How to Break Your Addiction to a Person
When - and Why - Love Doesn't Work
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Sean Pratt
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Howard M. Halpern PhD
About this listen
Are you unable to leave a love relationship even though it gives you more pain than joy? Your judgment and self-respect tell you to end it, but still, to your dismay, you hang on. You are addicted - to a person. Now there is an insightful, step-by-step guide to breaking that addiction - and surviving the split. Drawing on dozens of provocative case histories, psychotherapist Howard Halpern explains to you:
- Why you can get addicted to a person
- Why and how you may try to deceive yourself
- How you can recognize the symptoms of a bad relationship
- How to deal with the power moves and guilt trips your partner uses to hold you
- Why strong feelings of jealousy do not mean you are in love
- How to get through the agonizing breakup period - without going back
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- goldilox27
- 2022-03-07
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Loved this book. looked forward to each time I listened. I wanted more. it's like he knew what I was going through.
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- Amazon Customer
- 2021-07-17
Psychological redemption
Excellent book that unravels the stupidity of additive thoughts that result in self j flicked misery and psychological trauma. For me personally, once something is dissected and laid bare, the resulting clarity and awakening from the illusion of the mistaken beliefs is incredibly redeeming. That clarity dispels the pain and suffering almost completely like a mist that vaporizes in sunlight. It’s because all pain and suffering is caused by beliefs we hold to be true. “We should’ve stayed together”, “I should’ve been better or they should’ve been better” or “if this hadn’t happened then we would be happily together” etc - these thoughts and ideas cause ya immense suffering because we believe them to be true. Once you are shown that hey, it’s all Effie bollocks - and you are convinced that it is indeed all bollocks - how can it cause you grief? If any of this resonates for you then get the book and use bookmarks because there are sections you will want to hear many many times.
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- Anonymous
- 2022-05-15
Game changing book!!
this was a game changer for me. great book. highly recommend. It woke me up to the addiction to people and the roots behind the attachment.
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- Megbo Meggins
- 2019-08-07
For anyone who can't let go
I've always found myself overattached to relationships that weren't making me happy, and after yet another devastating breakup wanted to understand why. Although the basic premise of this book is "it's because of your childhood", the author breaks it down with many practical examples that illustrate the various ways our addiction to attachment can manifest. He covers the "why" as well as the "what do I do now?" Listening to this book was a series of lightbulb moments for me. I recommend this book to anyone who wonders why it's so hard for them to let people go.
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- Catalina Marulanda
- 2022-12-11
Fantastic book
This book has helped me tremendously in healing from a painful breakup. anyone who has ever struggled with painful relationships needs to read/listen to this book.
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- J D
- 2022-03-24
Solid Book!
This is a great book to understand yourself and your connections with others on a deeper level.
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- Taz
- 2025-01-01
Finally!
This book is exactly what I needed to hear. Halpern dives deep into why we get stuck in unhealthy relationships, and honestly, it hit home harder than I expected.
One concept that stood out was “love hunger.” Halpern describes it as this deep, unmet need for love and validation that can often trace back to childhood. It’s that feeling of craving someone’s approval or affection so badly that you’re willing to tolerate things you shouldn’t—things like neglect, disrespect, or even emotional harm.
This book is real. Breaking free from an unhealthy relationship isn’t easy, and Halpern doesn’t pretend it is. He lays out why it’s so hard to leave and why we often stay longer than we should. He provides hope to break the cycle of addictive relationships.
If you’re reeling and feel you just can’t leave or live without a person, I can’t recommend this book enough. It’s about understanding why you feel the way you do and giving yourself the tools to move forward.
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- Dr Paula Moore
- 2022-09-27
Change your relationship to relationships
This has been one of the best books on attachment theory and relationships, that I have ever read. If you read this book actively, as I have done (keeping a journal and doing the exercises), it has the power to transform your future love relationships. The way the author uses real dialogue from real people (his clients) allowed me to relate to the material. I highly recommend the audible version. This book needs to be fully experienced!
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- ms
- 2023-01-21
Brilliant, helped me a lot
Helped me understand why I’m drawn to unhealthy relationships. I felt I saw myself much more clearly. Definitinetly will help break the tension and control I confused as passion and love
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