Fight Right
How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection
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Narrated by:
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Roy Worley
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Kiiri Sandy
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Written by:
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Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD
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John Gottman PhD
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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • LEARN THE 5 SECRETS OF SUCCESSFUL COUPLES
Conflict is the top reason couples seek help—but it's also an opportunity for greater intimacy, deeper connection, and lasting love according to this essential guide from the world’s leading relationship scientists and authors of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and Eight Dates.
“An indispensable resource that couples will use over and over again.”—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
How we fight predicts the future of our relationships. Most of us blunder into conflict without knowing what we are really fighting about and then quickly become overwhelmed by physiological responses we can’t control and emotions we don’t anticipate. The truth is the happiest and most successful couples fight—all the time. Conflict is human, and necessary.
Through decades of research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman, founders of the world-famous Love Lab, have identified the five common mistakes we make when we are at odds. In Fight Right, we learn the five secrets that help us to get back on track and harness conflict to build stronger, healthier relationships. With kindness, clarity, and a deep understanding of the struggles couples are going through, the Gottmans show us that we each have a unique conflict culture, borne of how we were raised and how we experienced past relationships, and they take us through all the possible combinations, from Avoiders, to Validators, to Volatiles, and how they can best work together.
Fight Right is an essential resource that will help couples escape the win-or-lose mentality in favor of a collaborative approach: calming down, staying connected, and really understanding, so that our fights can bring us closer.
©2024 Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD and John Gottman, PhD (P)2024 Random House AudioYou may also enjoy...
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What the critics say
“Conflict is inevitable in any relationship—the trick is knowing how to handle it. Difficulty navigating conflict is one of the most common reasons that couples seek help from books and professionals. They're looking for guidance, but there is surprisingly little practical, accessible information out there. So who better than John and Julie Gottman to give couples the important tools they need? This book will be an indispensable resource that couples will use over and over again.”—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and co-host of the “Dear Therapists” podcast
"Couples need skills to fight better, and FIGHT RIGHT is the book that all couples will want to read. Dr. John and Julie Gottman have crafted a masterful guide about the importance of fighting and the skills needed to grow from having necessary disputes. The Gottmans have spent years studying and teaching couples, and in FIGHT RIGHT, they are teaching couples how to do it right."—Nedra Glover Tawwab, New York Times bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace
“In a relationship, your goal is to help your partner find their purpose. John and Julie Gottman, with their decades of experience working intimately with couples, know that the road to finding your purpose and fulfilling your dreams is often through conflict. If we don’t learn how to do conflict well, we’re going to be stuck, disconnected, and unfulfilled. Couples today really need clear, compassionate, and science-based guidance in this arena, and as the world’s leading love experts, the Gottmans are the trusted voice to guide them.”—Jay Shetty, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Think Like a Monk
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- R. JS
- 2024-05-27
The guide of all guides
Highly recommend if you’re single or not, some incredibly important tools everyone should have, and written in a way that anyone can understand. Boys, study this ;)
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- Erin Tigchelaar
- 2024-02-07
Great material, maybe not best presented by audio
Excellent content, but comes off as a bit repetitive in this format -- the Quick Guides are not helpful checklists to return to in an Audible download, maybe. The alternating male and female presenters both have warm, pleasant voices and the sample fights are performed very plausibly. It would be nice if they didn't say the key phrases over and over in the same manner to attempt to make them memorable, but again, this is more an issue with the format, I think, rather than the narration. The data from the lab is fascinating, and converted into very practical (and sometimes counterintuitive) advice that almost any couple could use. Carathatic for anybody trying to understand a past relationship or negotiate fights in a current one!
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- Justin Riehl
- 2025-01-21
Great advice for anyone looking to improve their relationship with their spouse.
I like how John and Julie uses their own fights as examples as well as others. It is helpful to know that they themselves use, and from time to time forget to use the steps in here.
I have used many of the techniques in this during some of my own recent fights and they have helped, with assistance of our marriage counselor, to move the needle to fighting better.
When using the ideas, techniques it is important to remember that it is about getting better not perfection and reflecting on how the conversations could be better next time.
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- Andi
- 2024-03-06
Mind Blown!!
Everyone should read this book!! This book should be taught in Grade 12 school!! I was blown away by it and bought the hardcover to highlight certain spots that I will be referring to in my future!! This book will be my wedding present from now on!!
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