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How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women
- Narrated by: Terrence Real
- Length: 5 hrs
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Publisher's Summary
The current crisis is a product of changing gender roles, Real explains. In the past 30 years, women's roles have changed radically and men's have not. For the first time, adult women are asking their partners to access the very skills - emotional sensitivity, expressiveness, responsibility - that most men have had stamped out of them as boys. Patriarchal culture does not raise boys to be intimate; it raises them to be competitive performers. At the same time, girls are taught to be compliant and accommodating. The result is that men feel bewildered and unappreciated while women feel unheard and resentful. Conventional therapy, which reinforces "traditional" male roles, has failed. The demand for intimacy in marriage must be met with new skills.
Real draws on myth, literature, film, and heartrending stories of the men and women he treats to illustrate his compelling analysis. Breaking taboos about love, marriage, and passion, Real not only reconstructs gender roles but also shows that patriarchy's idealized model of love is impossibly flawed. He teaches partners to replace it with a love that acknowledges imperfections, and he then provides five Core Relational Skills designed to help every couple reach their full potential. Innovative, powerful, and eminently helpful, How Can I Get Through to You? is the book that every couple has been waiting for - and our culture needs.
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- Dan S.
- 2022-04-18
Excellent
Whether or not you agree with Real's specific model, his work is provocative. Envisioning a plain on which men and women rest side by side as equals in the world may be unlikely, but making this a reality in our closest intimate relationships is a necessity. Secure attachment is the foundation of personal, familial, and generational health.
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- Stephanie
- 2018-08-02
another great read
another one of those I did not want to stop listening till it was finished!
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- Anonymous User
- 2023-10-01
Honest, Kind, & Necessary
Thank you. I need these types of book on my life to help me (and US) trudge the road to happy destiny.
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- Christian Taylor
- 2021-07-25
repetitive message
this book keeps relayin the same, generic message and does not offer any helpful or practical, applicable suggestions.
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