How to Be an Adult in Relationships
The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
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David Richo
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David Richo
About this listen
"Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." In this audiobook, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships - one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life:
- Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships
- Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are
- Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament
- Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways
- Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control
When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts - what Richo calls the five A's - form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A's, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation.
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- Sarah Schiele
- 2023-11-06
So glad I found this!
Will be listening to this book more than once. So many things I needed to hear! I wish many of my friends would read it.
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- Little Ms Magnet
- 2022-12-06
every human should read this
This book is huge.
the knowledge is incredible. told in a way that feels good and is easy to understand.
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- Harold Navarrete
- 2023-05-06
Great Reading
This is a book rich of a lot of insight and Practices, a good reminder of living
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- Adim
- 2024-01-13
Not too shabby…
I personally liked it - a beautiful blend of poetic prose with a solid background in many psychotherapy areas. A good mix of “gravy” and “meat.” Will likely purchase a physical copy for my practice.
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- Liz Dyz
- 2023-09-27
Empowering and brings upon the best of what it is to love
Helpful for all the relationships in your life, by being clear on what it is to love - your soul is awoken
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- Christopher K Wallace
- 2022-12-14
good stuff
David gets a lot of it right. worthwhile listen sure to add something to your understanding of relationships
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- Ashley
- 2020-12-31
Paaaaainful performance.
He speaks so slowly and halts in weird places. It made if really difficult to follow. Putting it on 1.3 speed helped a bit.
In terms of content some good gems if a bit woo-ey
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- Jean-Sebastien Dupuis
- 2019-10-06
Amazingly insightful
This book just changed the way I see myself, my wife and our relationship.
It just changed my life for the better, I can’t wait to read it again.
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- Judy L.
- 2023-02-18
It Nourishes A Healthy Mindset…Or To Attain One
To be picked up again and again with each experience one comes by. This is one of the most profound self-developmental reads.
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- SM
- 2021-04-15
Must read!
Delves deep into the psychology of people, from our childhood and how it affects are adult choices in relationships, but more importantly how to learn from that and improve our current relationships and heal from the past mistakes. Amazing!!!
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