I Want This to Work
An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age
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Elizabeth Earnshaw LMFT CGT
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Elizabeth Earnshaw LMFT CGT
About this listen
“Elizabeth Earnshaw’s gentle guidance will help any type of couple, whether they are dealing with small day-to-day problems or long-standing conflicts. She takes an accessible approach to couples therapy on the page, making these relationship tools feel easy - and even fun.” (Lori Gottlieb, LMFT, New York Times best-selling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone)
A contemporary, culturally inclusive, and easy-to-digest relationship guide for the modern age
Today’s generation is changing the rules about committed relationships - and looking to create more meaning within their lives. We are more selective before getting married, with more diverse families and family structures, and we’ve seen a whopping 18 percent drop in divorce rates. In this new environment, what couples need more than ever are effective, flexible tools to communicate, navigate hard times, and create deeper connections with their partners.
Elizabeth Earnshaw is here to help. The renowned Gottman therapist, founder of A Better Life Therapy, and influential Instagram therapist behind @lizlistens has helped to transform countless relationships. With I Want This to Work, she presents for today’s generation the most effective and proven steps for relationship success.
“We’re in a cultural moment,” she says, “where people are hungry to absorb the principles for healthy relationships. This audiobook answers that call.”
Here, couples will learn how to work with the three challenges they must tackle to repair and strengthen their relationships: conflict, healing, and connection. They’ll learn fundamental principles including:
- Why it’s not working
- Creating space that makes it safe to connect
- How to navigate hot conversations
- The five-part relationship system
- Busting the romantic notion that our better half “completes” us
- Growing up and growing out - how both your early years and the social connections you make as an adult influence your relational beliefs, feelings, and patterns
In a supportive and relatable voice, Elizabeth simplifies complex concepts and provides core insights, exercises, and reflections to take these tested principles into real life.
Culturally tuned in, LGBTQIA+ friendly, and for both married and unmarried couples, this audiobook brings us an accessible guide to relationship healing and creating enduring intimacy.
©2021 Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, CGT (P)2021 Sounds TrueYou may also enjoy...
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What the critics say
“This book is an essential guide for couples who desire to build vital relationship skills, particularly during challenging moments. The tools for growth and learning are written in a warm and no-nonsense manner. I Want This to Work can be used as a stand-alone resource or in tandem with therapy. The book will help couples gain a unique understanding of how to talk about and work through hard things.” (Nedra Tawwab, LCSW, therapist and New York Times best-selling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace)
“Elizabeth is hands down one of the most professional clinicians I’ve had the privilege of working with. The work she does on relational health is incredibly impactful because it’s delivered in a way that’s both digestible and compassionate.” (Dr. Nicole LePera, New York Times best-selling author of How to Do the Work and founder of @the.holistic.psychologist)
“I Want This to Work does a beautiful job of exploring the many issues the modern-day couple faces, while normalizing the reader’s experience by offering examples of couples working through similar challenges. A necessary read for anyone wanting to improve the quality of their relationships.” (Vienna Pharaon, LMFT, owner of Mindful Marriage & Family Therapy, founder of @mindfulmft, and relationship expert at Motherly)