Born for Love
Why Empathy Is Essential - and Endangered
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Narrated by:
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Corey M. Snow
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Written by:
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Bruce D. Perry
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Maia Szalavitz
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From birth, when babies' fingers instinctively cling to those of adults, their bodies and brains seek an intimate connection - a bond made possible by empathy, the remarkable ability to love and to share the feelings of others. In this unforgettable book, award-winning science journalist Maia Szalavitz and renowned child psychiatrist Bruce D. Perry explain how empathy develops, why it is essential both to human happiness and for a functional society, and how it is threatened in a modern world.
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"Born for Love: A Profound Exploration of the Transformative Power of Love" - A Thought-Provoking and Essential Read
"Born for Love" by Dr. Bruce Perry, MD, PhD, and co-authored by Maia Szalavitz, is a thought-provoking exploration of the importance of love in shaping our lives. Drawing upon his extensive experience as a psychiatrist and expert in childhood trauma, Perry combines scientific research with real-life anecdotes to argue that love is not just a luxury but a biological necessity for human beings. The book highlights the detrimental effects of neglect and abuse, emphasizing the long-lasting consequences they can have on an individual's ability to form healthy relationships. Perry's expertise in trauma-informed care is evident throughout the book, as he provides practical strategies for promoting healing and resilience. While some readers may find the scientific explanations dense at times, Perry's clear and concise writing style, along with relatable examples, helps make complex concepts more accessible. "Born for Love" is a valuable resource for parents, educators, mental health professionals, and anyone seeking a deeper understanding of the transformative power of love. It serves as a call to action to prioritize the emotional well-being of children and create a more compassionate and loving world.
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