Fierce Self-Compassion
How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive
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Kristin Neff
About this listen
The author of Self-Compassion follows up her groundbreaking book with new ideas that expand our notion of self-kindness and its capacity to transform our lives, showing women how to balance tender self-acceptance with fierce action to claim their power and change the world.
Kristin Neff changed how we talk about self-care with her enormously popular first book, Self-Compassion. Now, 10 years and many studies later, she expands her body of work to explore a brand-new take on self-compassion. Although kindness and self-acceptance allow us to be with ourselves as we are, in all our glorious imperfection, the desire to alleviate suffering at the heart of this mindset isn't always gentle, sometimes it's fierce. We must also act courageously in order to protect ourselves from harm and injustice, say no to others so we can meet our own needs, and motivate necessary change in ourselves and society.
Gender roles demand that women be soft and nurturing, not angry or powerful. But like yin and yang, the energies of fierce and tender self-compassion must be balanced for wholeness and well-being. Drawing on a wealth of research, her personal life story and empirically supported practices, Neff demonstrates how women can use fierce and tender self-compassion to succeed in the workplace, engage in caregiving without burning out, be authentic in relationships, and end the silence around sexual harassment and abuse. Most women intuitively recognize fierceness as part of their true nature, but have been discouraged from developing it. Women must reclaim their power in order to create a healthier society and find lasting happiness.
In this wise, caring, and enlightening book, Neff shows women how to reclaim balance within themselves, so they can help restore balance in the world.
©2021 Kristin Neff (P)2021 HarperCollins PublishersYou may also enjoy...
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- Mara
- 2022-04-14
life changing
I honestly cannot express how much this book affected me! I highly recommend it!
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- StonyClimbs
- 2021-09-01
Narrator's tone activates soothing self compassion
The narrator mirrors the text so well that it actively encourages soothing self compassion in a way that opened my mind. Kristin wrote an excellent self exploring guide without the pop psychology you might be used to when reading wellness texts. I enjoyed this new title.
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- karine hamel
- 2021-06-30
Energizing Feminine confidence!
Bravo ! A must read for woman in 2021. Written with a lots of confidence and wisdom.
Kristen is so transparent about her own life. We feel she is devoted to raise other women.
Merci!
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- Nancy Cahill
- 2023-09-14
Thanks Kristin!
This book was so helpful to understand why women are so burned out for try to be seen in this patriarchal world.
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- Debora Abreu
- 2022-08-15
Great book for women
Good reading for women but I don’t think all people are prepared to listen so profound material.
But it changed a lot inside of me.
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- Dani
- 2023-01-01
PSA: HARD COPY PREFERABLE
This book, like so many others in this genre, contains sections for meditation and exercises. It’s written for the hard copy experience. I feel I can’t fully enjoy this book and all it has to offer via audiobook and I wish more people had noted this in the reviews. I get migraines so understand that some people need to do audiobooks to be able to indulge in reading, but if you can consume hard copies, you absolutely should go that way with this book.
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- Katie Meilleur
- 2023-01-25
Judgmental and biased
While there were some good points to consider on self compassion, it was not at all what I was expecting or looking for. With a strong taste of bitterness and resentment towards all men woven throughout the book, the stories were biased and unbalanced for the reader. Most of the people I have been traumatized by have been women and am involved a healthy loving supportive marriage to a man who empowers and encourages me to be all that I can as a woman. The book tackles the subjects covered from a biased and unbalanced perspective with only vague references to other types of relationships or experiences that could easily have been addressed with a focus on self compassion. As it is, I am left feeling a distaste, rather than feeling safe and therefore less able to appropriate the self compassionate ideas due to the bitter tone of the overall sense of the book. Perhaps the author should work on some self compassion and healing and forgiveness for wounds that have left a bitter scar. My sincerest condolences to whatever event left such a deep traumatic wound.
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- Mariana Calabrese
- 2022-04-09
Important but repetitive
There are many important messages in this book that are absolutely worth listening to. Cultivating both tender and fierce self compassion as well as not being ashamed of our anger will stay with me as important lessons. I just don't know how many times you can say the same things over and over again, or go through outcomes of studies with the basic same results as if it's a lit review. The narrator is a great speaker, but lulls me off to not paying attention. I have a couple of hours left of the book, but not sure when I will return to it
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- Just me
- 2022-12-17
I wanted to love it
I figured I didn’t need to read reviews, since I absolutely love Kristin Neff and her other books, and her website! I respect her greatly. I listened to the sample, which was great. But when you buy the book, she starts off with all of these woke talking points and it immediately turned me off. I almost returned it, but I figure I’ll give it a go and hope this book isn’t just a lecture on privilege and climate change and sexism. Those things are important, but they’re not what I bought this book for. I mean, seriously, what does climate change have to do with building self compassion? 🤣 it just instantly made me think and feel that this book was just going to be focused on virtue signalling, and not on helping me become fiercely self compassionate. I’ll give it another try because I really do love Kristin, but that turned me SO off.
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- drobineau
- 2024-08-08
Monotone voice
The book is great. Not the narrator. Her voice is very monotone, flat, drawn out and boring. Not at all soothing. She talks in slow motion.
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