Hold On to Your Kids
Why Parents Need to Matter More than Peers
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Narrated by:
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Gabor Maté MD
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Daniel Maté
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Gordon Neufeld
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Gabor Maté MD
About this listen
This parenting classic on one of the most disturbing and misunderstood trends of our time—peers replacing parents in the lives of children—is now more relevant than ever. The latest edition includes new material on how social media and video game culture are affecting our children, and what parents can do.
In Hold On to Your Kids, Dr. Neufeld and Dr. Maté explore the phenomenon of peer orientation: the troubling tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction—for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behavior. But peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; it is an escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until Hold On to Your Kids. Once understood, it becomes self-evident—as do the solutions.
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Game changer. Life changer book.
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What the critics say
“Hold on to Your Kids blows in from Canada like a Blue Northern, bringing us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting. The authors integrate psychology, anthropology, neurology and their own personal and professional experiences as they examine the 'context' of parenting today. This is a worthy book with practical implications for mom and dad.”—Dr. Mary Pipher, author of Reviving Ophelia and The Shelter of Each Other
“With the benefit of 30 years of research and experience, Neufeld has crafted a coherent, compelling theory of child development that will cause an immediate frisson of recognition and acceptance in its readers. His approach has the power to change, if not save, the lives of our children.”—National Post
“Hold on to Your Kids is visionary book that goes beyond the usual explanations to illuminate a crisis of unrecognized proportions. The authors show us how we are losing contact with our children and how this loss undermines their development and threatens the very fabric of society. Most importantly they offer, through concrete examples and clear suggestions, practical help for parents to fulfill their instinctual roles. A brilliant and well written book, one to be taken seriously, very seriously.”—Peter A. Levine Ph.D., International teacher and author of the bestselling books: Waking the Tiger, Healing Trauma and It Won’t Hurt Forever: Guiding Your Child through Trauma
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- Ness
- 2023-01-11
A must!
This book gives a deep understanding of the importance if attachment for our children! It’s life changing!!
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- Taylor Kuhn
- 2024-04-04
Imperative info for raising children
This book was so full of great information in regards to help our children to grow up to be psychologically, emotionally, and just overall healthy adults. It also provides many strategies to try and protect our kids from the many different aspects of society that steal their childhood and prevent maturation.
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- Tracy C.
- 2021-01-04
A great book parenting for teens!
did take a long time for me to finish, although I enjoyed the narrator and the teenage stories. has me thinking how I can be more considerate of their needs and holding balance in our lives.
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- Jennifer Hawkins
- 2019-07-05
Great book
loved this book, very informative and eye opening. I'm looking forward to trying to use these technics to improve my relationship with my children.
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- Nicolas Morganti
- 2024-07-20
Eye Opening. Must read.
Best parenting book I have read. In a world where we constantly want kids to be close to peers and be independent this book really helps show the right balance. It has helped me as a parent. Loved the real life example shared and how you can take action. Must read for all caregivers.
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- Paola
- 2021-04-07
must read for every parent
The information and concepts contained in this book are of utmost importance in the healthy development of the future generations in this times if technological and social overload.
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- kalvincline
- 2019-06-24
A must read for parents.
Amazing. A must read for every parent. I can't say enough good things about this book. This will change the way I parent. Recommend, Recommend, Recommend!!
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- Lynda Foreman
- 2021-12-05
Great information but too long
I love the information in this book, but the first 13 chapters dragged on. I would love for my spouse to listen too, but may just summarize peer orientation and tell him to just listen from chapter 14 onwards.
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- Anonymous User
- 2022-04-20
Life changing perspectives and ideas all can learn from.
Absolutely amazing. I understand myself, my childhood and all the people around me so much better now.
A must read for all parents/people.
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- Polina
- 2020-11-09
Should be a requirement for every parent
This work is vital in our society, if every person that has or works with children read this book - our society would permanently be changed for the better.
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