthier relationships, especially if they've been a victim of narcissistic abuse by multiple people or raised by a narcissist? Most importantly, how can they use their experiences of narcissistic abuse to empower themselves towards personal development? What can their interactions with a narcissistic abuser teach them about themselves, their relationship patterns, and the wounds that still need to be healed in order to move forward into the happy relationships and victorious lives they do deserve?
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- Kimingram02
- 2021-05-03
So helpful
I found this extremely comforting and validating after experiencing a narcissist abusive relationship. I highly recommend to anyone who is or has experienced this.
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- Lady Kandorah
- 2019-08-28
A must have for healing after narcissistic abuse.
A powerful book that shines a light on Narcissistic abuse victims and extremely helpful understanding on how narcissistic abuse unfolds, and ways to save yourself from being sucked back into abuse patterns.
I recommend this book for all survivors of abuse, what you learn is invaluable. ❤
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- Anita Komonski
- 2021-04-30
Unnecessarily long
Perhaps better as an actual book, most chapters end with A LOT of personal quotes from various survivors, and it would be great if the web resources were listed somewhere on paper as a resource.
Overall, very comprehensive book, I’ve read many.
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- J8675309
- 2019-12-12
Thank you!!
Your awesome, I read the book then listened to it while leaving my covert narcissistic partner driving from one province to another, gave me the strength to know why I have to keep moving forward as turning around is not an option. This book has given me the motivation I needed and strength in breaking the cycle!! Thanks Shahida, knowledge is power and you inspire me!
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- Genna M.
- 2022-08-13
Read This if You Want to Recover
It's a big book to read and I just never found the time but listening to the audio book on my commute to and from work was incredible! I was able to tackle the length. I highly HIGHLY recommend this book to anyone who needs a little more encouragement towards healing. These tips and tricks are invaluable. The narration is easy to listen to. 10/10 Recommended.
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- Viktoriya
- 2023-01-10
Not great as an audio book
Some good info for sure, but extremely hard to listen to with 5-10 minutes of links being read at a time. I use audio books in settings where I will not have access to phone (to skip/fast-forward) and it was quite painful having to sit through "https column forward slash forward slash..." read numerously.
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- Amazon Customer
- 2022-08-11
Beautifully Explained and Life Advise
This book is beautifully written and has life advise when dealing with narcissistic abuse. I love how detailed it explains every detail and provides tips for healing and dealing with the narcissist. I live by these rules now and have been surrounded by narcissistic abuse all my life. It's taken a horrible toll on my health. I feel good after reading this book. I will definitely come back to listen to it again in the future. I have also told everyone I know about it who I am sure will benefit from this book.
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- ironhidewoodworks
- 2019-10-27
Mostly pointed to romantic relationships
I liked that there was some great tips and helped me realize some of the patterns I have with the narcissist in my life.
My problem was that the book was mostly about romantic relationships and my narcissist isn’t a romantic partner.
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- veronique
- 2020-07-08
would totally recommend
I loved it. Very helpful and empowering. Helped me understand and explain what I went through. I couldn't stop listening!
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- Dr. M.
- 2020-01-28
Best summary on NPD, related abuse and therapy
By far the best and most comprehensive summary on narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic abuse and recovery/therapy.
Contains lots of great references for further info as well.
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