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Growing Up as the Scapegoat to Narcissistic Parents
A Guide to Healing
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Todd Lewandowski
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Jay Reid
About this listen
This book is for those who suffered as the scapegoat child to a narcissistic parent. The scapegoat child is emotionally deprived, devalued and trapped by the parent. The child comes to believe they are defective and undeserving. These beliefs can plague the individual into adulthood.
Scapegoating reflects the narcissistic parent’s own emotional disturbance–not the child’s.
Healing is possible for scapegoat survivors! New healthy beliefs about oneself can be established. This book explains how to heal with the three pillars of recovery:
- Making sense of the narcissistic abuse so you know it was not your fault
- Creating distance from narcissistic abusers in your life today
- Living in defiance of the narcissist's rules
Listeners will learn to apply these pillars in their own lives and reclaim the quality of life they deserve.
©2023 Jay Reid (P)2023 Jay ReidYou may also enjoy...
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- jacqueline
- 2024-05-23
Excellent audible!
Story line was great and narrators voice was very pleasing. Very informative and had so many ahaa moments. If you grew up with a narcissistic parent I highly recommend this book. It made everything make sense.
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- Anonymous User
- 2023-12-31
Best read ever!!
Thank you Jay Reid for such an amazing, well put together, life changing experience.
Another life changed for sure. (-:
Bless you, your words, and your efforts.
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- Van de Plassche
- 2024-02-28
Life-changing book for scapegoated children of narcissistic parents
The best and most influential book on the topic of parental narcissistic abuse I have ever came across.
This is a book that will change your view and experience of yourself if you were unfortunate enough to be scapegoated by one of your parents.
It has brought so much light to my behaviours, feelings and thoughts it is hard to describe.
My most sincere thanks to Jay for publishing his insights. He has greatly and positively influenced my life & for that I am infinitely grateful.
Do yourself a favour and buy his book! You will see yourself in a totally different light and finally understand the twilight zone you experienced! Good luck and wishing you much healing ❤️
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- Arual
- 2024-04-25
Spot On!
Oh just when you think you have healed all this family stuff …only to discover more things which still need healing. I laughed out loud at the part, when the mom is furiously angry and screaming at the kids … the phone rings.. she answers it …’oh hi … how are you?’ in the sweetest voice ever.. that happened in our house ALL the time! This book pretty much summed up my family! And, I was definitely the scapegoat. One thing this book did do for me was help me realize how much healing I have done already ..still healing … which maybe never ends … but very affirming that I have come a long way!
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- Anonymous User
- 2023-07-22
Clarity and relief
This book really helped give me clarity. It provided great examples of toxic narcissistic family dynamics. This allowed me to get clarity of toxic patterns. The new clarity has allowed me to understand the past, deal with the present appropriately and most of all..get excited about the future. Thank you!
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- Lucia Klein
- 2023-09-29
Life changing
I liked the clear approach of the author by means of examples. It makes easier to understand certain scenarios or attitudes some may have experienced, and the examples are quite validating, specially if you had to deal with loads of gaslighting. I totally recommend this book.
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- Sara
- 2024-12-12
Outstanding
I've read so many books on the subject of narcissism and narcissistic abuse - this book is the very best by far.
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