Fair Play
A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live)
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Eve Rodsky
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Eve Rodsky
About this listen
A Reese Witherspoon x Hello Sunshine Book Club Pick
"A hands-on, real talk guide for navigating the hot-button issues that so many families struggle with." (Reese Witherspoon)
Tired, stressed, and in need of more help from your partner? Imagine running your household (and life!) in a new way....
It started with the Sh*t I Do List. Tired of being the "shefault" parent responsible for all aspects of her busy household, Eve Rodsky counted up all the unpaid, invisible work she was doing for her family - and then sent that list to her husband, asking for things to change. His response was...underwhelming. Rodsky realized that simply identifying the issue of unequal labor on the home front wasn't enough: She needed a solution to this universal problem. Her sanity, identity, career, and marriage depended on it.
The result is Fair Play: a time- and anxiety-saving system that offers couples a completely new way to divvy up chores and responsibilities. Rodsky interviewed more than 500 men and women from all walks of life to figure out what the invisible work in a family actually entails and how to get it all done efficiently. With four easy-to-follow rules, 100 household tasks, and a series of conversation starters for you and your partner, Fair Play helps you prioritize what's important to your family and who should take the lead on every chore from laundry to homework to dinner.
"Winning" this game means rebalancing your home life, reigniting your relationship with your significant other, and reclaiming your Unicorn Space - as in, the time to develop the skills and passions that keep you interested and interesting. Stop drowning in to-dos and lose some of that invisible workload that's pulling you down. Are you ready to try Fair Play? Let's deal you in.
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What the critics say
One of Forbes Best Books of 2020
"A hands-on strategy to divide tasks and achieve household harmony." (Real Simple)
"[An] impressive debut.... Couples searching for ways to better manage their families and achieve a balance of domestic work will benefit from Rodsky's actionable strategy." (Publishers Weekly)
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- Nicole
- 2023-06-08
Loved it!
I’m not usually an audiobook person but this was like listening to a podcast! I loved it and my husband and I are meeting this week to put it into practice!
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- Richard Rogers
- 2022-07-06
For wives to read and teach
the system itself seems like a great idea, but this book is not for the husband to read. It has some vast generilizations and puts men down quite a bit, and almost assumes that every husband is a white colllar guy. I bit my tongue for my wife as i listened. tge message is solid, but it is definitely written for the female audience only.
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- Kelly S
- 2023-10-27
This is going to be a game changer
I’ve never finished a book so fast! I can’t wait to dive into the new approach with my husband!
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- good shopper
- 2022-01-31
It's a good approach and worth the read
This was very helpful - not all the answers, but definitely, a great place to start. She focuses on how marriages can be more of an equal team for the benefit of their family's health and quality of life. Rodsky has some great insight into how to approach a partner in the spirit of respect, not of just dumping all the housework on your husband.
If you don't want to spend the extra $$ on the card game - just print them from the website www.fairplaylife.com/the-cards
I see a lot of negative reviews here focusing on how Rodsky is presenting too much of a feminist view or too much complaining about men. I am curious why someone would buy this book in the first place if they had a problem with the ideology of equality of the sexes (a.k.a. Feminism). It's also important to note that she includes many examples of men who are doing their best, and how some women can contribute to the problem of equal partnerships with family and responsibilities. Somehow this part of the book is being overlooked by many negative reviews.
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- Angelica
- 2022-05-03
As a stay at home mom this is awesome
It is well written and reasoned with research to back it up. Will be starting this system with husband to help with the mental load of being a stay at home mom with 3 young kids and a husband that travels out of town for work
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- mel
- 2022-09-17
Important but presented poorly
I love the subject matter of this book as well as the message that It portrayed but if I have to be honest every time I paused this book I found that I was in a state of rage at the Injustice of it all. I found that not conducive for growth. I couldn't finish it, made me too angry all the time.
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