Blindsided by His Betrayal: Surviving the Shock of Your Husband's Infidelity
Surviving Infidelity, Advice from a Marriage Therapist, Book 1
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Narrated by:
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Cathi Colas
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Written by:
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Caroline Madden PhD
About this listen
Your husband cheated on you, and now you don't recognize yourself.
You used to be so together, so trusting. Now you're falling apart and doing things you would have never even considered doing, such as:
- Obsessively checking your husband's email and Facebook accounts
- Going through his cell phone history while he is in the shower
- Freaking out if he is 10 minutes late (or if you text him and he doesn't reply right away)
- Questioning whether you are attractive
- After a rare happy moment with your husband, getting really, really angry and raging at him out of nowhere
You're scared. Angry. Obsessive. Devastated.
One minute, you hope your marriage will make it. The next minute, you want to kill him. (And the other woman, too.)
All of this makes you feel like you are losing it. Sometimes you worry that you are going crazy. You wonder if you'll ever be the same again.
You are not crazy! You are having a normal reaction to being blindsided by your husband's betrayal! Your reactions are completely rational and expected responses to such a painful experience.
This book will help you figure out what to do as you deal with these explosive emotions. It's important that you understand that your feelings—erratic and unpredictable as they may be—are normal. You need to understand why you feel the things you feel and what to do with those feelings.
Dr. Caroline Madden, infidelity expert and marriage therapist describes:
- Posttraumatic Affair Syndrome (PTAS)
- Seven actions you want to take but should not (as they may backfire horribly)
- Understand the thoughts that plague you
- Twelve actions that will help you get back to the woman you were
- The stupid things your husband says and why he says it
This book does not take a position on whether or not you should stay in your marriage.
©2016 Caroline Madden (P)2018 CAROLINE MADDENYou may also enjoy...
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- Annica Menzies
- 2020-09-01
If you've been cheated on you need this
this really helped me understand the nuclear bomb of emotions that came with my husband's infidelity. I was feeling like I was going crazy and for somebody to say," no, that is completely normal, here is how you can cope now amd start to work through it" was incredible. I would hug Dr madden in person if I could.
I'm taking my power back.
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